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Wednesday
Oct122011

#Amazeballs: I just got asked to be "Professor For a Day" at Cal State University Fullerton

DUDDDDDESSSS!!! I just got like the bestest email EVER inviting me to be "Professor For a Day" at Cal State University in Fullerton. 

 

Like for real ... I almost peed my pants, I'm so jazzed. You also have to understand the hilarious irony in all of this because I never went to college. Straight up, I finished high school when I was 16 and just immediately started working and hustling. 

This is SOOOOO RAD, MAN!!! I am unbelievably honored Cal State, and I'm stoked for you guys too because I will be formally presenting "A Nerd's Guide to Being Unapologetically Awesome," and I'm going to tape it and put it up on the YouTube. 

So friggen stoked man, and so friggen humbled.

From the depths of my everything, thank you Cal State. This is a TREMENDOUS honor to which I will try to uphold. Yes, you read that right - I will only arm pit fart twice on stage ... yep, only TWICE! 

HEHEHEHE he sounds like he poo-ted. 

For reals man, thanks Cal State! See you all on November 7th! Whoop whoop! 

Professor Friel. I'm not mad at that. 

#hotforteacher

OH OH OH!! And in other good news, TNTML picked up its first company ride today. Yep ... check her out ... 

 

EPIC LEVELS OF EVERYTHING WIN!!!!!

K ... baaaiiiii 


Friday
Sep302011

#Amazeballs: 29-Year-Old Deaf Woman Hears Her Voice for the First Time 

OMG OMG OMG OMG OMFFFGGG!!! This was just posted on Mashable, and it is FLOODING my newsfeed right now. 

I just watched it and totally started crying. There ... are no words. Beautiful beautiful beautiful video. 

Here, watch ... 

Click here to read the full story

UUUGHHHHH!!! Tell me that's not one of the most inpsiring things EVVERRR!!! 

Seriously man. Think of all the stuff we take for granted every day. Blows me away. 

Life is so so so precious. BAHH!!! Thank you for sharing this moment with the world 29 year old lady's husband!

Congrats on the new implant!!!! =) =) =) 

#somuchlove

Wednesday
Sep212011

#Amazeballs: Dudes, on Friday I'm meeting with a modern Shaman

OMG, I am totally not even kidding. BAHHHH!!! Here's how it's all going down.

So, clearly, if you read this site - you know that I document my life. I have a gajillion thoughts that run through my head every day and instead of sitting there in this creative funk, I started this site as a means to document said thoughts (primarily in or by using social media as it's my greatest passion) - and now I operate as a lifecaster and through a transparent experience get to psychoanalyze myself with the help of the internet. Pretty rad. Even radder is that by being so honest and open you guys come out of the WOODWORK offering to help. Yesterday, it hit me like a ton of bricks that I am becoming a man-eater. Something inside of me is using dudes to validate something in myself, and WOOAHHH that is so unlike me. So, I made a public declaration that I was going to give up casual sex, and looky looky the email I got on Facebook ...

 

And now I have a meeting on Friday with this duderino.

BADASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so excited, you have no idea.

For reals man, I am UNBELIEVABLY conscious of energy, and I know in the depths of my soul that there is this block in my life, and after 103 dates in 9 months - I am STILL dating the same guys; it's not them, it's me!!!

And now, after recognizing that, I have to do something about it. I've been meditating, I've been doing a lot of soul searching - but it's not enough. It's my state of consciousness that allows these duderinos into my life - like energy will always find each other. So now, I am taking that first step in altering my own energy and releasing this block that clearly is still present in my life.

Understand too, I really really really do believe in biological pre-dispositions that dictate that we shouldn't be monogamous (I don't think I'd want to be in an open relationship necessarily, but swinging is definitely appealing). I still don't believe in a notion of there being a "one" or a "soul mate" - I believe in like energy attracting to one another.

I am just 110% not okay with not leading a fulfilled life in any capacity. I work too fucking hard to accept mediocrity. There is a guy out there that would be okay dating a chica that documents her life (and obviously if he is in it, he becomes a part of it as well). There is a guy out there that will understand the big words that come out of my mouth unintentionally. There is a guy out there that is passionate about his own life enough and has enough of his own shit going on to not get too caught up in mine. 

If I can't find you, I will manifest you - and if I can manifest an ENTIRELY new life for myself in 22 months, I can break a dating pattern and manifest and allow a great guy to come in as well. This journey is too awesome to not share, but my first step is within myself. Clear out the BS, clear out the fear, clear out my cache and reset my factory settings. I need a re-boot - and hopefully this duderino will be able to help.

There you go!!! I asked the universe aka this community for a next doable action, and just like that it appeared in my inbox on Facebook and an appointment has been set for Friday.

BOOM! How about dem apples???

#staytuned

Click here to read more on Brendan and his services


Wednesday
Aug172011

#Amazeballs: How to win at rock, paper, scissors

DUDES!!!! I was totes just cruisin' yahoo and came across this article ... OMG OMG OMG AH-MAZE-ING!!! It analyzes the psychological choices we make when we play rock, paper, scissors - READ!!!!!

Per Yahoo: In the game Rock, Paper, Scissors, two opponents randomly toss out hand gestures, and each one wins, loses or draws with equal probability. It's supposed to be a game of pure luck, not skill — and indeed, if humans were able to be perfectly random, no one could gain an upper hand over anyone else.

There's one problem with that reasoning: Humans are terrible at being random.

Our pathetic attempts to appear uncalculating are, in fact, highly predictable. A couple of recent studies have provided insights into the patterns by which people tend to play Rock, Paper, Scissors (and why). Abide by them, and you'll be riding shotgun and eating the bigger half of the cookie for the rest of your life.

According to Graham Walker, veteran player and five time organizer of the Rock, Paper Scissors World Championships, there are two paths to victory in RPS: Eliminating one of your opponent's options — for example, influencing her not to play Paper — and forcing her to make a predictable move. In both cases, Walker wrote on the website of the World RPS Society, "the key is that it has to be done without them realizing that you are manipulating them."

Rookies rock

Those two overarching strategies can be translated into executable moves, starting with the opening one. Expert players have observed that inexperienced ones tend to lead with Rock. Walker speculates that this may be because they view the move as strong and forceful. Either way, remember the mantra "Rock is for rookies," and simply throw Paper at the outset of a game to earn an easy first victory.

"Rock is for rookies" should be kept in mind against more experienced players, too. They won't lead with Rock — it's too obvious — so use Scissors against them. This throw will either beat Paper or tie with itself.

Double trouble

If your opponent makes the same move twice in a row, they almost certainly won't make that move a third time. "People hate being predictable and the perceived hallmark of predictability is to come out with the same throw three times in row," Walker wrote. [Why Aren't We Smarter?]

With that option eliminated, you're guaranteed either a victory or a stalemate in the next round. If you see a "two-Scissor run," for example, your opponent's next move will be either Rock or Paper. If you throw Paper, then, you'll either beat Rock or play to a draw.

Mind tricks

Like a Jedi, you can use the power of suggestion to influence your opponent's next move. When discussing a game, for example, gesture over and over again with the move that you want your opponent to play next. "Believe it or not, when people are not paying attention their subconscious mind will often accept your 'suggestion,'" Walker wrote.

This trick may work because of humans' tendency to imitate one another's actions. A recent study on decision-making in Rock, Paper, Scissors, published in the July 2011 issue of the Proceedings of the Royal Society B, found that players often imitate their opponents' last moves. Human mimicry seems to be involuntary.

Announcing your next move before a round starts also seems to be an effective mind trick, though it'll only work once. If you say you're going with Paper, for example, your opponent thinks you won't, Walker explained. Subconsciously, they'll shy away from Scissors (which beats Paper), and choose Rock or Paper instead. When you do end up throwing Paper, you'll score a victory or a tie.

Don't call it a come back

According to Walker, your opponent will often try to come back from a loss or tie by throwing the move that would have beaten his last one. If he lost using Rock, for example, he'll likely follow up by throwing Paper. Knowing this, you can decide what move to follow with yourself.

Interestingly, monkeys show the same behavioral pattern. In a study detailed in the May 2011 issue of the journal Neuron, researchers at Yale found that rhesus monkeys trained to play Rock, Paper, Scissors tended to react to a loss by playing the move that would have won in the previous round. This suggests monkeys, like humans, are capable of analyzing past results and imagining a different outcome, the researchers said. [The 6 Craziest Animal Experiments]

Humans can take the logic one step further, by imagining what their opponents might be imagining.

Low blow

There's one more ploy to fall back on — that is, if you're willing to sacrifice your honor and integrity for a victory. "When you suggest a game with someone, make no mention of the number of rounds you are going to play. Play the first match and if you win, take it is as a win. If you lose, without missing a beat start playing the 'next' round on the assumption that it was a best two out of three. No doubt you will hear protests from your opponent but stay firm and remind them that 'no one plays best of one,'" Walker wrote. A low blow, but a smart one.

Had no idea so much strategy was possible in Rock, Paper, Scissors? The rules of the game itself may be simple, but the human mind is not.

#GameOn

Thursday
Aug042011

#Amazeballs: 6 tips for winning anyone over

AHHH!! I just found this post on Yahoo! and it totes knocked my socks off. No like literally - my socks ... are gone.

OMG my feet smell so bad ... SOCKSS!! SOCKS COME BACK!!!!!!!!

Tangent Jen, quit with the fucking tangents. Alrite - so I found this on Yahoo, and it's pretty rad - these are a lot of the same pointers I talk about with online dating in general. Alrite enough talking, have a read:

Per Yahoo: Sure, being good-looking and charming will certainly make you more of a catch. But there’s an even more crucial component to attracting others that’s so simple we almost feel weird saying it: make your date feel good-looking and charming. Do that, and trust us... this person will be back for more. In a day and age when the romantic options out there are seemingly endless, it’s easy to feel like you are just a number. Prove you think the cutie sitting across from you is one of a kind, though, and it can make a huge difference. But how do you make someone feel, well, special? It’s not as hard as you think — just try these six tips and watch your love interest light up.

Flattery strategy #1: Get specific with your praise
Since daters often feel like they’re just one amongst a parade of people having coffee with you, demonstrate some genuine interest in the next one you meet to help erase that fear. “We studied the relationship between reciprocity and romance and found that if someone thinks you’re attracted to him or her, it increases that person’s attraction to you,” says Eli Finkel, Ph.D., a psychology professor at Northwestern University. On the other hand, “If someone’s attracted to you but getting the sense that you’re attracted to lots of other people, he or she will tend to dislike you.” The upshot? Prove you’re picky (and that this person fits your high criteria). Then you’re well on your way to making this potential amour pick you, too. Reread his or her profile right before you meet up and tell your date exactly why it stood out from the rest and what you noticed first. And nix any mentions of past bad dates or other negative experiences, which can make it inadvertently seem like you’ll give anyone the time of day.

Flattery strategy #2: Create insider info between the two of you
You don’t have to be old friends to cultivate a comfortable rapport with someone. “Make references to things you’ve discussed or emailed about,” says dating coach Annie Dennison, Ph.D. “It creates a sense of intimacy and shows your date you’re really listening.” To really drive home that you find your date fascinating, ask for more information on details he or she mentioned in passing (“I know you like Jay-Z. Which album of his do you think I should download?”). Or tie together stories (yours or your date’s) with a follow-up line like, “Wow, that reminds me of what you were telling me about your trip to Costa Rica/your overbearing boss/football obsession.”

Flattery strategy #3: Congratulate your date
If you want your sweetie to really beam, show you’re impressed by a feat that he or she is especially proud of. “We did a study and found that when people told others about something good that happened to them and the person responded positively, it improved the whole experience,” Shelly Gable, Ph.D., professor of psychology at the University of California, Santa Barbara. So don’t just say “Cool!” when your date mentions a win like getting into grad school, finishing a 10K, or just getting an amazing deal at an outlet store. Get into it and ask what he felt when he got the news, how she reacted, which person he told first, or how long she’d been hoping for it to happen. Answering the questions will let your date relive some of the excitement — and associate you with an unexpectedly happy buzz.

Flattery strategy #4: Compliment qualities that are unrelated to looks
When you admire a not-so-obvious trait that your date has, it makes you seem super-insightful. An easy place to start is by connecting his or her job to a quality you appreciate. Tell an accountant that you’re always especially envious of detail-oriented people; tell a teacher you’re in awe of those who can motivate others. If you like what your date is wearing or how this person decorated his or her home, “don’t compliment the ‘thing’ — anyone can buy a thing — but call out what it says about him or her,” says Susan Rabin, author of Lucky in Love. Instead of the tie itself, praise the person’s individual style; instead of muttering “nice couch,” say you’re wowed by people who have an eye for color and design.

Flattery Strategy #5: Emphasize your date’s name in your verbal responses
When someone shares an anecdote, most of us fall back on interjections like “Unh-UH!” or “Wow, that’s crazy!” The problem is, those encouragements also sound like clichés — especially once you’ve used them several times in one evening. A better way to punctuate your partner’s story? “Use his or her name,” says Dennison. Hearing a specific name — whether it’s “Wow, Sheila, you’re so brave!” or “Way to go, Jeremy, I’m impressed!” — will make dates think you really get what’s so “them” about the tale they just told, which is way more flattering than wondering if you were listening at all.

Flattery strategy #6: Playfully tease your date
If you saw The Departed, you probably remember the scene when Matt Damon asks his date something like: “What makes you think I want a second date with you?” — then bursts out laughing. It turns out those childhood playground tormentors (“Ewww, you have cooties!”) were onto something. “Thinking someone is attracted to you is great, but our research also suggests that not being sure about it actually heightens the excitement,” says grad student Paul Eastwick, Finkel’s research partner at the Northwestern Relationships Lab. Hearing that kind of rejection can spike feelings of anxiety — then fill you with relief when you realize it was a gag. So if you’re sure your date has a good sense of humor, give him or her a little ribbing first: “Oh no, you’re an Aquarius? Shoot, I have a rule about that.” Not only do you get to have an instant inside joke, it sends a subtle message that you’re into your date enough to be comfortable joking about it. Just make sure you don’t tease about something the person’s sensitive about — that’s not flirting; that’s an insult.

#thepickleistickled