#NerdsUnite: Caught Up In Kissing

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It should come as no shock that a kiss can change your entire perspective of a person. That single moment when you lock lips and emotions flow through you. It can be as equally powerful, as it can be tragic. The not knowing and the first step towards something new or the end of something hoped for. We are all aware of the power of a kiss. It signifies a desire to communicate passion and love without words ever being uttered. It’s the willing embrace of your deepest desires. So what happens when the person you have become so fond of is a bad kisser. Goddamn it all! It ruins everything. Kisses are important. The reality is that no one is a bad kisser. Your likes and dislikes in this area determine how you perceive a kiss to be. Needless to say we all have our personal perceptions of what a good kiss should be. Some people are all for the face hugging alien assault type. That’s just not my thing. Now I was a virgin until I was 26. I know, I can hear the shock in your minds. So to maintain a good physical relationship there were two things I had to be good at. Kissing and other things involving my tongue. I also got really good at touch. So I applied the same sensitivity I did with the art of touch to kissing. Start soft and compassionate. If the mood intensifies so can the kisses. Just don’t go crazy. For me if your mouth overlaps all of mine it’s a little off putting for sure. If you lick my face also slightly odd. Let’s just say, its like that scene in a movie when something jumps out at you that shouldn’t belong and you are immediately taken out of the experience.

So I have never told someone they are a bad kisser. If I felt like they were and believe me I have met a few. I was a full blown make out whore for a while. Like I said, to each their own and I’m sure there are people out there that will find your brand of tongue sucking just right for them. I find the best way to kiss is to follow the lead of the person you are kissing. Start small and work your way into your more affectionate forms of lip locking. Treat it like someone takes you out to eat on their dime. Wait to see what they order so you know an appropriate price range. You don’t want to jump right for the KC Strip if they are only getting a salad. It throws everything off kilter. So as the passion plays out you investigate what turns them on most in this most intimate exchange. As I said start soft with light kisses on the lips. Slow methodically and innocent. If she purses her lips, it will mean things probably won’t go much further on this date. If her mouth slowly starts to open, it’s inviting you to enter the next zone.

Where your bodies close in on each other. You will most likely turn your head slightly as noses are a bitch and get in the way. This is your classic movie kiss. At this point you are golden. Obviously, she likes you and has responded to your invocation with her own invitation. You can then graduate to a mixture of two things. Personally, I like to lightly bite the bottom lip. It’s not so much a bold move, as it is a powerful determiner of her desire. It responds to the way she may bite her own lip when her raw want exceeds her will to contain it. The bottom lip bite is generally a sign she wants you; so if you lightly bite her bottom lip it only intensifies her own passion. This should be done in heavy moderation. You aren’t a fucking vampire and if you draw blood or bruise her you can rest assured she won’t forget that. That is unless she’s into that sort of thing, which in that case you have a world full of hurt and bruises coming your way. She will assume you are a biter as well and you will no doubt end up with teeth marks spread across you like some kinda hybrid cheetah.

So all good things to those that wait I suppose. Return to your kissing as she pushes into you or you into her. Make sure you are braced on something or she is. This will allow you to maintain your composure as well as accept her demands. For me personally, I like to be the one braced, so I can slide down a bit. With my height (I’m 6’6”) it allows me a better ability to meet at her level, instead of forcing her to move up and strain her neck. Next step is a light flick of the tongue to her top lip. This will generally be met with an immediate tongue response if she is so inclined. You have opened the field of play in the French zone and this area is where things get fantastic. Now you are free to explore, you get to wage a feral war of the tongues. Once again don’t get crazy or sloppy. Saliva dripping anywhere means things have gone a little too far. There you have it. After that it’s a game of roaming while fully clothed this mostly consists of kisses to the ears... you would be surprised at just how sensitive ears can be. The neck is always a sweet spot and leaves a lady wanting you to explore more.

So like I said everyone has their own brand of what they like to give and receive. Experiment with a lover and find out just what all you like and don’t like. Be open and honest and most importantly if you are committed, communicate. Communicate all things sexual. Not telling someone something is off, will only leave you dissatisfied if you are already in a relationship. Most importantly especially with guys if you fake it trust me when i say guys will do it again. Guys are generally robotic in their learning curve, while girls are more fluid. To us if something works once it will most likely work again. Not always the case with girls. Variety is the spice of life, some things will always be favorites but that doesn’t mean you have to grow stale in your love life. Other than that have fun and know each other’s boundaries. Luckily, most recently the girl I kissed was wonderful in my view. We shall see just how we play out to each other’s desires and if we mesh well... well things should be more desirable. Just remember not everyone out there will have the same likes and dislikes as you. Know yourself first and through your knowledge others can know you better.

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