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Friday
Sep242010

#InCaseYouMissedIt: Kaley Cuoco Sings "Somewhere over the rainbow!"

DUDES!!!! We just had the LIVE EXCLUSIVE coverage of The Big Bang Theory's Kaley Cuoco singing a live cover with Annie Automatic's Chris French of "Somewhere Over the Rainbow." The single will be available soon on itunes, and a portion of the proceeds will go to the humane society. Yeah - heart = stopped. 

 

Here is the archived footage. Enjoy, lovers!

 







Friday
Sep242010

8 myths about the #single relationship status

Per Yahoo: Have you heard that single people are miserable and lonely and die alone in their empty apartments where they are eaten by their cats? That’s what I heard, too. So I set out to discover the truth of these matters. Guess what? It is not just the cat thing that’s a myth. All of those insulting claims about the lives of single people are wrong, wrong, wrong! Here’s a rundown of the myths I found while looking at the reality of being unattached today.

Myth #1: Singles are less happy than married people
Boo-hoo, poor you! That’s what friends and family sometimes think of people who are single. They are so wrong! First, most single people are not miserable — not even close. On the average, single people are always on the happy end of the scale; that’s true in every study I know of. Second, getting married hardly changes someone’s happiness at all. Some married people experience a tiny blip in happiness around the time of the wedding. (On an 11-point scale, they are about one-quarter of one point happier.) But that is just a honeymoon effect. They soon go back to being as happy or as unhappy as they were when they were single. Furthermore, only some married people enjoy the honeymoon effect. People who marry and later divorce actually start getting a bit less happy — not more happy — as their wedding day approaches.

 

 

Myth #2: Single people favor solitude
Sometimes people say that single people are “alone,” that they “don’t have anyone.” But that’s just a myth. Research shows that single people often have many people in their lives who are important to them. Often, they have a whole network of friends and relatives, and they stay connected with them for decades. After all, they have the time to forge many diverse relationships, which married sorts often don’t.

Myth #3: Elderly women live in isolation
Older women, in particular, are often painted as isolated spinsters, but in one study of 50 women who had always been single, 49 of them had close friends and usually they were in touch with those friends every single day. Sixteen of their friendships had lasted more than 40 years.

Myth #4: Single people don’t live as long as married folks
A serious, intellectual magazine recently printed a story with this headline: “Marry or die.” Seriously. Even the most prestigious publications can get their headlines all wrong when it comes to stories about people who are single. That magazine article ignored the longest-running study of longevity on record. That study started in 1921, with more than 1,000 11-year-olds. Scientists have kept track of these people for as long as they lived. The people who lived the longest were those who stayed single and those who married and stayed married. People who divorced, or who divorced and remarried, had shorter lives. It was consistency, not marriage, that mattered, and the results were the same for men and women.

Myth #5: Single people are self-centered
Married people are supposedly the ones who reach out to other people and keep families and neighborhoods connected. That’s the story we hear, but it is not what’s really true. National surveys show that single people are more likely to visit, support, contact, and advise their siblings and parents than married or even previously married people. Singles are also more likely to encourage, help, and socialize with their neighbors and friends.

Myth #6: The children of single parents are destined to live haplessly
These days, forecasts of doom and gloom are often aimed at children who are raised by single parents. To hear the commentators talk about it, you would think that only children raised by married biological parents have a decent shot at a good, healthy, successful life. In my research, though, I was struck by just how overstated those claims actually are. One example comes from the results of a National Drug Abuse Survey, a study of substance abuse among 12- to 17-year-olds. The children of single mothers had low rates of abuse — under 6 percent. And those rates were just 1.2 percent higher than the rates of the children living with married biological parents. Furthermore, two-parent married households did not always have kids with the lowest rates of substance abuse. Teens living with a father and stepmother, for example, had higher rates of substance abuse than teens raised by single mothers.

Myth #7: Single people are not as healthy as people who get married
Think singletons live an unhealthy life of vice, partying up a storm and eating junk food rather than healthy home-cooked meals? That’s not what the research says. Typically, people who have always been single are very similar in their health to people who are currently married. There is, though, one exception where single people are actually healthier than attached types: married people are more overweight! As for divorce, some research actually shows that people become healthier after they divorce than they were when they were married.

Myth #8: Single people waste money on frivolous things for themselves
So you think that singletons splurge and marrieds conserve? If so, then I have just one question for you: Do you know how much weddings cost? Even after the big splash, maybe you thought married folks save up, spend conservatively, and are occasionally called upon to support the more spendthrift single drifters in their clan who racked up credit card debt on fancy shopping sprees and vacations...not so. Coupled-up sorts are no more generous than single people when it comes to giving financial help to family members. As for friends, it is the single people who are there for them. In fact, one study showed that men were much more financially generous to their friends when they were single than they were after they married. When married men divorced, they reverted to their more giving selves. If they remarried, then they went back to being less generous to their friends. 

 

 

 

Alrite, since I like to consider myself a professional single status setter ... here is my take on it.

 

 

 

I cant imagine why I don't date more. Look at this face ... Myth 1: Happier than peeps in a relationship? Abso-freaking-lutely!!! Dude, I'm still trying to figure out a way to sell this feeling. I love love love me some life.

 

Myth 2: Like being alone? Who's alone with 4,000 twitter followers!!! Check in somewhere, or send out a tweet saying, yo! let's hang it like a banana hammock!! And, I'm totally covered like SPF 100 on an albino.

 

Myth 3: This one is actually true. I am fairly convinced I am going to end up a cat lady, no lie. I might want to just start rockin a flea collar now ... preventive measures and all.

 

Myth 4: Single people don't live as long? Are you kidding?!? Let's discuss the quality of that life. My grandparents were together for their entire everything, and enjoyed making each other as miserable as possible. That just doesn't sound fun to me. I'll take death any day!

 

Myth 5: Self-centered? Fuck yeah!!! First time in 25 years I am figuring out myself. I can say after 10 straight months, I'm starting to get the hang of this.

 

Myth 6: Who says I want kids? I live on the interwebz. I'm pretty convinced I can just rent one in China to get on skype with me every once in a while. I'll call her Tostino, and only speak in Spanish just to confuse her as much as my parents did with me.

 

Myth 7: Not as healthy? I have been sick once in the last 2 years. That's it! I never get sick. So, bring it!

 

Myth 8: Waste money? Nope! Don't have any! Been broke as a joke since I had to stop consulting to keep up this blessed little website. I just barter social media needs to live. It's pretty rad. So wasteful? Absolutely not.

 

Hey, Yahoo! Bite me.

 

Wednesday
Sep222010

#Review: The Social Network

I have spent a total of 5,423 hours blogging in various capacities on TNTML since its inception. We currently have 3,335 posts - 95% of which I personally have done ... and this post, is hands down the one I am the most excited about.

I just saw The Social Network. *cue 4sq checkin*

 

 

I do not posses enough words in my vocabulary to describe just how awesome this flick was. Please note as well, this review will not contain a single spoiler - however, the same cannot be said about exclamation points!!!! 

 

First off, Facebook has nothing to worry about as far as press is concerned and the overall perception of the public regarding el senor Zuckerberg. I was always pretty ... meh on the guy, but I can now say - I am a champion of his. For real, if Marky Mark were to run for office I would totally be his Gennifer Flowers - and if I still even had a flower, it would be his.

 

Visually speaking - it is captivating. I am from Connecticut originally, and my great-great-whatever great grandfather was president of Harvard; they could not have captured it better. The dark, secret society ladened aura of the campus peppered with the North Face jackets and circa 2003 Gap sweatshirts could not have been more legit. The attention to detail was a job truly well done.

 

Direction, music supervision, acting, I mean there just really are no words to describe this film. I sound like a total fangirl - but it deserves it that much. It has been a very, very, very, long time since I have not only enjoyed something so much, but more importantly felt equally inspired.

 

I have poured my blood, sweat, and tears into this blessed little website. I walked away more confident than ever that I am doing something right. (Whatever that right is however, has yet to be decided.) I identified with Mark on so many levels. The geek speak is done in a way that is engaging and informative rather than condescending and patronizing. You either understood the algorithms, MySql, or you didn't - your nerd cred was not a pre-requisite to the undeniable age old tale that anyone on any level of code could relate to. The passion Mark had, the heartbreak that initially started the site, to even the refresh at the end he kept doing - WAITING for that friend accept - like we alllllllllll have done was so endearing, charming, and touching, I just ... have no words. 

 

Bottom line: This movie will be an incredibly big hit. It is worthy of any buzz it receives, and after getting in for free tonight, I feel like I need to go see it again just to pay a $12 homage to a brilliant piece of art.

 

 

 

Do yourself a favor, go see it when it opens in theaters on October 1st. All of your friends will be talking about it. It is "one of those" and worthy of every bit of accolade.

 

 

Oh baby, I love it when you pout at me like that!!

 

*drool*

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Wednesday
Sep222010

Stop #dreaming ... start doing

I've been a professional actor for the last 10 years. Had pretty moderate success between that and modeling. I have a bunch of expired SAG cards and an IMDB page, my mom thinks I'm cool.

 

I can't help but see so many of the updates from my fellow actor friends in my newsfeed - and it literally ASTOUNDS me how many people just do not GET how much of the entertainment world has changed. For real, stop aspiring - start doing. You no longer have to "aspire" to be a writer, actor, or director - you actually just have to get off your butt and start doing it.

 

In 10 years, I have not even come HALF as close as to where I have gone in the last 10 months. The people that know this site from mainstream actors, to networks, studios - I mean ... WOW. Crazy overwhelming.

 

I didn't have aspirational dreams of getting to all of those people, I was too busy taking advantage of all the opportunities in my present reality.  Dreams are dreams, and wants are wants. Stop dreaming, start doing.

 

For real, back in the day you might not have had access to a video camera, "professional word processor," or any of that other old school mumbo jumbo - but NOW YOU DO!!!!!!! Dude, start posting your monologues on YouTube. Use a mac, or even just your phone's video camera if you don't have a FlipCam. Sync them with a blog that says less about "so and so is experiencing smashing success in the field of acting this year. Signed with new management - Eat my shit and die talent" and more about the range of characters you can play, and examples of your work. Okay, so the name might be a bit much - but yes, that was actually taken from a friend of mine's blog. If I'm casting you, I want to know more about you. Don't tell me you're an actor, you can be anyone. Fuck that! Build characters online, show me whatcha got!!!! Crappy headshots that are so clearly photoshopped it isn't even funny just aren't going to cut it anymore. Times have changed. Your medium has changed!!! New media and old media are busy making sweet, sweet, love and when that baby pops out, you better be ready!!

 

Actor fan/like pages can be a bit douchey, unless you've actually done something that really is worth one. And yes, you will know what I mean. Definitely create a twitter account, start engaging in conversations and build a following. Followings are undeniable; a studio, network, or agency is more likely willing to want to invest with you if they can SEE your fan base. Remember, we are all still kids that just got a bit taller. Out of sight, out of mind.

 

I can speak from very personal experience, that I have ABSOLUTELY no interest in dealing with anyone that tells me what they "want" to do with their life. What ARE you doing with your life? I deal in 86,400 seconds at a time. If your aspirational goal in life is to be a big producer, and you're not even out there producing SOMETHING ... SOMEWHERE, I will want absolutely nothing to do with you. I won't apologize for that sounding harsh, but life is too short - and the time to be alive is RIGHT NOW. Anyone can take an idea, market the crap out of it, and be heard. You have to get off your own ass and step up to your own plate.

 

Life is a series of todays and right now. Start right now. It's all you've got.

 

#nerdsunite

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Monday
Sep202010

Am I the only one??

So, a few months back ... Facebook changed the default avatars for new accounts. This is what they chose for the female default:

 

 

Everytime I see it ... I think of this dude:

 

 

Am I the only one???