#TMI: My husband wants to have a three-way
Sunday, February 6, 2011 at 10:35AM#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @JenSquard
I don’t know about this. And I’m sure this is entirely too much info, but who else am I going to talk to about? So you are stuck with it! Bwaaahahahaha!
We have talked about this before, but he dropped it when I reminded him that he would have to watch another guy (um, yeah, cause that’s the ONLY way it would even be remotely possible) pleasuring me. I gave him all sorts of visuals, and didn’t hear anything about it for a while....but lately...we talk about it A LOT.
Here’s the weird thing - he is okay with just about anything as long as he is there for it. He considers oral sex to be similar to kissing - so not a big deal. Um, wrong. So basically as long as he is there and I want to makeout or blow or get blown, it’s okay. He just wants to be able to see and approve of it and have the option of joining.
I’m not convinced about all of this. Maybe it’s because I’m a chick. Maybe it’s because of our history (get the rundown here). Either way, threesomes and groupies sound fun until you are in love with someone, then not so much. He says its because its naughty...and that watching me be pleasured turns him on. I just know it makes our sex life feel a little inadequate. I get the whole naughty thing....but I also get the aftermath, the insecurities and the major issues it would most likely create.
I would really appreciate some feedback on this one. Have you had a groupy? How do you feel about it? Any advice or input? Am I just being a sensitive boob or is it actually a lot to take in?
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Reader Comments (2)
I know for my part I had a relationship that tried the three way thing and it's a bad idea unless you are both really into that sort of thing. The aftermath is very dangerous. The second guessing the wondering if so and so was better. Sure it's naughty and apealing but as far as a three way would go I would say try swinging first. where its two couples you and ur man, and another couple you're into and trust. That way its not you wondering about one person. It's got the makings of a closer friendship between you all. So yeah as far as three ways go I'd avoid em.
That's exactly what I am thinking. I'm not an insecure person, but I think that insecurity is unavoidable if it if with someone you love. So maybe we will just keep talking about it alllllll the time. Thanks a million billion for your imput, I very very much appreciate it!