#NerdsUnite: Romance & The After Dinner Menu

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Penelope Young

The key to keeping the romance alive and passion flowing in a relationship all comes down to the art of seduction. It happens to everyone. No couple is spared from the burden of boredom and routine.  Caught in a world of monotony due to the responsibilities we create, there’s never enough time to really slow down and enjoy our partner like we once did during the whirlwind of seduction. Eventually the mystery fades, and all the magic and sparkly glitter that surrounds us tends to slowly dissipate.

Only it doesn’t really work that way does it? Not everyone falls into the pit of loves despair. Quite honestly there are many couples out there that still seem to have it going on.

 Yes they make us sick. Half the time you want to walk up and smack a couple of heads together at the sight of two love birds sucking face in a grotesque display of public affection but in reality that’s only because we’re secretly jealous. Admit it. Heck, they sure seem happy right?

The truth of the matter is, is that even though we think we become jaded lovers over time, what we’re really waiting for is something to ignite the passion in our own relationship. The only way to successfully do this is by fanning the flames between us. When you engage the soul of your better half, the more they come alive and the passion between the two of you will have no other choice but to thrive.

When caught between the pressures of everyday problems, stress, and arguments, it doesn’t take very long before the passion in a relationship begins to fizzle out. If you truly love your partner, it’s important to take the time to spark the fire, and set the passion between the two of you aflame once more. Below are some basic tips to provide you with the starter fluid you’ll need to jumpstart the sparks of your inferno.

Laugh

Laughing is the sexiest thing a person can do. Not only does it make us feel happy but it makes us want to laugh too. At the beginning of every relationship we tend to connect with our partner because it’s fun to be silly together. Instead of the everyday whining, and complaining we first tend to overlook each other’s flaws simply because we love them! All those pet peeves that tend to drive us crazy over time, started out as things we loved or things that made our partner unique. When you learn to laugh at all the silly stuff with your partner again, the negativity of everyday life gets pushed aside making room for the art of seduction via attraction.

Start dating (each other) again

Does your Friday nights constantly consist of Redbox movies, pizza and beer or dinner at your average restaurant? Nothing puts a damper on the fire like routine. While (even I must admit) beer and movies can be a low-key way to end a stressful week, try mixing it up. Think about it. Monotony kills creativity. Creativity equals excitement. Excitement equals passion. Do you really want to sacrifice the passion in your relationship because the two of you are too lazy to mix it up? Get off your butts and do something spontaneous! Find an activity that intimidates the both of you and do it! The rush of feel-good endorphins you’ll experience in response will not only do wonders for your relationship but boost your bedroom stamina once you’re behind closed doors.

Recycle

Revisit the places you’ve created memories together. Remember when you first met/kissed? Reminisce by reenacting those special moments. Make yourselves feel young again by doing old school things like writing notes, burning mixed CD’s or kissing behind the bleachers. Take yourselves down memory road to the days when the fire between the two of you was ripping hot, and addiction had a different meaning.

Head for the hills

Get out of town. Find a new atmosphere and relish the ambience. Sometimes when we get stuck doing the same thing day-after-day surrounded by the same people and places the love between us tends to grow stale. Leave behind thoughts of work, household chores, and the like. A mini-vacation doesn’t have to be extravagant unless you want it to be. It’s about reconnecting.  Grab your partner and whisk them away to a local hotel. Dim the lights, play some soft music, and run a bubble bath while feeding your lover chocolate strawberries or other edible creations. The mystery of being someplace outside your comfort zone can help spice up the after dinner menu!

All in all, don’t over think it. The pressure to keep it hot can take its toll as well. Remember to take it slow and relish what we love about our partners. Make your love sizzle by inviting more passion into your life by keeping it fresh but keeping it light. Relationships go through many phases. It’s about the compassion we feel for each other that bonds us. Seduce each other with what’s in your heart. 

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Penelope Young is a freelance writer/web coordinator. She enjoys reading and writing in her spare time while taking life in stride, and enjoying the small things in life - iced coffee, scorpions, and cinnamon bears.