Thursday
Jun092011
Fun with #Facebook Chat: Epic Facepalm
Thursday, June 9, 2011 at 7:05PMLooky looky the message I just got on Facebook ...
First off, hahahahaaha that's actually hilarious. Had no idea.
Second of all, as I stated previously today by posting this conversation from OKC - courting a chickadee with the physical doesn't work unless it's on something like Adult Friend Finder. For reals, on OKC I'm looking for a mate in various capacities, and on Facebook ... dude, I'm just being me.
Men are biologically predisposed to have the desire to spread their seed. Women on the other hand release oxytocin when they orgasm creating a bond - hence why the female orgasm to begin with is based on emotion (read the breakdown here).
It just doesn't work, man.
At all.
What so ever.
#facepalm
Reader Comments (4)
Nooooo! Don't force me to associate Ironhide with sex! YOU'RE RUINING MY CHILDHOOD! *Sob*
No, a man's body does release oxytocin. However it is at a lower level in men than women.
Which is fair because men are far more susceptible to vasopressin than women and on top of that you guys have little tricks in your DNA like the higher octaves of your voices that mimic those of a baby's octaves which trigger our hardwired desire to protect its source. But all that deals with pair-bonding and what keeps people in relationships not initial attraction.
You certainly aren't immune from the physical components to attraction. There's certainly research that shows your desire to copulate with men is based in large part on the width of their shoulders, slope of their forehead, and jawline. Then you gals also look for outward social cues like a man's ability to be generous or be a good provider (cough, golddiggers) because you want to evaluate our ability to be an adequate parent.
One needs to separate who we are attracted to for sexual purposes and those we are attracted to as a long term mate. How the two things deviate among men and women and where there are parallels is kind of whack.
dude, this is baller. i dont think i knew that about oxytocin in males. I thought that was the reason why women bonded and men didn't.
i have heard that about jawlines - similar to what men do with women's hips!! Men like the hippie women because they are more likely to be fertile and reproduce.
AHHH!!! This stuff fascinates me!!
Oxytocin is produced by both men and women during sex but the chemistry of the other hormones comes into play. Testosterone seems to diminish oxy's effects as where estrogen enhances it and since guys have varrying levels of testosterone the amount he makes plays a role at how effective the oxytocin on its own is at helping to form bonds. Oxy will still effect men over time the more they have sex with the same girl provided there aren't other inhibitors like alcohol in his system.
Vasopressin though is the game changer. It makes a guy treat a chick like the future mother of his babies. It increases our propensity to beat up guys who come sniffing around, it decreases our desire to be promiscuous, and super bonds a guy to that one girl. I just don't know why its production doesn't seem to have the same immediate results like oxy.
So i don't disagree that guys want to screw every other girl but that strictly base instinct stuff. And you're entirely right with the oxy point but you'd have to of already moved on to another stage of boy-girl relations to get to have the opportunity for that bonding to last beyond a handful of hours. If I was trying to come to conclusions about the basis for attraction and you want to figure more than who you'd bone then I would stratify the whole dating/mating thing into progressing stages because one thing has to build on top of the other for the next level to happen.
Did that make sense?