#TrueStory: How @FourSquare and #Facebook got me an audition with #AOL

Wow ... the last few days have been intense. Like crazy, stupid intense. Here's how it all went down.

I'm an avid FourSquare-er. It's no joke that I think Foursquare is just the cats pajamas. (Hence why I was so insistent on getting in front of them earlier this year.) The bragging rights, and points aside - it is a phenomenal marketing tool.

1. Go to FourSquare.com

2. Enter in your account info (dude, totally create an account if you don't have one yet.)

3. Go to find friends, up at the top. Select it.

Now this is where things get cool ... yes, you can enter in your own Facebook, or Twitter info ... but my network already knows everything I do. I tweet, update, blog, and vlog like it's nobodies business!!! I wanted to outreach to new nerds. SOOOO!! I would click on the Twitter button, and enter in other people's twitter accounts. It doesn't connect directly, you can enter in anyone's name. I wanted to connect with other nerdy influential peeps ... so I would enter in @mashable, @garyvee, @aplusk, @shellykramer, basically anyone on twitter with a large following that I wanted to get in front of. It then populates a list of all THEIR followers that use Foursquare. (Thinking again, life is reflective - who are the type of people that also follow influential people.) A friend request shows up on their end, and knowing that I do the same ... I would check the twitter feed and Facebook page of the people sending me requests. My twitter feed has my bio up at the top, and some rad link love to TNTML. This is how I got in front of the mucks at Apple, and AOL. Anyone that follows me, sees that I check in to some pretty nerdy shit. It also doesn't hurt being a chick, and looking relatively non-threatening. But all the superficial components aside, this little trick has literally gotten me in front of the UBER UBER UBER big wig people!! Can it happen for you the same way? Sure!! Why the heck not! I'm not special just awesome. But just START DOING STUFF LIKE THIS!!!!

PEOPLE ARE INSPIRED BY ACTION!!!!!!!!!!!!

You'll find your own voice after a while. Remember, you can't fail if you try. Even if you don't end up with the job you wanted, you'll at least get experience ... and that's the best part. =) #nerdsunite

PS. and yes, I get that some people may find this spammy ... but I also travel a LOT! So for me, it's still even just rad to see who else is in some the places I frequent. ANNDDD!! It's not spammy if you're genuine, and follow up with a tweet or facebook wall post. I very literally read thousands of profiles every day. It takes a lot of time, but the reward is soooo effin rad!

Top Five Rules Girls / "Bitches" Men Love on Televison

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Shabana Malone

If you've read 'the Rules' or 'Why Men Love Bitches', or any similar books, you know the type of girl they're talking about. The type of girl you want to be if you're reading those books. The woman men fall all over themselves for even though they might not be the prettiest girl around. There's something about these girls (not Mary). Though I didn't always know what they were called, I was always able to identify those girls on television. If you wanna be like them, study these bitches (in no particular order):

1. Winnie Cooper on'the Wonder Years' - Let's face it, she wasn't hot. She was weird looking. Yet she had Kevin Arnold, adolescent man-whore, completely whipped. Not to mention every other boy in school including, at one time, Kevin's best friend Paul. She dated the school bully who immasculated Kevin, the popular stud, an older boy...she had em lining up! And Kevin, even though it seemed like almost every eipsode was about a different girl, always carried a torch for Winnie. Even when he eventually got her and they dated, she kept him on his toes. Ironically, the opposite of Winnie Cooper, which most girls are, was played by Winnie's real life sister, in an episode where she dated Kevin but realized he still liked Winnie. This girl, Becky Slater, was aggressive, needy, clingy and jealous. Sound familiar? In the end, Kevin was afraid of Becky and always went back to Winnie. The telling thing is, I always HATED Winnie Cooper!

2. Rebecca Donaldson on 'Full House' - The fact that she was pretty didn't make her a Rules girl...in fact, she aptly portrayed the opposite in a film 'Secret Admirer', where she played a guy's female best friend who was secretly and hopelessly in love with him. Becky was different. She was attracted to Uncle Jesse right away. I mean, who wasn't? But she didn't show it. She acted indifferent, unimpressed, even offended by his overtures. She certainly didn't hop in to bed with him...EVER. Not even after they got married and had those adorable Sprouse twins! Okay, now I'm being ridiculous. Anyway, the way she played hottie Stamos landed her the role of "Aunt Becky".

3. Ashley Frasier on 'Fifteen' - A lesser-known show on Nickelodeon, this show had me hooked because I was fascinated by this Ashley character who was beautiful, shy, demure, classy, and irresistable. All guys wanted her and all girls wanted to be friends with her. At such a young age I was impressed with this actresses ability to portray such a quintessential rules girl. Ashely got the hottest guys and when she ended up dating the school jerk, she didn't tolerate him for long. Even when guys had her, they never really had her. Classic love avoidant. So fun to watch!

4. Kelly Kapowski on 'Saved By the Bell' - This one is a no-brainer. Kelly had the two most popular guys in school fighting over her constantly. Then she dumped the hotter one for a hotter older man! She broke player Zack Morris's heart over and over. She was the right mix of indifferent and sweet. Couple interesting things about this rules girl: a) She lost her juju in the later years once she let Zack go...she became kind of a ditz instead of what she was. b) Tiffini Amber Thiessen also played the exact opposite of a rules girl, Valerie Malone, and Kelly (though she was about two cup sizes smaller) was arguably MUCH hotter than Valerie. c) Random sidenote I found interesting: the man who played Kelly Kapowski's father also played Tiffini Amber's gynocologist who performed her rape kit in a Lifetime movie. Creepy.

5. Last but certainly not least, Kristin Cavallari on 'the Hills' - This one's for real. Kristin is probably more of a "Bitch" than a Rules Girl, but this girl gets shit done. I'm sure she puts out on the first date, but somehow she manages to always have the upper hand. When her friend Alex on the show asked her what she does to always have guys all over her, she replied correctly, "It's cuz I'm a bitch!" She had the hottest guys on Laguna Beach and in Hollywood looking like idiots trying to get her attention. The fact that she was on television for many years before I ever saw her cry over a guy is telling. And that bitch can't act, so that shit was for real.

Feel free to add other rules girls to this list. For the record, later female characters were the opposite of Rules girls, a la Angela Chase on 'My So-Called Life' and 'Felicity' on 'Felicity'. These girls break all the Rules, and that's why modern girls identified with them. Kelly or Valerie? You decide

He responds #TrueStory: It wasn't love, just sex

DUDESSS!! So, first off - wow! So glad to hear my sexual escapades are a hit.

looky, looky the response I got from el duderino after the post yesterday.

(And no, I didn't tell him prior to posting.)

DUDE!!!! Best response everrrrrr!!!!!!! I just get to be such a pansy. I can't be a dude in that regard - hit it and quit it ... or uh, toot it and boot it?

HAHAHA oohhh lorrdyyyy that song crackles me up just right!

So, uh yeah ... I'm a big wiener and this is the second time I've done that on this site - I just can't tell the dudes before I post on them. It's not like I'm going to change a single thing I post anyway - soooooo why does it matter? Out of respect? Meh, maybe ... but it makes for a better story to read their straight response. I will sacrifice the men in my life hating me forever and ever to tell a good story. Now, THAT is a good lifecaster!!!

I make no apologies about the way that I live. Hence being unapologetically awesome!?!? This is the internet, not broadcast television. Don't like it - don't read it! But I'll still be doing my thing, and that's AWESOME!!

Anywhahoodle, there's a lot more up my nerdy sleeve where that came from ... so uh, yeah - stay tuned!

And here's the original post in case you missed all the fuss.

#TrueStory: It wasn't love, just sex.

Okayyyyy ... I have to come clean about something that's been bugging me for a bit. I wasn't sure how to approach it, so I might as well just lay all the cards on the table - trusting that honesty will set you free.

A few months back, I was dating this el duderino - super cool, whatevs, called it off ... and was actually in the middle of conducting my OkCupid experiment ... so rebounding, was pretty damn easy. I went out on a date with this nerd, and had a bitchin time. He's in the public eye in his own right, so he didn't get all fanboyish - just shot the shit, kept me on my toes, and totally kept it real. So rad - total turn on. First date, we had some hot and heavy petting (translation: first base, and stole second). Second date, we just hung out and grabbed coffee - light kiss on the cheek ... called it a day.

A few days passed, my work schedule didn't let up ... and in came his birthday. I have radar for that sort of thing, I always end up dating a dude around his birthday. I had a meeting that night, so I couldn't go to his party - but low and behold at 2am my phone rang. HE TOTALLY BOOTY CALLED ME BEFORE THE THIRD DATE!!!!! Now, you have to understand all that lead up to this. 1. I had just gotten out of a thing with someone. 2. I am a horny, horny chick - me & sex go together like peas and carrots. When I don't have sex on a regular basis, I am not a happy camper. 3. We had two awesome dates, and the guy is smokin hot. So, of course I told him to come over. I opened the door to the condo, and the dude WREEECCKKKEEDDDD of alcohol. Like literally, I don't even know how he was standing. It just ... eckkkkk ... either way, I took advantage of him and totally jumped his bones. It wasn't earth shattering, but certainly better than sitting at my computer testing some of my marketing theories. Yes, that's right dude - I said sex with you was better than sitting in a dark room lit only by the glow of my macbook pro at 2am with infomercials blaring in the background. Not so good ...

He woke up the next morning and was all "omg, I'm going to throw up." Yeah, I cannot imagine anything less sexy. Given, I have totally been in those shoes - but I was 21. I feel like when you get past your 20s and you're still pulling that shit, there might be a problem. He left, and a few days went by before I got another call at 2am. He was like, what are you doing asleep? I said, I wasn't asleep - I was at a strip club with 3 of my friends.  (Side note: We were walking back from Happy Endings - my fav LA bar, pretty toasty, and these dudes came up to us and asked if we wanted to hang out with them at the Seventh Veil. I was all, sure thing! Pay for our tickets. They obliged, and away we went ...) So yeah ... back to the dude - he called me RIGHT then. I invited him to come hang with us, which of course he did ... what dude wouldn't when you hear the chick you're with is at a strip club. Between the alcohol and the sexual stimulation from the booby club, my engines were perfectly revved, and uh - yeah.

That night, he had really opened up to me. Saying how he was looking for a "good girl" and all that snazzy jazzy stuff. Not that I'd EVER consider myself a good girl, but looks can be deceiving. He was really sweet, but he was totally confusing sex with intimacy. Fact: I wanted to jump your bones, so I did. I see what I want, and I break situations down to figure out how to get it. There was an obvious mutual attraction, so this was a no brainer. This guy has since proceeded to call/ text/ and whatever me a few times a week since the last time I saw him. I kinda feel bad. We only had sex twice, but he calls me at all hours of the day and night asking to hang out. He drinks WAYYYY too much for my taste, and honestly, that is one thing that is a deal breaker for me. Being blackout drunk isn't sexy - and I used you for sex. I am really sorry that this is sounding as brutal as it is - but I can't help it. You were super smart, and super hot ... but chicks have needs too. You can't turn a booty call into a relationship, and I have a feeling that is what this dude was looking for.

Fact: Every guy I have actually ended up ever dating, I was friends with first. Super lame, I know ... but I always end up dating my guy friends. I don't know why, but if I'm "looking for a relationship" it is the last thing that I get. Hence why I say on my OKCupid profile, I am NOT looking for a relationship. That was intentional. Don't picture me in a white dress ... although here, this is what I look like in one ...

Okay, GREAT! Dating a nerdy chick is all about the mental stimulation. I very literally do not have a type. If you analyze the guys I have dated over the years, not a SINGLE one of them looks alike, because their attractiveness wasn't visual. Looks fade, and frankly - the hotter you are commercially speaking, the more insecure you tend to be, since your value in life is placed solely on your looks.

So yeah, just be smart, stop getting piss drunk which kills brain cells, and if a nerdy chick jumps your bones before you've actually gotten to know her, there's a chance she's just using you for sex.

#Truth

Get over it. I'm sure she has.

10 Fascinating Facts about #Flirting

HMMMM!!! Always knew flirting was fun, but really? Good for you?? Gee gosh jilliky wonkers ... that's just AWESOME!!!

Per Yahoo: So you’ve mastered the art of eye contact and can beckon a romantic prospect with just a few coy glances… but do you really know all there is to know about the fine art of flirting? Just to make sure you’re up to speed, we culled some very surprising information that you can use to your advantage. Read on for some juicy tidbits that may up your meet-cute quotient in no time.

1. Flirting is good for you. Studies show that people who flirt have higher white blood-cell counts, which boost both immunity and health.

2. Think batting your eyelashes is enough? Wrong! All told, scientists say there are 52 “flirting signals” used by humans. Of these, the hair-flip technique is the most common.

3. In some places, flirting is illegal. In Little Rock, AR, an antiquated law is still on the books warning that engaging in playful banter may result in a 30-day jail term. In New York City, another outdated law mandates that men may be fined $25 for gazing lasciviously at a female; a second conviction stipulates the offender wear a pair of blinders whenever he goes out for a walk.

4. Why wait for Friday? Lots of people get their flirt on during their morning commute. A full 62 percent of drivers have flirted with someone in a different vehicle while on the go, and 31 percent of those flirtations, it turns out, resulted in a date.

5. Flirting need not occur face to face. According to the Pew Research Center, 40 percent of people who look for love online say they can easily flirt with someone via email or IM.

6. In the Victorian era, fans were the ultimate playful props that could communicate all sorts of messages. A fan placed near the heart meant “You have won my love.” A half-opened fan pressed to the lips was an invitation, saying, “You may kiss me.” Hiding the eyes behind an open fan meant “I love you,” while opening and closing the fan several times was a chastisement, implying, “You are cruel.” Given how much a fan could come in handy, it’s a shame they ever invented air conditioning.

7. These days, cell phones do the flirting for you. In one survey, half of all mobile phone users have texted flirty messages to keep things interesting while separated from their amour.

8. Watch out; you can overdo it. According to the Social Issues Research Centre, the most common mistake people make when flirting is maintaining too much eye contact.

9. Sometimes, flirty gestures aren’t what they seem to be. Research has shown that men tend to routinely mistake friendly behavior for flirting.

10. Flirting is universal. A woman living in New York City and one in rural Cambodia may not have much in common, but when it comes to attracting a little attention, they both employ the very same move: smiling, arching their eyebrows, then averting their gaze and giggling. Animals flirt, too: birds, reptiles, and even fish have their own way of making romantic advances. The moral of the story: If the simple sea bass can act cute in order to further a romantic agenda, you can, too — so give it a go!

Laura Schaefer is the author of Man with Farm Seeks Woman with Tractor: The Best and Worst Personal Ads of All Time.