#RealDeal: High risk, High reward

<editorsnote> Jordan is a dating coach. But not like "a" dating coach ... lemme rephrase that, he is THE dating coach. He has a show on SiriusXM called "Game On" and he's a super smarty pants when it comes to examining social dynamics. No ... like for real. </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger

It’s the fourth quarter. You are on the 40 yard line, and a touch down wins the game. You have line men coming at you when you let it rip down the field. When it works, it is the biggest victory of them all and when it fails, you know you gave it your all. When you sac up and put your neck on the chopping block while you are out, your night can become quite fun. To me, this is what it’s all about.

You never know what you are going to get. When it works, it’s great. When it fails, you’ll probably have some girl chewing you out or maybe even have a drink thrown in your face. It’s a gamble, but sometimes you have to go all in. You will miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Meeting women can be a gamble. You never know if she’s having a bad day. You don’t know if that dude behind her is her boyfriend, and you will have no idea if you have a shot with her until you roll over and say hi. After that, it becomes a process to get her to laugh and loosen up a bit. Assuming that it’s going well, you have to sac up and make your move. Whether it’s kissing her, asking her to come home with you or just grabbing her number, you have to do something.

How could being so forward and brash work? Let’s face it. Women are attracted to confident men. A man who is secure enough to stick his neck out there is going to come off as very sexy to a women. We have all seen a woman with an arrogant loudmouth boyfriend and think to ourselves, “Why is she with him?” Because of his brashness, he is showing confidence in himself. Most women have no choice but to be at least a little attracted.

Though this tactic can be very fun and quite effective, if you are not comfortable in your own skin and do not have a positive and fun attitude, it can be really bad. You can come off looking like you are trying too hard. If you come off as incongruent, it will be hard for women to take you seriously.

A good smile will go a long way. When you go for the Hail Mary, sometimes you can push a little too far. You’ll know because her reaction will be not so favorable. All I can tell you is that when this happens, the best thing you can do is put on the biggest smile you possibly can. I have stood there with a big smile many times after pushing it a little too far. It can be quite fun seeing how much you can get away with.

The hardest part about being such a gambler, is knowing when to stop. You have to be smart enough to know when you have won the battle, and when to walk away. When you have a bit of success and see her smile, you will feel the urge to continue to do it. Tease her too much and you will look like a fool. Once you have her attention, stop trying to get more of her attention.

There is so much you can do, from calling girls out on silly stuff to being quite bold and escalating quickly. There was a very popular episode of “How I Met Your Mother” called The Naked Man. For those of you who have not seen this episode, The Naked Man technique is used when you have completed a date with a girl that probably isn’t all that interested in you. You find an excuse to get in her place (or her into your’s). You go into your bedroom/bathroom, remove all of your clothes and come out naked. She will either be shocked and disgusted, or will go for it thinking, “Why not?” They say it works two out of three times.

Guys, you don’t get much in life without taking any risks, so go out there and have some fun!

#nerdsunite

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