#NerdsUnite: How Women Reveal Your Value

<editorsnote> Jordan is a dating coach. But not like "a" dating coach ... lemme rephrase that, he is THE dating coach. He has a show on SiriusXM called "Game On" and he's a super smarty pants when it comes to examining social dynamics. No ... like for real. </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger

What happens when someone powerful, with high ‘value’ walks into a room, ie. the CEO of your company, or a celebrity?

Everyone in the room suddenly becomes ‘nice.’

If you walked into a room and didn’t know anyone there, but you noticed that everyone in the room was being ‘nice’ to one person who was being confident and doing as they pleased, what would you assume about the ‘status’ of that one person? This is exactly how women who don’t know you determine YOUR status.

Women seek the security and comfort of being with confident, powerful, high-status men. Why? It’s relaxing. You always know where you stand when you are around confident, powerful, high-status men because they are not afraid to tell you. And you know that whatever happens, the confident, powerful, high-status man will be able to handle it. And you know that if he wants something, he will make bold moves to get it.

Women HATE having to take the lead and make all the moves. Most guys think they are being kind by offering the woman control over an interaction or a date, but they will be made uncomfortable by your ‘niceness.’ Asking a woman if she wants to go out with you demands that she show interest before you. Asking a woman what she would like to do on your date demands that she take charge of your time together and accept the risk if things don’t go well.

So why is ‘niceness’ and any kind of people-pleasing behavior disappointing to women? Exhibiting these behaviors instantly tells women that you are not the confident, powerful, high-status man. If she was interested in you when she first saw you, it will be disappointing to her to discover that you are not the guy she hoped you were. If she wasn’t interested in you at first, she won’t START getting interested when you exhibit low-status behaviors.

I was out with a few buddies and noticed that they were suddenly transfixed by a very hot ’10′ woman sitting across the bar. I walked up and sat down right next to her. She turned to me and said “This better be good.”

That statement was the most revealing thing I had ever heard.

She didn’t say “get away from me” or ignore me. She TURNED TO ME (a show of interest) and said “This better be good.” Her behavior meant something else. It meant “I was impressed by the courage it took to roll up to me…don’t disappoint me.”

Well, I fucked up that interaction, and so did my friends who then attempted to come over and be my ‘wings.’ But I left with a valuable lesson:

Ultimately, women WANT you to be the confident, powerful, high-status man. It doesn’t mean you have to be rich, a celebrity, or a CEO. It just means that you believe in yourself (you’re confident that no matter what happens or what she throws at you, you’ll handle it), you have a purpose, and you have a high sense of self-worth. Don’t disappoint them.

#nerdsunite

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Editors Footnote: I AGREE!!!!!!! I HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE MAKING THE MOVES!!! GROW A PAIR MEN!!!! STEP UP TO THE PLATE!!! LET ME BE THE CHICK!!! K ... BYE.