#NerdsUnite: The Dreaded Date Night

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Carmen Denny

Are you and your significant other tired of the same old date routine? Are the repetitive rendezvous holding your relationship back? The truth is at some point in time every relationship will reach a standstill, that point where dinner and a movie just won’t cut it anymore.  

I’m sure as many of you already know, the trick to maintaining excitement in a relationship is creativity, and not just in the bedroom. Don’t let dull dates hold you and your special someone back from maximizing the potential of your courtship. Instead try to focus on keeping your partner on their toes. One of the worst things that can happen in a relationship is when going on dates together has become more of a chore than anything else. If you are one of those couples that’s caught in the vicious cycle of boring nights out, what’s meant to be a highlight of your week turns out being a dreaded outing that you just want to “get out of the way.”

The truth is couples that have been together for a while tend to neglect the creative effort it takes to maintain chemistry. The connection between love birds is not something that is “earned” after a series of cordial nights on the town. You don’t go through the steps of building that chemistry and then say “OK we’re comfortable with each other, now we can stop trying.” An intimate relationship is something that is alive, a fire that must be maintained.

Remember those days when you used to be excited for date night? What happened to that nail-biting anticipation? It’s not like you love your partner any less (hopefully), you probably would have jumped ship by now if that was the case. The fact of the matter is, routines suck. They remind us of work, and therein lies the problem. Relationships are meant to be an escape from the grudges of work and responsibility, something that’s sole purpose is to bring us happiness and fulfillment.

Now before we go any further I just want to clarify that no, I am not some kind of dating Czar. I love going out to dinner with my boyfriend! (as long as he’s buying) Also, as cliché as the classic “dinner and a movie” outing is, it’s two dates in one! You eat AND you’re entertained. What’s there to complain about?! This is probably why the D&M date is a go-to for most every couple. Also why it is often times overused and abused. When I say couples need to inject some creativity into their dating routine, I’m not saying to throw all ideas out the door and start over. Instead work on taking what you know and doing it differently.

So let me lay this out for you, Dinner + Movie = Good Time.

However, 12 months(4 weeks(Dinner +Movie)) =

What I am trying to say here is that you don’t have to ditch the dates that work, just break the repetitive cycle to prevent your night out from becoming a boring snore fest. So you like to eat and be entertained? Skip the D&M idea this week and go to one of those Whodunnit Mystery Dinners. I’ve always wanted to let out my inner Scarlet and solve a murder, or commit one… just kidding, but really…

ANYWAYS, the point I’m trying to make here is that spicing up your dating routine does not mean starting over. Like I said earlier, all it takes to break the repetition is a little kick start of creativity into what you have already established. It’s not hard, but like the beginning of your relationship, it takes effort.

Whether you’ve been dating for a couple months or married for 20 years, don’t let a monotonous courtship keep you from enjoying your better half. Wouldn’t you kill to go back to those days of schoolyard flirting and that butterfly feeling of yesteryear? Or the days when dates were cut short due your inability to resist jumping his bones. Exciting dates create tremendous amounts of sexual tension, falling asleep in your food… not so much. Trust me when I say bringing excitement back to your dating routine will most definitely improve all aspects of your relationship. Let’s be honest here, what’s the best part about date night? The post-date activities of course. So make sure you have plenty of tea lights and Barry Manilow CD’s at the ready because date night is going to get busy! *Wink Wink*

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About The Author:

Carmen is a freelance writer that enjoys blogging, bike rides, and excessively long road trips with her boyfriend of 6 years. When she’s not working, Carmen likes to spendr time with her friends and family, oh and her pug Anferny, who could forget Anferny?