#Nerdy Neutrons Presents: "To See or Not to See?"

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @ashleighmayes and @saintpepsi

Ashleigh:  Hello, darling readers! It’s Ashleigh and Jordan again with your next dose of Nerdy Neutrons!

Jordan: This time we'll be looking into the difference of meeting in person and meeting again to meeting on the net and then meeting in RL.

Ashleigh: To me personally, it’s much scarier to meet someone online and meet them in person. With the exception of meeting the friends of someone I ALREADY know in real life, I’ve never done it. My thing with meeting someone from the Internet is that you can literally be anyone you want. I could be a 500 lb African American man with a three foot long beard and you’d be none the wiser! One of my girlfriends talked to “Mr. Right” for a long time. It was really an old creeper using his hot grandson’s picture.

Jordan: Wow! I can see why you would be hesitant. I bet that old man had some mad skills, though.  Nun chuck skills!!! While I agree with Ashleigh that some people could really be anyone in real life I consent that meeting online, and then in real life would be so much less creeptastic.

Ashleigh: How so, Jordan?

Jordan: Not being a girl who has to watch out for freaktastic douchebags, I can understand that this may be different for the sexes. From my point of view the way everyone is putting themselves all over the Internet and basically life casting their existence is you can create quite a truthful account of who someone is.  Checking their photos you can see if they are an incessant party person, smoker, or playgirl. You can witness in real time what they are passionate about as they update their Facebook or Tweet something they enjoyed. All these, if you take the time to scoop them out, should build a pretty decent look into who a person really is.

Ashleigh: That’s true, but keep in mind that people will only show what they want to be seen. I have a double life when it comes to what is online and what happens in real life. If there are photos that I don’t want on Facebook, I untag them! I’m constantly thinking about potential employers and opportunities that I miss out on because of pictures from a party or whatever. I’m not saying that I’m a bad kid! There’s nothing that I’m really afraid of! But if there’s even a pic of you online with a red cup in your hand, people are gonna assume the worst even if YOU know it’s like…Apple Juice! Haha! And as far as meeting someone from the net: how many people do you know that put their status as “I’m ______ and I have a severe mental disorder that makes me want to murder people!” or “I’m __________ and I’m an alcoholic!”. None! The nitty gritty, dirty stuff isn’t gonna be seen online if the person cares about it.

Jordan: Very true, I know I should probably be a little more careful about the pictures that I have had put up online of me. After graduating from a Christian college I doubt any church. after looking through my Facebook pictures, would ever give me a job. Still, I operate under a strict show all theory. No lies.  It will probably bite me in the ass someday.  So I’ll give you that.  I still think that even from a limited look at someone you can skim some things about them.  I like to look at the friends they keep personally.  Coming from the town I live in, I know a lot of the people here.  Seeing the groups people run in makes it easier for me to understand how they are in real life. Like if I know the people they hang out with are all tweekers and potheads I might be a little cautious to meet them. However, if they are friends with generally chill people, hell, I’ll give them a chance.

Ashleigh: I do agree that you can tell a lot based on that. After all, “you are the company you keep”. However, that being said, I’m friends with a lot of people that have habits that  I find scary. I’d never be a part of it, but I like them as people. I think it needs to be taken with a grain of salt. Another reason that meeting online first and then meeting in real life is scary is that, even if people are open and honest, you might not get what you bargained for. I’m not going to lie. Physical attraction is a big part of a relationship for me at first. Ever heard of the fat girl angle? The Myspace angle? Yeah…and there’s this thing called Photoshop. These things make it really easy for someone to lie.

Jordan: Oh, my! I might be a little freaked to meet you in person now. ;-) Well if they are going to the trouble to Photoshop themselves, then God damn! What’s a boy to do? Honestly, I came into this thinking I’m hot shit… I’m totally going to win this one and ended up finding I don’t really have a leg to stand on. You are completely right. Online we can be whatever and whoever we want to be.  While you’re not always going to meet some crazy-eyed creeper when you meet someone offline for the first time, there’s always that possibility. Really, I think we should all demand a video conference. I have met a lot of people from an online source later and have yet to find a nut job. Still I know when I’ve been beaten. My dearest Ashleigh I award you the POSITRON!!! No matter what I could argue, the fact of it is you will never truly know who you are about to meet.  Well played, my dear, Well played.

Ashleigh: Why thank you, Jordan! I will give you this, though…the Internet is a great way to connect with people of similar background and demographics. It helps us to reach out to those with similar interests and learn new things. For example: I met you, Jordan! Care to sign us out?

Jordan: Awww..... I’m blushing. With that folks, you have it. Really, either way you go there will always be risks and reasons not to meet people. It’s all a gamble, really. So with that in mind, stay safe and take chances. You never know when you’ll meet someone as wickedly cool as Ashleigh. Till next time, this is Paul Harvey saying... Good day.  O.o OMG if you get that reference you’re an OLD MAN!!!! In all seriousness this is SaintPepsi. PEACE!

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#Nerdy Neutrons Presents: #Fated to be #Destiny!

 #talknerdytomelover's @saintpepsi and @ashleighmayes

Ashleigh: Hello, dearest nerdy lovers! Ashleigh here....

Jordan: And your favorite Patron Saint!!!

Ashleigh: Jordan and I have decided to introduce you lucky readers to a concept that we fondly call "Nerdy Neutrons". Care to explain, Jordan?

Jordan: I'm game.  See, as you may know a Neutron is a subatomic particle that is neutral.  So for the most part me, and Ashleigh will be starting out on opposing sides of something, adding a plus or a minus to that neutron.  So let's say my dearest Ashleigh is Positive and I'm Negative.  If she wins the argument or debate, we'll declare the matter a Positron and if I win, we'll add my negative to the debate. It shall be declared an Electron. If neither of us sway the other it stays a Neutron.  Or, if we're just talking about something we agreed on in the first place.

Ashleigh: Yup! That's how it works, yo! So, for your reading pleasure Nerdy Neutrons presents: Fated to be Destiny! Now I'm of the opinion that the Universe is in control. What's your stance, Jordan?

Jordan: Control of what? Giving me a Universal STD called "time" and making sure it kills me??

Ashleigh: 

Control of EVERYTHING! 

I'm guessing you're not on the side of going with the flow. 

Jordan: Nope... unless you are talking about Flo from those insurance commercials! I got a mad crush on her!

Ashleigh: Ha. Wow...I didn't really see her as your type. Anyway...so you believe your fate is in your own hands? Explain, kind sir.

Jordan: 

For the most part we make ourselves who we are.  Freedom of choice and all that jazz right.  Every single choice we make guides us down the choose your own adventure story we started back when we first became aware of our own mortality.  Throwing in words like, fate, destiny, soulmate.  That in my mind gives credit to something that really isn't helping you, takes your desire to push yourself away, and limits your options in the field of finding love.

Ashleigh: I disagree. I think that there are plans long before we're even thought of. Hell, WE'RE a plan! I do believe that we have options. I do believe that if we're going to get somewhere, we have to make the choice and do the work to get there. However, I believe that our decision for determination is planned, also. In the field of love, I STRONGLY believe that everyone has a soulmate. That they will, at one point in time, bump into that person in their life. If they act on the feeling or pursue is yet another action with yet another consequence. I naturally push myself. It's part of who I am, but I believe I was destined to have the mindset that I do. Knowing that there's a power or force bigger than yourself, like fate or destiny, gives one hope that everything will be ok. It gives people comfort in knowing that they will be where they're meant to be.

Jordan: Sure, that idea works great! Like Communism. In theory that is.... Giving people hope is the greatest way to placate them. Hope may save people who need only to believe in something for it to come true.  However, hope is just as soul crushing, if not more. Let's say you're right and you do have a soul mate.  What if you already met that person and didn't act on it? I have felt recently that I didn't act on a chance I had years ago with a girl I knew to be right. How about in life?  If there is such a thing as fate... if we do nothing we will reach that place in our lives because we are destined to do it.  We can be as apathetic as we want.  No ma'am I believe in the power of self.  That you make the choices to push you forward to drive you to success.  If anything, the force that has been the greatest asset to me would be my friends and family. They've been honest and loving with me.  Find a fate that treats you like a best friend and is there for you in the darkest hour.  In time that shit goes wrong and you want to blame fate, or God and that friend comes to you and says the most wonderful thing ever. "Sometimes shit happens and there isn't any reason for it."  Now I refuse fate because fate leads to the assumption that horrible things that happen in life happened because that was a persons destiny. 

Also, if I ever lose a friend or a loved one is raped or murdered and someone says its all part of a greater plan I will punch them square in the face.

Ashleigh: 

Ok, Ok. I'll  give it a shot. But before you read on, nerdling, know that I am NOT a bitch!I don't believe that fate is a way to pacify the numbers. I also don't believe that it can even compare to Communism. The difference is that Communism was man-made. Yes...fate may be a concept made by man, but it's a harmless concept that never has one single person at the reigns. Hope may lead to hurt, but what does it lead to in the mean time? I recently just went through a rough time. What kept me going? Hope that everything would be ok. Sure...sometimes things end crappy, but in the meantime, hope was what kept me going and growing and trying new things. Hope helped me to become a better person. What you are concentrating on is the negative. But Jordan, sometimes positive comes from negative. I dated a guy for three years. In the end, he hurt me badly physically. That was a really crappy thing. Was I destined to get hurt like that? I think so, yes. But what did I ultimately get out of it? New friends, a new appreciation for life, a new sense of self-worth, knowledge and experience about relationships, etc. You've got to look at the BIG picture, here. Maybe someone being murdered was meant to happen so that the murderer would be caught before they could have the chance to kill again. I'm not saying I'd see it that way if it was someone close to me, but what if? And what if someone being addicted to hard drugs was meant to happen so that they could clean up and reach out? In the end, if they used their experiences to save two people, don't you think that destiny has worked in the positive, despite the negative that happened?

Jordan: This is why it's fate that I met you Ashleigh.  I swear you are sunshine and rainbows and hope incarnate if I ever saw it.  How can I not believe in hope when I know hope was what pulled me through some of my darkest hours? When certain people I have met in my life have been instrumental in the advancement of my dreams?  You are included in that. Ashleigh. No, I will admit to playing the negative up quite a bit here.  Still, I do believe that many of my choices in life can lead me towards and end goal and that apathy will take me nowhere.  I think we have to actively participate in our fate to meet the true end of the dreams.  It's like those video games that have alternate endings based on how you played.  Sure you get to the same place but how everything ends depends on just how much effort you put in to make yourself into the person you know you are meant to be. With that, my dearest, Asheigh I thank you for fighting, through you have bested me. Till next time we have acquired our first positron.

Ashleigh: So...it's like our beliefs put in a blender? A happy medium? I can work with that.

Jordan: mumbles You're just too cute to argue with.... DAMN YOUR CUTENESS!!!!

Ashleigh: Hahaha. I'm willing to say we've met halfway if you are!

Jordan: I'm game, haha, but I'll still give you the Positron.

Ashleigh: No way! Nobody can really be right or wrong on a personal belief, anyway!

Jordan: True, true. But you swayed this cold heart of mine. My insides are wet from it melting. My lungs had to run to the local quick shop to buy an umbrella. For real. It happened.

Ashleigh: Ooooh, Jordan! Maybe you're just a softie!

Jordan: Shhh.....I've got a rep to keep, you know!

Ashleigh: Hahaha! Well, there you have it, readers! Nerdy Neutrons declares this topic a Neutron! This has been Jordan and Ashleigh! Signing out!

Jordan: Peace! 

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Two #Nerds talk #Boobs!

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @ashleighmayes and @SaintPepsi

Ashleigh: Hello, nerdy lovers! It's Ashleigh...

Jordan: ...and SaintPepsi here!

Ashleigh: The word of the day is...BOOBS! I've had this discussion with my girlfriends before, and it always comes back to the fact that boobs aren't that awesome.

Jordan: I'd like to counter with the age old cough *bullshit!*

Ashleigh: Seriously?! I just don't get it. They're...annoying! But before we get to the pros and cons, let's examine them for what they are: an        important part of survival.

Jordan: If surviving means sucking milk it would have to be a pretty well timed apocalypse.

Ashleigh: *rolls eyes* If the first cavemen hadn't discovered that (or had the instinct), for their infant to survive, they needed to place the little shit's mouth by that lump of fat on the female, none of us would be here today.

Jordan: They probably figured it out by watching cows or something. Really the credit should be given to the smaller creatures that really did have the instinct to do that.

Ashleigh: Eh...I suppose so. I'd hate to see the world if people copied more things that humans do. Heh...I suppose we'd save water if everyone used their tongue to clean their own...nevermind. But back to the biological aspects of the breast. Each breasticle is made up of, from closest to the body to the farthest away, the breast wall, the Pectoralis muscles, the Lobules, the duct, the Areola, the Nipple (Heh...Nipple is a funny word), and of course, the skin.

Jordan:That's a good start, i'll admit to liking all of those things together. However, to say boobs have but one purpose is sadly a short sighted look into their many productive uses which may not all be practical.

Ashleigh: Oh, Jordan! Ok, ok. I guess you're forcing me to deprive our dear readers a lesson on the biology of the boob. Tell me, then...WHY are boobs so awesome?

Jordan: Well they are useful in some many different ways. Depending on the size and yes all guys like boobs no matter what size they are. So long as there are boobs there. Boobs have been used in all forms of fashion and design. They mark the giving nature of the mother, they are inevitably the first place the eyes fall for anybody. Girl, gay or guy. Boobs have a way of pooping up everywhere.  In art the boob allows for the woman to be curved and even more sexually appealing where as a mans marks art stern and hard.  In society dresses accenting the boobs properly show status and a determination to keep one's self groomed. You will hardly find a lady dressed up to her best with out spending some time on how her boobs look to assure the proper amount of gawking. There is the natural giving nature of the breast which has been used in religions across the world for centuries as a source for nurturing, and lastly in a sexual sense the cluster of nerves at and around the boobs offer a girl even more areas to be stimulated during the sexual actions she takes on. Frankly I'm jealous.

Ashleigh: Don't be. While I see where you're coming from, as a breast-bearer, I can't tell you HOW frustrating they can be. I get embarrassed easily, but there's nothing as awkward as trying to squeeze past a crowd and accidentally have someone rub all up in your rack. Or how about hugging short people? Seriously? It's like they're short just so they can fit their face in there! But that's not the worst thing! Clothes shopping, that's what! I get SO pissed off when I find something that's SOOO cute but can't wear. It's either that it makes my boobs look boxy, or flat as a board. If it's not that they don't look right, it's that the top fits around my waist and lengthwise perfectly but doesn't fit at ALL in the chest.

And the fact that some guys (or girls, I suppose) put so much importance on them bugs me. I'm not saying that YOU are, Jordan. You're too awesome for that. I just hate how that's the VERY first thing that some care to even notice.

Jordan: It's hard not to notice them. They are shaped like bullseyes. And that has been frustrating for myself. While I am not a fat person to say I am chunky enough to have "MAN BOOBS!" Dun Dun Dun... a source of endless shame in jr. and sr. high.  You are right finding shirts large enough to not accent my lumps of fat on my chest is a difficult task. One I'd rather avoid.  Boobs on a guy just don't work so well, aside from being brilliant for a pillowish place for a lady to cuddle up on. i still admire and love the time girls to put into them. i know not all guys notice when a girl has taken the time to look gorgeous. There are a few of us that notice the little things, like a haircut, new shoes, or even new clothes. Because lets face it guys will never have to worry about accessorizing or bra's. You can't tell me it's not the greatest feeling in the world to watch a guys eyes bug out because you are a drop dead knock out. KO you sealed the deal with a whimsical kiss and you're out to dinner.  Those things have mystical powers that the kids at Hogwarts never dreamed to use... Stupid wizard robes.

Ashleigh: Haha. Ok, ok. It IS fun to make boys stare. You mentioned bras. That's another pain in the ass! If you're even slightly off of average it would be hard for you (I'm not saying I'm off of average!! WAIT...I'm not average! CRAP!) to find a perfect fit. Not only that, but boobs are the indirect cause of a sore back. I don't know HOW many guys snapped my straps in my years of public school! And what can we do in our defense? NOTHING! And not only that...but if you get hit, it HURTS! I guess that goes without saying, though. But seriously! It's FAR too easy to hurt them when you're playing around. A basketball hits a guy in the chest and it's like..."Eh...whatever". With a girl, it's like "HOLYMOTHEROFDOG!"

Jordan: Oh I know I've been hit in the boob. Still you don't have ball's a dangling so even trade i say.  Also people don't hit you in the tits because it's funny.  You see a guy get hit in the junk it's a riot. You see a girl get hit in the boob it's a show stopper.  Everything ends because everyone trys to comfort that girl.  That's why so many girls just grin and bear it because they hate the sympathy they get from getting hit there. That aside the whole bra shopping thing I totally get. i am a man who isn't afraid of Underwear shopping for my significant other. There's a reason guys buy gift cards because if you get the wrong fit they won't ever wear it except the one tome to show it off.  I usually stick to buying panties for them.  Panties tee hee... another funny word.  You girls and your funny terms for things. So adorable. Frankly i'm surprised yo haven't brought up hard nipples... Or the side term glass cutters.

Ashleigh: Jordan, you read my mind!! That was literally what I had lined up next. It's extremely embarrassing to run outside for something RIGHT across the street in the Winter time and come back inside. People are staring and you then realize why...you forgot to wear a jacket. And it's just as painful to try to cross your arms over them! It's so obvious! Who crosses their arms that high up, anyway?!? And another thing: nip slips! I can't say I've PERSONALLY had this happen, but I once got on an elevator with a girl who didn't even realize what had happened! Who wants to ADMIT that they're looking? Wait!! WHY was I looking?!? I take comfort in the fact that the other girls in the elevator noticed, too. Haha...anyway...poor girl probably walked around all day like that! Sometimes you just can't keep 'em in, I guess. And when they decide to take a look at the world, it causes a TON of trouble!

Jordan: True we guys don't get erections all day long or walk around with bulges.  It would be just as noticeable though i think.  Once again guys don't usually walk around with their hands over there junk.  But as you said you were looking.  Isn't that something you know you would do. even if she didn't have a nipple out for a breath of fresh air.  You still stopped to gander at their gals.  Girls size up girls way faster and more obvious than guys.  As guys we have spent years training our eyes to not look at boobs first.  Girls never took this mental class.  I will almost promise you that the next girl you talk to will look at your boobs before the guy does. Double standard!  So you don't care if the girl does but if the guy does he's a creep!

Ashleigh: Hey now, be nice! I didn't say that the FIRST thing I noticed was her boob! We were actually a few floors up before THAT happened! I do believe that you're right, though. There are a lot of male/female double standards. But we'll get into that another article. What have we decided, anyway, Jordan?

Jordan: I think we agree on a lot of things, I can see valid arguments on both sides and for similar parts of this debate. But my dear Ashiegh I still love boobs and all their mystical powers.  I can't agree with the proclamation that they are only useful for one purpose.  Me thinks you can't say that and truly believe it either. ;)

Ashleigh: Jordan, Jordan. You're so determined, muh dear! I agree that they have magical powers, but I, personally, am not affected by them. Call it a difference of gender, but I stick with my initial claim that boobs just aren't that amazing.

Jordan: Guess we'll just have to agree to disagree. Seems a shame! But maybe in the next episode we'll sway each other to a single side.

Ashleigh: We shall see, huh? Well...that's all we've got on "boobs"! Check back for the next co-written article! Signing out!

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#NerdsUnite for #NetNeutrality

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @SaintPepsi

This is it folks our entire existence as a social media society could come crashing down tomorrow if the FCC doesn't put into place rules so major internet and mobile service providers can't get access to better internet because they have the money to. Blogs and small ideas with big hopes and dreams that are gaining popularity could be starved of decent internet feeds to prolong the money making schemes these corporate giants would put in place. 

Think of how crippled the whole oil system is with the car companies buying up patents on any real energy conserving ideas so gas stays the system of travel when we could have so easily evolved into a green society years ago. This is much the same for the internet. This whole process has been back and forth and the blame has been shifted from the FCC to major corporations like Verizon and Comcast for pursuing the FCC to adopt legislature to allow them to control what we can do with the internet. Right now! TODAY! Could be the end of that freedom. The freedom that allows us to pay for a certain bandwidth and get that same bandwidth usage at all sites.  Not just the big sites that pay to have their sites load faster. So sites that are gaining popularity would have to be bought out first by larger corporations so they could gain access to the better internet and not be stuck in the slow loading area.  I know I get annoyed when a site takes like 3 seconds to download.  I paid extra for really fast interwebs.  So I think that I should be able to surf the internet I paid for to go to whatever sites I like. If I want to go and run around on thechive.com or Talknerdytomelover's site it should load just as fast.  I mean I'm already unhappy about all the ads they have randomly stuck into all streaming video areas. I don't mind so much on blogs because I can choose to only look at the content but when I'm watching a you tube video and I'm forced to watch a movie about car insurance.  Not something I thought was necessary for my viewing pleasure.  So needless to say the more big corporations get involved the more the internet would become like TV where you are basically paying for one or two channels but are forced into a package with 898 other ones that you don't watch. I don't want to have to pay more to see less. I want to keep the undeniably awesomeness that is what the internet has become.

The fact that you can see anything and be a part of everything anyone's minds could conceive ... all at the touch of a mouse.  

Keep a close eye on this if it goes towards the general public's desire for a free open internet with the restrictions on big business we might see a drastic drop in price and a boom of even more ideas from young minds with a desire to make waves in the world.  If they get what they want and break the current system; it will be corporate censorship.  We as a free democracy can't have that.  We need this freedom that the internet gives the last vestige of an already over explored universe.  Only the internet has truly allowed every american a voice. Even if no one is listening. So for those of you who are listening make sure you pressure the people in positions of elected power to do the right thing and vote in a real ruling for net neutrality.

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#Randombling: Smoking Warning

 #TalkNerdyToMeLover's @saintpepsi

Randombling: A 5 minute long unedited random stream of consciousness produced by a nerd for nerds.

#nowplaying - Trans-Siberian Orchestra

As a past smoker I will attest to the fact that every god damn person in the world knows smoking is bad for you. It isn't something you do because you want to be healthy. I just saw that the FDA will be forcing cigarette packages to have pictures of people who are dieing, a skull and cross bones, or a tube from the throat. That plus huge font explaining the dangers of smoking. How dense are these conservative dicks that they think that little kids will start smoking because they are unaware of the effects. From day one people bitch about how bad cigarettes are for you. I myself didn't really start smoking until high school and then stopped for 5 yrs and picked it up again post college. I liked that it was a social club something that we all did together and seemed to bring people together to talk. Smokers aren't usually unfriendly and will always be giving. Frankly, smoking teaches us things that non-smokers have probably brow beat out of their own children. Sharing for instance, being nice to strangers because they just might be your new best friend. Who knows. All I know is that putting a giant skull and cross bones on a package of smokes will only make me want to smoke again just so I can look like a mother fucking pirate. I quit smoking for better reasons than it's unhealthy. I quit because the girl I dig doesn't like it, and I quit because I missed tasting things and smelling things. I do however miss the relaxing moments outside, the after sex delight, and that tension break where we all step outside to shoot the shit. Now I'll admit I feel awkward smelling smoke on my clothes and slightly annoyed but just because it reminds me of the companionship of the guild of smokers.

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