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Tuesday
Dec282010

Ricky Gervais explains why he is an #atheist. I couldn't agree more.

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @JenSquard

This is an essay from Ricky Gervais for the Wall Street Journal:

Why don’t you believe in God? I get that question all the time. I always try to give a sensitive, reasoned answer. This is usually awkward, time consuming and pointless. People who believe in God don’t need proof of his existence, and they certainly don’t want evidence to the contrary. They are happy with their belief. They even say things like “it’s true to me” and “it’s faith.” I still give my logical answer because I feel that not being honest would be patronizing and impolite. It is ironic therefore that “I don’t believe in God because there is absolutely no scientific evidence for his existence and from what I’ve heard the very definition is a logical impossibility in this known universe,” comes across as both patronizing and impolite.

Arrogance is another accusation. Which seems particularly unfair. Science seeks the truth. And it does not discriminate. For better or worse it finds things out. Science is humble. It knows what it knows and it knows what it doesn’t know. It bases its conclusions and beliefs on hard evidence -­- evidence that is constantly updated and upgraded. It doesn’t get offended when new facts come along. It embraces the body of knowledge. It doesn’t hold on to medieval practices because they are tradition. If it did, you wouldn’t get a shot of penicillin, you’d pop a leach down your trousers and pray. Whatever you “believe,” this is not as effective as medicine. Again you can say, “It works for me,” but so do placebos. My point being, I’m saying God doesn’t exist. I’m not saying faith doesn’t exist. I know faith exists. I see it all the time. But believing in something doesn’t make it true. Hoping that something is true doesn’t make it true. The existence of God is not subjective. He either exists or he doesn’t. It’s not a matter of opinion. You can have your own opinions. But you can’t have your own facts.

Why don’t I believe in God? No, no no, why do YOU believe in God? Surely the burden of proof is on the believer. You started all this. If I came up to you and said, “Why don’t you believe I can fly?” You’d say, “Why would I?” I’d reply, “Because it’s a matter of faith.” If I then said, “Prove I can’t fly. Prove I can’t fly see, see, you can’t prove it can you?” You’d probably either walk away, call security or throw me out of the window and shout, ‘’F—ing fly then you lunatic.”

This, is of course a spirituality issue, religion is a different matter. As an atheist, I see nothing “wrong” in believing in a god. I don’t think there is a god, but belief in him does no harm. If it helps you in any way, then that’s fine with me. It’s when belief starts infringing on other people’s rights when it worries me. I would never deny your right to believe in a god. I would just rather you didn’t kill people who believe in a different god, say. Or stone someone to death because your rulebook says their sexuality is immoral. It’s strange that anyone who believes that an all-powerful all-knowing, omniscient power responsible for everything that happens, would also want to judge and punish people for what they are. From what I can gather, pretty much the worst type of person you can be is an atheist. The first four commandments hammer this point home. There is a god, I’m him, no one else is, you’re not as good and don’t forget it. (Don’t murder anyone, doesn’t get a mention till number 6.)

When confronted with anyone who holds my lack of religious faith in such contempt, I say, “It’s the way God made me.”

But what are atheists really being accused of?

The dictionary definition of God is “a supernatural creator and overseer of the universe.” Included in this definition are all deities, goddesses and supernatural beings. Since the beginning of recorded history, which is defined by the invention of writing by the Sumerians around 6,000 years ago, historians have cataloged over 3700 supernatural beings, of which 2870 can be considered deities.

So next time someone tells me they believe in God, I’ll say “Oh which one? Zeus? Hades? Jupiter? Mars? Odin? Thor? Krishna? Vishnu? Ra?…” If they say “Just God. I only believe in the one God,” I’ll point out that they are nearly as atheistic as me. I don’t believe in 2,870 gods, and they don’t believe in 2,869.

I used to believe in God. The Christian one that is.

I loved Jesus. He was my hero. More than pop stars. More than footballers. More than God. God was by definition omnipotent and perfect. Jesus was a man. He had to work at it. He had temptation but defeated sin. He had integrity and courage. But He was my hero because He was kind. And He was kind to everyone. He didn’t bow to peer pressure or tyranny or cruelty. He didn’t care who you were. He loved you. What a guy. I wanted to be just like Him.

One day when I was about 8 years old, I was drawing the crucifixion as part of my Bible studies homework. I loved art too. And nature. I loved how God made all the animals. They were also perfect. Unconditionally beautiful. It was an amazing world.

I lived in a very poor, working-class estate in an urban sprawl called Reading, about 40 miles west of London. My father was a laborer and my mother was a housewife. I was never ashamed of poverty. It was almost noble. Also, everyone I knew was in the same situation, and I had everything I needed. School was free. My clothes were cheap and always clean and ironed. And mum was always cooking. She was cooking the day I was drawing on the cross.

I was sitting at the kitchen table when my brother came home. He was 11 years older than me, so he would have been 19. He was as smart as anyone I knew, but he was too cheeky. He would answer back and get into trouble. I was a good boy. I went to church and believed in God -– what a relief for a working-class mother. You see, growing up where I did, mums didn’t hope as high as their kids growing up to be doctors; they just hoped their kids didn’t go to jail. So bring them up believing in God and they’ll be good and law abiding. It’s a perfect system. Well, nearly. 75 percent of Americans are God-­‐fearing Christians; 75 percent of prisoners are God-­‐fearing Christians. 10 percent of Americans are atheists; 0.2 percent of prisoners are atheists.

But anyway, there I was happily drawing my hero when my big brother Bob asked, “Why do you believe in God?” Just a simple question. But my mum panicked. “Bob,” she said in a tone that I knew meant, “Shut up.” Why was that a bad thing to ask? If there was a God and my faith was strong it didn’t matter what people said.

Oh…hang on. There is no God. He knows it, and she knows it deep down. It was as simple as that. I started thinking about it and asking more questions, and within an hour, I was an atheist.

Wow. No God. If mum had lied to me about God, had she also lied to me about Santa? Yes, of course, but who cares? The gifts kept coming. And so did the gifts of my new found atheism. The gifts of truth, science, nature. The real beauty of this world. I learned of evolution -– a theory so simple that only England’s greatest genius could have come up with it. Evolution of plants, animals and us –- with imagination, free will, love, humor. I no longer needed a reason for my existence, just a reason to live. And imagination, free will, love, humor, fun, music, sports, beer and pizza are all good enough reasons for living.

But living an honest life -– for that you need the truth. That’s the other thing I learned that day, that the truth, however shocking or uncomfortable, in the end leads to liberation and dignity.

So what does the question “Why don’t you believe in God?” really mean. I think when someone asks that they are really questioning their own belief. In a way they are asking “what makes you so special? “How come you weren’t brainwashed with the rest of us?” “How dare you say I’m a fool and I’m not going to heaven, f— you!” Let’s be honest, if one person believed in God he would be considered pretty strange. But because it’s a very popular view it’s accepted. And why is it such a popular view? That’s obvious. It’s an attractive proposition. Believe in me and live forever. Again if it was just a case of spirituality this would be fine.

“Do unto others…” is a good rule of thumb. I live by that. Forgiveness is probably the greatest virtue there is. But that’s exactly what it is -­‐ a virtue. Not just a Christian virtue. No one owns being good. I’m good. I just don’t believe I’ll be rewarded for it in heaven. My reward is here and now. It’s knowing that I try to do the right thing. That I lived a good life. And that’s where spirituality really lost its way. When it became a stick to beat people with. “Do this or you’ll burn in hell.”

You won’t burn in hell. But be nice anyway.

Want more?  Ricky answers some reader's questions - this man = amazing. Does God Exist? Ricky Gervais Takes Your Questions]

I totally totally agree.  I'm a scientist, so the religion thing is a definite challenge for me.  I live in a very religious and conservative town, and around here, athiest means devil worshiper.  I don't feel like I need religion to make me a good person.  I know the right from wrong.  I make my own decisions.  If you want to be a good person, just be a good person, don't do it because of the rewards or consequences.  I would love love love to believe in ghosts, vampires and mermaids...but until I get some proof, I just can't.  I don't have faith, and I don't understand anything I can't see (which is why I'm not a microbiologist - that shit just doesn't compute!).  So thank you, Ricky, I appreciate your take on it, and I appreciate having new ammo in my arsenal. Religion has always made me really uncomfortable, and I hate being judged for it, that is just such bullshevik. 

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Tuesday
Dec282010

#NaughtyMommy Happenings - Potty Training

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Potty training your kids is this weird mixed bag of issues.  It's a great thing to do, and it's exciting because diapers are the grossest most expensive things EVER.  And not having to deal with them is AMAZAZAZAZING.  But potty training also means that your little baby isn't a baby anymore, and is actually a kid.  Sad face.  It's also hard work.  Like way hard, especially for boys (as I am finding).  I have wood floors, so I have it a little easier than people with carpet - if they pee on the floor, meh, whatever.  But today my son totally peed on my shoes!  Ewwww.  At least I wasn't wearing them, but I was definitely right next to them and got some splashage.  Ugh.

Here's the weird thing about my son - he is an emotional pee-er.  He does really great with holding it and all that until his sister makes him cry.  Then he just pees everywhere.  What the frick is up with that?  Seriously, as I am writing this, he tripped, started crying, then came over and peed on my effing feet again!  WHAT A WEIRDO!

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Tuesday
Dec282010

#Twitter totally gets me - and thinks I'm similar to @SethGreen!

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @JenSquard

Ooooh, Twitter....are you trying to flatter me into putting out?  Because you are sooooo on the right track, my friend! 

Okay, I know these things pop up all the time and I honestly rarely pay any attention to them...but really?  How did they know that I am similar to Seth Green?  Because I totally am.  We are basically best friends forever that haven't even met.  I fell in love with the hubbard when he completed an Austin Powers quote.  For reals, Seth Green is one of my very faves, and seems like a normal person...which I totally am.  See the similarities?  You are spot on, Twitter.  Thanks for finally pointing it out. 

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Monday
Dec272010

#NaughtyMommy Happenings - My daughter looks like a monster...kind of.

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @JenSquard

My little baby is sooooo super cute.  Like beyond cute, and not just because I'm her mom.  She smiles and plays and sleeps and eats.  And that's it.  She doesn't cry, like ever, and she giggles over the littlest things, especially tickles.  When she smiles, she crinkles up her nose, and her cheeks puff out over her high cheekbones.  She has these ridiculously big blue eyes, and crazy ass hair that sticks up all over the place.  She mostly just cracks me up constantly.  But I just can't decide: does she look more like Baby Grinch or Baby Sinclair?

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Monday
Dec272010

#Lame: Facebook goes down like a meth head at a punk show.

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Fix it.  I gots peeps to get my social on wit.