#WTF: About last night ... can I get a rundown?
Wednesday, March 9, 2011 at 12:27AM
How do these things happen? I keep asking myself - I swear I don't plan this shit, but yah, just gonna go with it.
SOOOOOO, tonight - I had a date with a duderino who calls himself "Hank Scorpio." Literally - go through the posts. We met off OKC, he became a reader of the site, and sufficently posted and commented enough to the point where I said uncle, and alas! on a date we went.
First off, bless this dudes heart. Amazing dude, really nice guy - could have told you in the first :30 seconds of sitting down he had the saddest eyes I've ever seen. Mind you too, I had the most bat shit, emotionally charged day, and I sat there - looked into the eyes of this attractive, incredibly sweet human being and felt overwhelmingly sad; life is reflective. He said he didn't understand what I meant when I said that, but in that very moment, I felt this feeling that words could never convey. Everything in the universe is comprised of energy and matter. We can't deny that, it's a scientific fact. Period end of sentence. How could someone ever sit there and think that if you're on a date, or a job interview - the person on the other side of that table would not be able to pick up on it? It's cool, I used to be that way as well - a REALLY difficult thing to understand, but from my side of the table it was incredibly matter of fact. I just wanted to give him a hug. And dude, totally not saying that in a condescending way - I really don't know how to properly articulate it other than he needed to clear his cache. We are not our past. That, again, took me a REALLY long time to understand - but let it all go! It doesn't matter! Stop holding onto it! It's like the quote from Buddha:
"Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned."
Just let it go. And trust, this comes from a bitch that's been through some crazy crazy crazy shit - just let it all go. Life is SO much better on the other side!! BAHH!!!
FTR however, he did say the funniest thing ever! I was talking about the fact that all I ever have to do is post on something, and then run my SEO work for that day based upon the psychology of the end user actually searching for the exact something I want them to find. I was saying in this case about a guy that I wanted. I said yeah, all I have to do is post on it, and then run my SEO based upon those factors. Without skipping a beat he turns and says,
"did you just equate fate to how you manage your search engine optimization?"
Yes! I said! As we ALLLLL know, there is no fate. You create your own destiny. Why not give it a little push by understanding SEO. HAHAHAAHAHAH!!! DUDE! I can get SO specific on just the type of people I want to find me - ANNNNDDD by making myself so available in social media, I can also make the conversation happen. Find me on Twitter here! Facebook here! Foursquare here! and OkCupid here! *whew*
me and matt! AHHHHHHH!! THENNNNNNNNNNNN ... I got a text on the way over to meet Hank, that we had tickets to see @VerticalHorizon and meet the duderinos after. 10 degrees of separation - knew a duderino, that knew a duderino. Amazing! (EVEN bumped into TNTML's Dusty at the show! Smallest. World. Ever.) Got us free tickets, etc. But said to me after, yahhhh! We'll totally get you to meet them, had no idea you were such a fan, etc. Me, being the storyteller in real time tweeted that, hey, about to meet the band! How awesome! Peeps wrote back - amazing! THEENNNNN, the duderino takes his chickadee and her friend up there to meet them, comes back to me and says - sorry, Matt wasn't feeling it. I'm TOTALLY not trying to be that chick, trust, they put on an AH-MAZING show - free tickets to boot - but seriously? What wasn't he feeling? I understand in the past, that PR shit might have worked, but welcome to social media! We tweet, post on Facebook and appropriately update IN REAL TIME! You can't pull this shit, man! And I ain't hating - again, amazing show, this guy is totes awesome sauce, but I feel like this is an area of opportunity for bands out there in general that nerdy people like me are out there. We're tweeting and posting in real time, and if something like this doesn't go the way that you said earlier it would, you're not only saying no to the person there - but to all of the people that follow them in real time. It's a paradigm shift. He said to me after that he owes me, and yada yada - bless his heart babe, you don't owe me anything. Just really dug this particular band, been really listening to their shiznat and even posted on it over and over and over and over and over specifically for about the last month or so, but clearly been a fan since just about day one. It presents a unique opportunity for bands in real time to connect with their fans and their fans audiences!!! THAT is social media marketing!! BAHHH!!! Best of times, and worst of times el duderinos!
Either way - like I said, fucking AWESOME show! I was in the front row, and because of the panda on my head - haha, Matt came up first and shook my hand. Really fucking rad dude, man! Really great show, but again - liability for the tweeters in the audience that could be telling their own stories in real time. Expectations shouldn't be set if something isn't going to happen. Ya know what i mean jelly bean???
Amazeballs though all around. Thanks a heapppppppppp to the @TheRoxy!! Oh and looky looky what I spotted!!!
Have you guys seen the TNTML and @AnnieAuto Ustream? Cause uh, yeah, it's pretty fucking AWESOME!!!!
ANNNDDDD if you wanna buy the single from @iamfrench and @kaleycuoco it's available over yonder. Totes just sayin that too, cause all of the proceeds go to the humane society ... cause uh, yah! Chris and Kaley are awesome like that. And uh, yah ...
#thatisall
Reader Comments (5)
Geez....you make it sound like I was about to burst into tears at any moment.
And is it wrong that when I read your post, all I can think of is Paul Rudd as Kunu saying "you look like you got a little pain behind those eyes"?
So....in the spirit of this whole thing...lemme give you my side of the date...if I may.
I totally had no expectations out of this date. To be honest, I didn't know if I was going to think Jen was the coolest chick out there or if I was going to just want to tell her to PLEASE STOP TALKING!!!!!"
We had some back and forth about whether the date was gonna happen and when. Finally, we set a time. I had no doubt that she would be there when she said she would be there. I have been reading her dating adventures and I know that when Jen Friel makes a date, it is a commitment she makes with her soul and nothing...nothing in the world will prevent her from being at the agreed upon location at the appointed time.
Well...except this time when she was 20 minutes late....
(HA! How's that for some radical honesty.....)
But...well...its funny...you can learn a lot about a person by how they handle a situation like that. Do they try and slough it off as no big deal? Are they OVERLY apologetic? Or are they just honest and sincere? Jen was honest and sincere. She had left her wallet at home and had to run back and get it and was really sorry about it. Full Point for Jen
She got several more points upon arrival. Effortlessly cool is the best way to describe my first impression. Like...wherever she is, she is the coolest person in the room and everyone knows it....including herself...though she may be a little embarrassed about it. I will also say that I felt this certain rush because, as I explained to her, back in the day, I would not have had the confidence to hang with someone like Jen...but now not only do I think I can....I KNOW I can.
So we sit and we talk - and we talk mostly about what she is doing. Its not only kind of a natural way to start, but I also happen to know that her life is currently immersed in...well...her life. I find the whole thing fascinating...like the snake eating its tail...so it was a natural point of conversation. I felt lour conversation was flowing really well. I knew pretty quickly that I was glad I had met Jen and she is someone I could totally hang out with.
But.lets be honest here...good conversation, life lessons and witty banter are one thing...but I wanted to get my flirt on! So just as I am trying to shift the conversation with a "tell me about your dating experiences", she hits me with the whole Vertical Horizon thing and I realize that our date is not going to linger on into the wee hours and potentially end with that lovely purple jacket she was wearing lying on the floor of my apartment.
(And if any of you tell me you don't think about those things when you meet someone I will promptly call you a liar and a witch and have you burned at the stake in the town square)
So suddenly I have to downshift from "Do you want to ride me?" to "Do you need a ride?" I will take this point to again say that you learn a lot about a person in these kinds of situations. To say that Jen was genuinely grateful would be an understatement. But the fact is that it really felt like no big deal whatsoever. What can I say? I'm a giver.
The drive over there was kinda funny because I could tell that Jen was thinking that I might want to be invited and might be wondering why she wasn't asking me to join her (for the record, I wasn't thinking that at all). Finally she broke down and said "I would totally invite you but I only have one ticket...." It was so sweet I couldn't help but smile. I didn't even know if she really meant it, but it didn't matter. Just the fact that she could read the situation and make an effort to address it was so amazingly cool.
During the drive I said "I would ask if I am gonna see you again, but I figure I will know when I read your blog tomorrow"
Oddly enough...it seems I was wrong about that...lol
She is all excited about seeing Vertical Horizon.
We get to our destination, I give her a hug and tell her to have a great time.
To sum up, I had a great time and there is no question that I am glad I met Jen. However, the circumstance of the date were such that it was kinda rushed and there was no time to sorta feel each other out beyond that. Not only was time a factor, but also the fact that she is right in the thick of some pretty intense stuff with the pilot.
Its equally possible that it was none of these factors and that the reason the date was the way it was is because she just wasn't feeling it. I don't know.
I'd definitely like to see her again...to have some more time and a more relaxed setting...and to see what happens.
That's my story and I am sticking to it.
appreciate the response! told you this week was nuts. that's my life. cant help it.
thanks again so much for everything though. had fun. cheers!
Oh no no no... Please don't take anything I said as being at all disappointed. Not in the slightest. I completely understand and was grateful that what little free time you had you chose to spend with me.
I might, however, be disappointed if I don't get to see you again.
:)
Jen, you're great, but ... I must be getting old, because I didn't understand half of what was happening in your post. I thought *I* had a short attention span, but wow.
I guess it's time for me to put on my bifocals, brew some Earl Grey and settle into my easy chair with my slippers to watch some Murder, She Wrote ...
Just curious Jen, VH didn't have a meet & greet post-show at the merch. table? Most of the shows they do. I do know that they had to catch an early flight this a.m. b/c they were performing in KC so perhaps they were in a rush to leave?