Fun with #OkCupid: 3 different emails ... 3 different responses

First up, if you haven't read my OKC profile - you can check it out over yonder. Might make some sense to the things guys reply to, haha. But for reals, these are all actual emails I've received recently, and my actual responses back to them. It is through this transparent experience that I hope you all can take away some knowledge on what works and what doesn't in the hopes of making your online dating experiences that much more fanschmastically awesome. YAYYYY ONLINE DATING YAYYY!!! K ... cool ... here we go ...

Wait, hold the phone - the VERY first thing the dude starts out with is, "I'm sure you're not going to get the time to read this ..." Of COURSE I read everything - I'm actually looking to date, so why wouldn't I be reading everything? This shows me a strong lack of confidence on his end and is totes no bueno. 

Actual Response: None

This is a GREAT email. He's being complimentary without kissing my ass ... he's confident, but not cocky and seemed genuinely interested in what I'm doing which of course peaks my interest. (At the end of the day the first email always always always has to be about the female.) I could tell this guy actually read my profile since he pulled a few details from it, and his personality jumps off the page! 

Actual Response: ello Tom! 

well thanks for reaching out! greatly appreciated ... best part about couch surfing was the ability to work a solid hustle morning noon and night. you can't sleep in when you're on a couch - gotta get up and get moving!! =)

This one confuses me a bit. He's about to check out the page, but he thinks it's genius. How does one know that if you haven't actually checked it out? All based off the idea? okay ... I kinda get it. 

You then want to help me build off of it with something you have, but again - you haven't checked anything out, so where is the value add in this for me? 

You've been meaning to message me, but you're swamped? What is it that you're doing now? Not messaging me? 

I can tell this guy is going 100 mph and is more likely than not about to crash into a wall. He seems too all over the place for me, and while I am glad he sees the value in what I'm doing I'm absolutely absolutely absolutely not interested in dating or working with him. 

Actual response: None

There ya go nerderinos. Best of luck out there!!!

#love

#WTF: This is not @okcupid - I'm calling your bluff

Yesterday I was introduced to the tumblr This is not OkCupid. It's this chickadee that is posting the emails dudes send to her from OKC. 

I went through a bunch of her emails, and I have to call this chick's bluff. She's GOT to talk about oral sex or some sort of ... something sexually suggestive in her profile. Every other email is some dude asking to fuck her. I'm not mad at that, yes, you can get emails like that on OKC, but it's not that common - it is more of a one off deal.

I went through my inbox this morning, and out of the 192 active conversations I am having, there are less than 10% that are overtly sexually suggestive.

Actually ever since I changed my profile default to this ...

... these have been the majority of the messages I've been receiving ... 

And then of course there's always these ... 

Guys won't send you over the top sexual messages unless you have something for them to go off of in your profile. It's just not gonna happen!!!! I've been doing this for almost a year at this point!!! 

Plus too, she's not posting her username so you can view the actual profile, and I highly highly highly doubt that she has a disclaimer in her profile that she is posting the results which makes it all superly duperly lame since she is posting their avatars with the messages. 

I ain't hating on the chiquita banana, I think what she's doing is great! But supply full disclosure, otherwise you're being a lamer damer. And we all know, no one ... and I mean no one ... likes a lamer damer. 

Well, except Debbie. But she'd never admit it. 

Click here to check out the site for yourself.

I'm curious to know your thoughts. Do you think she should disclose to dudes that she is posting their messages? 

#nerdsunite

Fun with #OkCupid: Best. Email. Ever!

HAHA!! And just when I was thinking my OKC account was getting stale ... looky looky the email I just got: 

HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAAHAHAH!!!

He made a funny that was actually funny ... bwahhahaha!! 

Dude, the only thing I could imagine being remotely better would be a pop up of a squirrel with lots of shiny bracelets. 

Amazing - and totally got an email back. 

#SQUIRREL

Live in LA and wanna date? Click here to send me a message on OKC!