#NerdsUnite: The Diversion Tactic to Spice Up Your Sex Life

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Fabio. Yes. Real name. We're friends in the digispace and he owns and blogs at the fantastically awesome site LetsTalkSex.net. He's here today to share one of his latest and greatest tips on sex, and I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT FABIO!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Fabio Black

Question: Do you yawn every time you get an erection? So bored that you see sex like a shift without a lunch break? Would you rather study the biology of a Trochodendron Nastae than take off your clothes and have sex?

Stop right there. Slap your face. Harder. Hardeeer! :)

Let's play with awareness.

When you do the same routine over and over again, you lose awareness. You go into autopilot mode. It's like if your mind says: "All right I am not needed here, the body is gonna do it, I can think about beer".

Have you ever driven your car to work and found out that you got to your destination without even realizing it? You don't remember the details of the trip, you don't remember what was going on around you because your mind was thinking about your colleague's mini skirt and your body was driving the car unconsciously.

Now, imagine that one day you jump in your car, you take the same street as usual, but that day someone decided to do a public protest in the streets against boring sex ;) and there is a pretty damn big road block.

You will need to take a different and unexplored route.

What would happen? I bet you'd be very careful of the streets around you, you'd be extremely aware of this brand new environment. The same thing happens with sex. If you keep following the same routine over and over, you'll lose awareness, your sensations become numb, and the sex gets boring.

Go on diversion for one day. Explore new territories (a Jack Sparrow hat will certainly help): have sex in different rooms. Be flexible and creative. Instead of using the kitchen to eat and the bedroom to have sex, reverse the roles. If you, like most men, don't care that much about the quality of your sex because you just want to dunk the biscuit, that's ok, but remember that women are more sensitive and they love these things.

Nature wants to protect you, it wants you to survive. So when you are in an unexplored situation, it makes you more alert, more sensitive, that means you'll feel new and stronger sensations.

Some of the things you can try are:

• Sex in the kitchen, on the table
• On the floor in the corridor
• Against the wall, or against the front door (the risk of being caught by the neighbors will surely make you more aware)
• In the bathroom in front of a mirror
• On the bed upside down
• In the fridge between the milk and the carrots :)
• On a chair in the lounge room and so on.

And you know what else is gonna happen? When you're having sex in new unexplored places your usual positions will feel slightly different and even if you won't notice it (especially if you're drunk) she will (even if she's drunk) and she'll love it. (Note: I highly recommend you to wear some shining armour when trying these techniques in order to protect your back from her scratches.)

So, explore new areas of your house, and have sex in as many corners as you can. Cover every square meter of your house with <del>sperm</del> love.

Getting greedy? Wanting more and more and better and better sex? Like boobs? All right! You are in the right place! Fabio Black writes about sex, boobs and sex. But without too much focus on the boobs. Click here for more information.

Have Fun!

#thatisall

Fabio Black writes about sex, sex and sex. But not necessarily in that order. Read more about him here.

#NerdsUnite: How to Prepare Before Meeting Her Parents

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Brenda Lyttle

How many times have you heard of stories of friends screwing up when they have been asked to meet the parents of their beloved women? Well, let’s be honest, dating a woman and meeting her parents to take it up a notch are two completely different ball games and it will need you to up your game appropriately in order to ensure that you don’t join the long list of men who are remembered as people who screwed up at the most important time.

Meeting the parents, if goes well, is an activity that can boost your relationship quotient and strengthen the bond that the two of you share. On the other hand, a failed meet will surely spell doom for you and your partner. Nervous, much? Well, after successfully using all the dating advice for men that’s available, now is the time for you to make use of the following 2 tips to perfection to make a stunning impression on her parents, like the way you did when you met their daughter for the first time:

1.Dress To Impress

Go back to the oldest cliché that is there in the boom for creating impressions during dating and meeting her parents and adhere to the motto that ‘the first impression is the last impression’. Well, how can you be going around making some seriously positive impressions about yourself and the relationship? The easiest and most obvious answer will be the choice of dress that you have for the all-important meeting.

It is necessary that you dress perfectly for the occasion taking care that you are neither over emphasizing on it neither are you ignoring it too much. This will ensure that you create the right amount of perfect impression on the parents of your partner and in the process win the first round in impressing them. You can ask your girlfriend about the gathering that you can expect for the meeting and the tastes, likes and dislikes of her parents when you are trying to choose the right dress for the occasion.

2. Be The Perfect Balance

No parents like to have their daughter in the hands of a man who is unsure about his career. This is why it is important that you are able to advertise yourself and your career properly in front of the parents in order to win their heart and consent. At the same time you will need to ensure that you are not being overtly proud about your achievements in front of the parents of your partner.

This is why it is important to learn how to strike the sweet spot of balance between prides and overtly modest when you are discussing your career with the parents. Remember that it is not a job interview with a CV and resume and the whole affair, you just need to be honest, humble and forthcoming in the right extent to make yourself a hit with her folks.

Add to these 2 extremely important tips the likes of grooming yourself for the occasion and ensuring that you have all the stories and incidents sorted between the two of you, and you just have the recipe for a perfect ‘meet her parents’ scenario.

#nerdsunite

#RealDeal: The Five Self-Proclaimed “Nerds” to Avoid on Dating Sites

<editorsnote> Steven Cobb is a professional web developer and an amateur dating coach who is passionate about helping men and women find their perfect match. He lives in the Bay Area with his family. Among his current projects is online publishing for DatingMoxie.com, a website that reviews and analyzes the biggest brand names out there in online dating. </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Steven Cobb

So, you finally signed up for a dating website, and you’re browsing people’s profiles. The problem is that it’s really hard to decide who, if anyone, you want to try talking to. Some people are obvious rejects: the ones who expressly state that they are looking for the opposite of what you want, the guys that put “killing puppies” under hobbies, the girls who have 3 kids but say that they’re “waiting until marriage”- these are easy to spot.

Sometimes though, it’s not that obvious. You’re a self-proclaimed nerd and you’re looking to find someone who also appreciates the nerd lifestyle. Unfortunately, this does not narrow your choices, because it seems like just about everyone and their gangster brother is describing themselves as nerds these days. But there are certain indicators that the nerd in question is someone you should avoid. Here are the terms that people use to describe themselves that imply that you may be better off just clicking the “next” button.

The “Insert Movie/ Book Title Here” Nerd

Pop culture is great. Geek Culture is better. And getting caught up in a fantasy world is a lot of fun. But you are on a dating website. If you are defining yourself by a movie about wizards or a book series about vampires, elves, dwarves, or all of the above, you are telling potential mates that they had better appreciate that book or it is over. There are a lot of “nerd” trends out there. To limit yourself to one seems pretty confining, doesn’t it? So avoid this close-minded person unless you’re just as obsessed about that one fantasy tome as they are.

The “I look kinda nerdy, but…” Nerd

Again, some of these things are perfectly acceptable for people to say in everyday conversation. But the fact that they are putting this in a public forum that they are trying to woo people with changes things. The information in this profile should be things that are either important to them or define them. This person is obviously self-conscious about their looks. They do not embrace their nerdiness and are probably not happy with their lives. The same can be said about the variation - the “Yeah, I look like a nerd, whatcha gunna do ‘bout it?” type. These people are just as self-conscious, but are more aggressive about it. You know the old saying that you have to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with somebody else? You also don’t want to date someone who is not happy with themselves, because they will never be happy with you.

The “My humor is too nerdy for you” Nerd

This person is a hipster-snob who knows all things nerd. Mere mortal nerds will never be good enough for them. They probably know canon for every superhero comic and have every elemental table joke known to man memorized. Don’t waste your time trying to please this person; they are probably compensating for something anyway.

The “I spend all my spare time organizing my Magic Card collection” Nerd

This statement is obviously not true, because this person created an online dating profile. Also, these are as bad as the first type of nerd because they limit themselves to one interest. You want someone a little more well-rounded than that, don’t you? If they need to define themselves by one thing, doesn’t that raise a flag about the other aspects of their lives (which hopefully exist).

The L33T 5p34k-3r

R34lly? You’re going to strain the eyes of potential dates by making them replace numbers with letters in their minds? Yeah, there are two main reasons this is a bad plan. 1). That’s too much effort. 2). If you’re using a so-called “elite” language, you go into the 3^rd type of nerd category. These people are trying way too hard and probably use video games to escape from their depressing lives.

These are just a few of the stereotypes people use to describe themselves that indicate they are probably not a desirable person to be in a relationship with. Are there more that you’ve stumbled across that the world should be aware of?

#nerdsunite