#NerdsUnite: Spreading seeds in the key of Doc Brown

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Fabio. Yes. Real name. We're friends in the digispace and he owns and blogs at the fantastically awesome site LetsTalkSex.net. He's here today to share one of his latest and greatest tips on sex, and I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT FABIO!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Fabio Black

If you happen to meet Doc from “Back to the Future” you should definitely ask to be taken for a trip to prehistoric times.

As a quick ejaculator, you’d have a few advantages living back then.

1) You would be able to fertilize a woman quickly

2) You could fertilize many women

3) You could fertilize a woman even if a leopard was around the corner

4) You could quickly fertilize a woman at the second attempt if the first hadn’t “gone through”

5) You could quickly fertilize someone else’s woman

Your genes would be safe and you’d be a happy man.

Men used to envy quick ejaculators because they were the ones with the largest amount of offspring, biggest tribe and the most power, and maybe because they used to screw all the women so quickly that no one was ever able to see them doing it!

If instead you’re curious and can’t help yourself but ask super Doc to be taken to the future you’d find your quick ejaculation skills quite out of place.

In a world where kids become a less and less popular option, your quick ejaculation is only useful to clean your prostate.

You’d have the cleanest prostate in the world, but nothing more.

As a consequence of the evolution you’d notice that everyone in the future is naturally able to consciously control their ejaculation. You’d be out of place, super jealous and unable to learn a skill everyone instinctively masters.

If you meet Doc from "Back to the Future", just ignore him and look straight ahead, because the best moment for you is not the past or the future, it’s now. Now we are in a transition phase when men are adapting to their environment and going from being quick ejaculators into being conscious ejaculators.

You were born in the right time.

Now is the moment.

#thatisall

Fabio Black writes about sex, sex and sex. But not necessarily in that order. Read more about him here.

#NerdsUnite: Past the point of no return (a lesson on sexual timing)

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Fabio. Yes. Real name. We're friends in the digispace and he owns and blogs at the fantastically awesome site LetsTalkSex.net. He's here today to share one of his latest and greatest tips on sex, and I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT FABIO!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Fabio Black

First thing you need to understand is that you can get close to the point of no return or point of ejaculatory inevitability simply by thinking. As I told you in my post about perception and lasting longer, some people can actually get so excited and even come without a sexy lady touching them at all.

This is one of the greatest mistakes you can make. You come quickly but think you can afford to start taking control of your ejaculation only when you’re about to have sex.

And then if someone asks you why you come quickly you would say: “Oh, it’s because I feel very excited and as soon as she touches or licks me I feel very close to coming and then… then I try to do everything possible to stop myself… and then I come”.

You feel kind of surprised by the ejaculation, as if it betrays you, or happens without giving you any notice.

But it did not.

The ejaculation did give you notice, it always does, the problem is that you have no ears to listen.
You must start and take action way before you enter the bedroom. You must take action the moment you feel you’re getting aroused.

Letting the arousal build up in your body and remembering about it only when you’re almost penetrating her is a key strategy to failure.

That’s nonsense. Nonsense a lot of men go through.

I’m sure that if you were like I was, you start getting aroused way before she’s naked with her legs spread in your bed.

Maybe you get aroused in the street when taking her to your door, or when she texts you saying she’s coming to your place tonight.

That’s when you start getting hard and paradoxically, that’s the moment when you need to start to relax. Yes, way before sex.

Your ejaculation process starts when your erection is initiating, and you want to start taking control of this process when it’s a “little cub” and not when it becomes an overwhelming monster!

Be careful of the word “relax”. It’s a big, huge word, one of the most useless words in the human dictionary.
You need to know exactly what to relax and how to relax it. Some of the most critical muscles you need to relax are the muscles in your pelvic floor. But how can you relax these tiny muscles if you can’t even feel if your back or buttocks are relaxed?

Start practicing feeling your big muscles first. It takes patience and practice. But if you start relaxing your back or your thighs or you abdomen you’ll be on the right path.

Your mental approach is even more important at this stage though.

I can give you a lot of practical exercises you can do, and I will, but if you don’t believe in your ability to last longer they’ll hardly work for you.

This is why I feel disgusted when I read people who are supposed to be experts, saying that it’s impossible learn how to last longer in bed or that premature ejaculation is incurable. Of course, if you believe so and go to the bedroom with this mindset you won’t go very far.

I can tell you to relax the muscles at the base of your penis, or to learn how to stimulate your shaft more than your glans (penis head) but that’s not gonna work if you don’t believe and envision yourself being able to last longer first of all.

See, imagine yourself having sex with confidence and ease and learn to recognize the moment when you start getting aroused.

Do you start getting aroused when the porn movie is playing or when you think: “I’m gonna watch that porn now”?

Whenever that moment is, start recognizing it.

#thatisall

Fabio Black writes about sex, sex and sex. But not necessarily in that order. Read more about him here.

#NerdsUnite: Why is perception so important in the bedroom?

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Fabio. Yes. Real name. We're friends in the digispace and he owns and blogs at the fantastically awesome site LetsTalkSex.net. He's here today to share one of his latest and greatest tips on sex, and I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT FABIO!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Fabio Black

In your challenge to last longer in bed you need to realize how important a role your perception plays.

First.

Your mind is the biggest and most powerful sexual organ you have. While sleeping, sometimes you get horny and even come without any sexy lady stimulating you.

It all happens in your mind. The dreams you recreate are so vivid and feel so real that your body reacts ejaculating.

If you think this only happens when you sleep, you’re wrong.

While you’re having sex your mind works against you and if you aren’t conscious of what it does you can’t do much, you can’t “fight” it.

After you realize what your mind does to you, you’ll feel determined to take control of it.

I really challenge you to take a pen and a piece of paper and next time you’re having sex, pay attention to what you’re thinking.

It’s gonna be hard, and I tell you, the harder it looks the more you need this exercise. (Unless of course you’re thinking about nothing at all during sex, in which case you don’t need this post).

Pay attention to what you’re thinking and write it down when you finish. Write down all the images that flash in your mind, all the voices you hear…

You’ll realize that a lot of crap is going on in your head while having sex. And it’s this crap that makes you come sooner that you would like.

Second.

Perception is your ally. Write this word around your bedroom to help you remember. Remember to stay in the moment, feel the sensations in your body and “relax into them”.

The idea of relaxing yourself “into your sensations” might sound strange until you try it. When you feel pleasure and your body is not used to it, it will contract and the contraction will lead you closer and closer to ejaculation.

Your genitals, penis and pelvic muscles are the ones that contract the most. Your back and shoulders follow.

Relax.

Go with the pleasure.

When you feel pleasure in a specific area of your body, know that in that specific point you’re also feeling a contraction. Release it! And breathe.

Take your time. Go slowly. Breathe.

There is no hurry.

Let your body relax in the moment and again, take your bloody time.

After you’ll have exposed your body to pleasure for extended periods of time, it will build a resistance and your stamina will slowly increase.

Remember: No hurry.

#thatisall

Fabio Black writes about sex, sex and sex. But not necessarily in that order. Read more about him here.

#NerdsUnite: The Creativity Tactic to spice up your sex life

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Fabio. Yes. Real name. We're friends in the digispace and he owns and blogs at the fantastically awesome site LetsTalkSex.net. He's here today to share one of his latest and greatest tips on sex, and I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT FABIO!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Fabio Black

So, I’m sure you’re now an expert on the diversion tactic to spice up your sex life, but how did you go with the exploration tactic? Got lost between the round silky hills?

I know how you feel.

The old sage once said:

“Will power is the ability to look a naked woman in the eyes”.

Now, let’s do a little personality test:

If exposed to a heavy, dusty, 2,900 page Chinese grammar book, what is the first thing you would think?

A) Oh yeah, man! Finally something exciting in my life! Let me study it!

B) Oh nooo, Chinese grammar is so boring, almost like having sex with my partner!

C) Chinese?? Why not Korean? At least then I could have translated Gangnam Style!

Whether you chose A, B or C you urgently need to read this post. Actually I suggest you print it, cut it in little pieces, put it in your tea and drink it all in once! (Maybe with a squeeze of lemon :))

We want to spice up your sex life, and tonight we’re going to use the creativity tactic. Creativity can make things very exciting if properly used, so get ready to discover 4 sexy, cheeky games you can enjoy with your partner; the warm alphabet, the sweet honey, the crazy candle and the hidden chocolate.

After you read the instructions for each game below, write them on 4 little pieces of paper (by hand - no computer and no printing, alright?), fold them and place each underneath a candle. Try to choose 4 different candles in different colors and shapes… I know what you are thinking: “Come on, man, do I really need to do all of this??”

This is my answer: no, you don’t need to. You can just dunk your spoon in the milk like anyone can, or break up with your partner, find someone else, wait for your new exciting sex life to become boring again and come back to this website, read this post once more and go for the candles this time… I don’t know, if I were you, I would give it a try tonight.

And by the way, if real candles are too expensive for you, just draw candles on a piece of paper, she’ll smile 100% guaranteed.

Now. Take her into a room of your choice with a comfortable surface for lying down. Switch off the lights, and light up the candles (that at this stage should already be on the table or floor with the instructions underneath them). Play some soft music, ideally from a smooth female singer and explain the rules to her: each of you has to choose a candle, of course she starts, and follow the instructions underneath them.

The Warm Alphabet:

Have your partner take off their underwear and lay down. Then unfold your tongue from your mouth and draw the alphabet on your partner’s jewelry. ;) Do it very slowly and let the jeweler choose the letters.

The Hidden Chocolate:

Blindfold your partner and turn them around (just to be sure they can’t see you), hide a little piece of chocolate somewhere on your body. Then, have them finding it – with their tongue. Hands are strictly not allowed.

The Sweet Honey:

Undress your partner and lay them on their side, naked. Squeeze some honey on their body, starting from the ankle and going up to their tights and hips and underarms and neck. Then slowly lick it away. Mmmm.

The Crazy Candle:

Grab the candle that was covering this piece of paper and put it next to your partner. Have them lay down and open their legs. Then, mirroring the movement and rhythm of the candle, lick your partner’s piece of cake until you drive them crazy.

Right!

All of these games are about oral sex, so tell her to warm up her tongue before starting out,maybe give her something warm to drink.  ;)

Since you know what there is underneath each candle let her choose first. If you have troubles arriving to the end of the game because you’re too horny, just calm down (cue oriental music) and meditate on what the old sage said: “Will power is the ability…” repeat this in your mind over and over again, :) like a mantra. This should give you the inner strength you need to get to the end.

But if it doesn’t work... free the beast inside you!

#thatisall

Fabio Black writes about sex, sex and sex. But not necessarily in that order. Read more about him here.

#NerdsUnite: The Exploration Tactic to Spice Up your Sex Life

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Fabio. Yes. Real name. We're friends in the digispace and he owns and blogs at the fantastically awesome site LetsTalkSex.net. He's here today to share one of his latest and greatest tips on sex, and I only have one more thing left to say ... HIT IT FABIO!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Fabio Black

All right, so how did you go with the Diversion Tactic to Spice up Your Sex Life? How is your house looking? Is it a mess? Are the walls splattered white? :)

Did you take the diversion idea to the extreme and now you're reading this post from your computer in the oven? Good! You got it!

Now if you still have the Jack Sparrow hat I suggested you buy, hold on tight to it because today we are exploring new territories - soft, silky, round and sexy ones... Be prepared and bring your wellies in case it gets wet. Actually, you should hope it does ;)

Right, so what happens to the couple that follows the same routine over and over again? They become a bored couple. And sometimes even a cheating couple. Bring something new to the table, and I'm not suggesting you dye your teabags blonde, no no.

Spice up your sex life by surprising her - how?

Here's a little geography lesson:

I'm taking for granted that you've grasped the areas of the two pointed mountains and the dark cave between the two pinky lips. Now that you have the basics, it's time for you to move on and explore some other lands. All you need is curiosity, patience and calm (and a cheeky face ;)). No, you don't need your whip for now, pop that back in your belt.

Ready to start? Let's go! Look around her head, and you'll discover a piece of body called a neck... Kiss it gently, touch it, grab it (this is actually pretty relaxing and primitive), then roll her onto her back. Hey stop there!

Don't jump to the <del>ass</del> round silky hills too quickly! Lick her spine, bone by bone, kiss her underarms and so on. 

These unexplored areas will give her incredible sensations and pleasure, and will actually set you apart from the 90% of the guys who go straight to the golf hole.

Here's a secret: little powerful treasures are hidden in her joints.

Kiss and suck gently inside her elbows.

Touch slowly between her fingers.

And try behind her knees... (Do it gently though or she'll jump off the bed) 

Caress around her nipples.

Kiss her eyelids very softly.

Massage her nails with a toothbrush and then bite them! (I'm joking, don't do that... Even though it would probably be pretty funny).

Be a tourist! Instead of going straight to the main attractions, have a wonder around and if you get lost just ask for directions.

Also, if you're a traditionalist and don't want to touch new areas, or if a witch told you that you must follow the same usual foreplay routine for the next 13 years and 56 weeks straight or you'll die, that's alright, go for it <del>butt</del> but...

Touch the same areas in a different way:

Use ice cubes, feathers, credit cards or even simply the back of your hand. How many men do that? Pffffheeww 9% maybe?

Wanna be in this 9%? Follow the tips above. Wanna be in the 2% that does that and more effective exciting stuff as well?

You're wild, aren't you!

#thatisall

Fabio Black writes about sex, sex and sex. But not necessarily in that order. Read more about him here.