#Question: So, exactly how many people have you slept with??

I got asked this question on twitter a few weeks back, and I thought it was so rad I wanted to take it out of 140 characters and turn it into a post.

The question was more eloquently posed - it was along the lines of, how many partners do women have on average?

I don't know the answer on that one. Upon first googling, there doesn't appear to be a national average for this sort of thing. I'm a lifecaster, so I won't speak in generalizations - only first hand, and my number is ... ::drum roll::

I have no idea.

No, but like seriously. I lost my virginity when I was 16 (read more about that here) but I waited until I was like 18 or 19 to become "sexually active."

I remember I kept a little journal with a list of the guys I slept with initially, and then I thought - but when does it end? How many is TOO many. The questions overwhelmed me, and when in doubt my 19 year old self said - I just don't want to know. Ignorance is bliss.

Seriously.

What is the right answer here? I didn't want to tell the second and third guy I slept with how inexperienced I was - yet, that inexperience is SUPER HOT to other dudes ... it's enough to make your head spin. When it comes to sex, there is no "right" or "wrong" answer because there is no set measurement of anything for anyone. Dudes, my parents met in grade school, have been together their entire lives - and were literally everything for each other. By the time I slept with two people I had doubled both of their numbers. Does that make what they're doing wrong, or me right? AbsoFREAKINGlutely not. It just "is" and we are all doing what we think is best for our own lives.

I decided the best course of action was to stop counting and focus on the guy. He's not a number, he's someone I am sharing something very private and very special with. Does that mean I won't have a one night stand? AbsoFREAKINGlutely not. HAHA!! I love love love sex, and sure, if it makes sense - I'll do it. Doesn't happen often, but sometimes lust can take over and as long as you use protection, I don't see anything wrong with it.

Personally for me though, I can get off during penetration - yet have more difficulty doing so with one night stands. There's no emotional connection, and as we all know, that's where the root of the female orgasm is based. I'm an INCREDIBLY efficient person, and if I can't weigh an orgasm out as more likely to happen than not - I won't sleep with them. Men shouldn't be the only ones to derive pleasure from a one night stand, it's just hard however with alcohol consumption and general excitement from the new partner that most guys can't last that long. Pretty true. And ladies, don't even think of going down on him beforehand unless he returns the favor. He's going to be done SO fast at that point, you've basically just given your orgasm the kiss of death. Not going to happen. ::sad face::

Stay true to you, stay true to your heart - and when it comes to sex, throw out the math. Just keep it real.

#thatisall

#Randombling: That Nerdy Chick

Randombling: A 5 minute long unedited random stream of consciousness produced by a nerd for nerds.

#nowplaying: Edge of Glory - Lady Gaga

Hello sexy lover faces. In Connecticut I be. See ... this is me ...

Kind of an emotional day - hence the extra photo filter.

I'm totes behind schedule on production. I've been hired as producer and talent on this super cool TV show, but the problem is that TV isn't at all glamorous ... no, like seriously. I've worked as a producer on a bunch of things, and as host/talent for a bunch more ... but this is my first time doing something so big as both. Kinda rad, but kinda AHHHHHHH at the same time. Production is a LOT of work. Like a lot a lot. And especially for TV, you have to location scout, have releases signed for said location, and every single face you capture filming - it's kind of a cluster fuck. Compound that element with travel (my hotel wound up falling through last minute, fortunately I get by with a little help from my friends ...), and car rental (the credit card didn't go through, so I had to use my own debit card - whiiichhhh as we all know has very little). So all this fuckery is going on behind the scenes, but you have to IMMEDIATELY flip the switch and go ... HI GUYS!! I'm JEN!!! Bright eye and bushy tailed without looking too psychotic.

It's a lot. Add to that the fact that I haven't been back here in so long, and it was just an incredibly emotional day.

I saw my uncle today for the first time in almost 10 years - his jaw hit the floor. He couldn't believe how different I looked. It was great to see him but kinda weird at the same time. There's always this pink elephant in the room of, hey, we've been estranged for more than half my life - but what's up! I try to practice forgiveness and just let it be ... but it's weird. He mentioned my grandmother and that she was still out of it - and I was like dude, even when she was "with it" the woman and I never got along. (click here to read more on that) It saddens me a great bit that I have very few family members that I actually consider "family" but a lot of people I am biologically related to. It's just a weird thing to accept, and the older I get - the more I still don't get it.

I also went by my old house today ... it's funny, you can't see it really from the street, but oddly enough you can see it from the plane when you're landing at Bradley. 

Freaky looking house, but very literally still to this day one of the most breathtaking homes I have ever been in.

Oh, and here's my old bus stop ...

Ah yes, that is where I used to stand with wet hair and in the winter watch the icicles form.

Dude, I so do not miss the weather!! HAHAHA!! YAYYYYY CALIFORNIAAAA!!!!!!

Oh, and totes stoked - I'm going to be doing some stuff with the Suicide Girls, (just writing - not posing haha, I don't have enough tats), and I got invited to this wing girl event with Neil Strauss the duderino that wrote The Game. I may have fallen for his game, but at least now I can learn from the master how exactly he does what he does to never ever fall for something like that again. mwahahaahaha!!! Succkkkaaaaaaaaa!!!

Super stoked man. Totally blessed to be here. Only mildly overwhelmed ... but tomorrow is a new day. I have to film 3 episodes tomorrow, after the clusterfuck that was getting everything set for today. But hey, you live you learn.

We're going to be going out in Hartford tomorrow with a big group of my friends. If anyone is in the area and wants to kick it totes hit me up on Twitter: @JenFriel

Super super super grateful and blessed for the opportunity ... but man oh man oh man ... only if people knew what goes on behind the scenes - it's madness I tell you. MADNESS!!!!!!!!! =)

xoxo #nerdsunite