Social Protocol: Is friending a friend of someone you're #dating ever okay?

A little while back, I was looking at this guy I had been dating's profile on Facebook and noticed something suspicious. We had like 15 friends in common. Now, of course, I had friended some of his friends after we met and hung out IRL. A few of them even liked TNTML on Facebook ... was totally awesome. 

However, there was one friend in particular I saw that he added - and I KNEW KNEW KNEW KNEW KNEW KNEW KNEEWWWWW they had never met, or spoken to, and he only added him because he knew we were crazy close and was doing the creepy "I feel like you're pushing me away, so I'm going to be a creeper and creep up on your shiznat online." Of course, my friends are rockstars ... they just saw that I knew him, and honestly never thought twice about it. Every guy I've ever dated that has said, oh I love what you do ... I'm totally fine with it .... are the ones I have to watch out the most for. I don't focus on words, I focus on actions. His were a walking, talking contradiction. He would claim how independent he was, when I could just SMELL how much I intimidated him at times. Don't get me wrong, I am a crazy passionate bitch. I don't think I'd want to date me ... but COME ON!!!!! I sincerely felt incredibly violated. I wasn't sure if I was just taking things too far, or what. So, I turned to my Facebook wall, and asked the nerds what they thought. 

It was such a popular post, that I also turned to TNTML's resident dating guide, Jordan Harbinger, creator of The Art of Charm and asked for help. Here's what Jordan had to say:

So, it seems like I wasn't too far off for feeling so violated. I literally unfriended el nerderino, unfollowed, and untwitter-listed as well. Even though I lead life like an open book, it doesn't mean I don't have boundaries - and will enforce them when I feel they have been violated.

Social Protocol: If you're dating someone, DO NOT friend their friends if you haven't met them IRL, and have otherwise no healthy reason for friending said individual. I'm all about uniting people, and being a connector - however, friending my best guy friend to prolly see if he had ever hit it was so far from cool, its not even funny.

For the record, no he never hit it. Had you just asked me, you would have known.