#Question: How do you, or rather should you (& by you I mean I, of course) take him out of the Friend Zone???

Editor's Note: Shina Rae is a newbie to the LA dating scene. No like for reals, she's only been here for like a month. Supah dupah new! Here's her latest problemo ...

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @ShinaRae

I have a dilemma.....  I have a guy friend who I've known for quite some time and only recently have I realized I actually kinda like this guy - let's call him Mike.  He's chill, he's a gentleman, he makes me laugh. He treats me better than the guy who just broke my heart.  Mike wants to take me out, and see me when he's in town.  That's right he doesn't live here, but he's here quite often for work.

*there I go again finding someone who's not totally available to me, what's wrong with us Jen??

So Mike, he made a move once, but I totally shot him down.  You see I was engaged in an evil game of quantum entanglement with the aforementioned heart-breaker.  I'm like most girls when I'm interested in someone; blinders on, full speed ahead....  So yeah, totes shot him down when he leaned in for a kiss, and ever since then..... FRIEND ZONE!!!

Bumms for him, right???  But we're actually great friends now, so imagine my surprise when all the sudden I'm getting those little tingles of excitement at thoughts of him.  And I'm disappointed when he's here and I don't get to see him.... I turned off the blinders and I see what a rad guy Mike is, and I'm either really really REALLY a horn dog right now, or I like him.... like, like like him.  I've been thinking for a minute now, I might be down to take it to the next level.  

Enter problem #2 -  I want him to make the move.  Not the move to LA, although that would be helpful, but just the first move....again.  I've put out signals, I know I have.  I'm not that touchy with guys, I don't tell them how much I enjoy their company, I don't give extra long full body hugs..... and I'm doing all of this and more.  But I am not going to make the move tho.  (Is this a sign I don't want him enough?  I dunno.)  I just want the man to be the man and to make an effort to get me.  But waiting for him to make the move is soooooo effing frustrating.  I mean, he may think I'm just being friendly with all the flirting,  I did shoot him down before.  He may not be up for that a second time, and there fore may not even consider making a move again for fear of the same results.   And would they be??  Seq-way into problem 3.  What if he's a bad kisser??  Or worse, what if he's not enough for me (you know what I mean *wink wink*) ie. a bad lover??  Then he'd be right back in the Zone, except it could be weird then, and I really like our friendship, and definitely don't want to fuck that one up.

GAWD this is madness!!!  I like like him, I do, but I don't want to make the official move, he doesn't even live in the same city, and there's lots more of those reasonings to muse over.  But above all, I don't want to lose our friendship because it's actually pretty awesome.  I just can't help thinking about him, and wondering..... Should I take him out of the Friend Zone??

Well I'm not going to make the move, so I guess I won't, at least not yet.  I'll just lay my cards out in a public blog, so he maybe can see them and extrapolate that I'm talking about him and perhaps the next time he's in town, take the hint.  Really good plan, Shina!

I could really use some opinions on this one here, like I said it is a major dilemma.....  and I'm actually too scared to ask the 8 ball about this one, so I want real people thoughts.  Got any??

     #noturlovergirl..... yet??

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#NerdPr0nz: Behind the Scenes with @MeowMistiDawn

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @MeowMistiDawn

This week I got to play radio host! I co-hosted "Night Calls" with Nikki Hunter. I had been a guest before but to be a host was much different and obviously much longer ha. I've been thinking what a mistake it could be in someone gave me a mic and told me to be entertaining. Oh the things that could come out of my mouth....

It went off with out a hitch, other than when it comes to being vocally sexual, I simply cant do it. Dont get me wrong I LOVE dirty talk, I love being talked to in the dirtiest ways, but when it comes to talking all sexyfied I just feel silly and blush and say "big bobbies!" instead of "large supple breast gently rolling over my tongue" all sexy like. Luckily, my fans dont seem to expect that of me, they expect my awkwardness and wittiness so I think the show went off with out a hitch. I'll actually be a guest on Spice Radio, Playboy's sister station this Thursday at 9pm.

Then Michael and I made more vampire porn for our friend's company ... oddly enough, we are making vampire porn again tomorrow for another friend company; something about blood and sharp things seem to be turning people on non stop lately. Personally, if Eric Northam from True Blood wanted to rip my head off i'd let him but it were that silly Twilight crap vampires id probably kill myself so I didnt have to live in a world with sparkly vampires.

Onto the saddest part of the week ... my Macbook Pro and glasses both were murdered. Some how my freaking cat knocked a glasses off a table on one side of the room and threw an ice cube on to my open laptop while I was asleep (it was open because i was uploading content to my server) and poof. Dead. Apple care laughed at me while I mourned the death of my dear Macbook. Then, my glasses which were already missing one arm finally gave up and the arm fell off. Here I was unable to reach the out side world via internet or even be able to see that world in one day. Its like the day the earth stood still. But then an awesome friend of mine who works at Gamefly had a spare macbook and we traded for it :) ... AND I finally broke down and spent the freaking money on an eye exam and new glasses. Thankfully now I wont be running over children in the street and driving off cliff anymore! (note: I haven't ACTUALLY run over kids....yet)

Well I must a bid you adieu because Portal 2 in going to suck my life out....

 

Nerdily Yours,

Misti Dawn

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#Fact: After 103 dates & a status still set to single - time to switch things up!

Dudes, I very literally cannot believe that as of last week, I have been out on 103 dates in 9 months. Like seriously, that blows my fucking mind - it didn't seem like that many at all. Wait, there's one song I gotta hear right now ... you ready?

So appropriate.

I'm going to write a thesis on my findings later this week to sort of bring a close to the old, and welcome the new ... but yah! I'm STOKED to announce the next social experiment.

First, a little background.

I hate being touched. Like hate. hate. hate. hate. hate. cuddling, hand holding ... just don't touch me. Ever. Hence why I loves me some online-ness, and spend so much of my time here. I can express my thoughts, and have it be the end of it. You stay in your dance space, I stay in mine.

Wait, that kinda sounds harsh. I'm not a cold person - the opposite, I have like the biggest heart ever ... alrite, alrite, alrite - spit it out Jen ... I'll really break it down for you all.

I've pretty much been sexually harassed in various capacities for the majority of my life. For real, when I was like 5 I was taken out of my softball classes because apparently the coach gave me the eye one too many times and it made my mom wayyyyyyy too nervous. When I was 12, I had a doctor perform a very not so kosher for passover exam on me ... and subsequently spent my late teens thwarting off unwanted sexual advances in one way or another. Hence why I know how to box, I've very literally had to throw down. I'm a scrappy scrappy bitch. 

On the brighter side of things, I've pretty much spent the majority of my adult life playing in boys clubs, and honestly succeeding because I knew how to play the game; I was conditioned for it growing up. Albeit in a way that I would never. ever. want anyone to go through - but at the same time it just is. I don't regret it, I'm no longer mad at it - but it's my constant. I can't stop being this person that I am, I can only make it work for me.

That being said, online dating has been super super SUUUPPERRRRR rad, but I don't think it is allowing me to really get over any of my emotional unavailability. I still get super spooked when a guy on a date touches me, and I dunno man, after all that shit went down with the mentalist - I just kinda felt like damaged goods. I have a following online, so it was super easy for me to put myself out there - I knew you all had my back. But it's now time for me to spread my wings and really submerge myself in the real world. This is complete aversion therapy, btw. I do not. do not. do not. want to do this. Which is why I am doing it - I ALWAYYYSSSS have to walk towards things that make me uncomfortable.

So here's my plan ...

As an off shoot of my OKCupid experiment, I also invested $4 in a University of Buffalo School of Medicine sweatshirt from goodwill in the hopes that if I wore it out to random bars boys that went to med school might see it and subsequently hit on me ... attracting nerdier boys!!! 

It totally didn't work. At all. Like UBER. UBER. FAIL!!!

... All I got were boys from Buffalo ... Which whatevs, I'm not mad at ... but just didn't really know where to go from there.

IN COMES @EffingGear!!! 

hahaha this was so unbelievably organic - it blows my mind. I heard about them a month ago, but they JUSTTTTT contacted me last Monday ...

They have really rad college-ie town shirts.

(Super soft btw - SERIOUSLY! Feels like the bum of a Pomeranian!)

What I'm going to be doing is wearing their shirts to a series of cool dive type bars here in LA and see with each shirt if one city or another is a hit. Could there be nerdier boys from Austin? Or how about Lawrence Kansas? It's LA!!! NOOOOO ONNNEEEEEEEE is from here. I know for a fact it's going to get a response, just not quite sure what kind. hahahahahahaah ... I'm SOOOO excited for this, you have no idea!!!

Guys don't talk to me at bars ... like at all ... ever. I have to be proactive ... and I'm WAYYYYYYY too shy when it comes to dating to actually be proactive. I don't know what happened to me, I never used to be shy - clearly if I can pick up a boy at 16 in a pool hall and end up losing my virginity to him. I dunno, I just don't even know what I'm looking for anymore, that's the biggest part of my problem. Back in the day, I used to date GQ looking boys - and they were dumb as fucking rocks. Literally, I've been in a handful of relationships, and outside of the mentalist ... every single one of 'em was dumb. Love 'em dearly, but fuuuckkkkkk me. I feel like we should all be required to wear our IQ badges as breeding qualifiers or something. I dunno where I'm going with that, but I'm going to own it. HAHAH!!

Bottom line, I have no idea what I am looking for, but I KNOW I am going to be proactive and at least put myself out there. At least by wearing these shirts however, I KNOOOOWWW guys will approach me, as so many of them did in my University of Buffalo sweatshirt ... so that part I have down - what's going to happen from there is going to totally be left up to chance.

Unlike OKC there is no algorithm to test compatibility, I am just increasing my odds of at least making myself be more approachable. Dude, I even allocated a beer budget for this experiment as well. So, I know I am setting myself up for something rad, the rest will be documented to psychoanalyze.

Each night will be sponsored by a town, and Effing Gear is so effing rad they're sending me their entire line - haha, so this is going to go on for a bit.

Also too, I'm not only going to continuously switch up locations but dude, also too - wearing a bra. When I wear one do I get more attention, or not? That's certainly a variable from the actual city and said dive bar.

Lots and lots and lots to play with ... I'm super stoked. They just sent out the package today, so I should be able to conduct my first night later this week. Again though, I'm telling you right now this is going to make me UNBELIEVABLY uncomfortable, but at least I am walking towards that place of uncomfort in the hopes of doing something about it.

So yeah, there ya go!

Thanks so much again Effing Gear. Super stoked to wear your shirts that don't suck in this experiment, but more importantly even more curious as to what my findings are going to be. There's just so much to play with in this one. Here goes nothing world! BAHHH!!!!

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or do they??? mwahahahhahaha stay tuned

#NerdPr0nz: Behind the Scenes with @MeowMistiDawn

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @MeowMistiDawn

This week was the best week of my life, I met my heros Captain America and Spiderman. Well, not really I was just in Hollywood leaving a shoot and I saw the token Hollywood super heros about so of course I had to get a photo with them.

This week was the XRCO awards in Hollywood as well. Just a porn award show. You know like "Best Blow Job Giver" and such. Personally I think they should have a Best Blow Job Getter category, because its not as easy as it looks. Basically this is what happened. Me not enjoying parties and such decided to get extremely over dressed with michael. Yes I ever wore gloves. Then I drank way too much too fast and found out I had to present an award. I think I said the right thing. No one complained. But the whole time all I could think.... who in their right mind would hand me a mic while im drunk. One more drink and I cant imagine what would have came out. (Thats what she said - ha!)

Toward the end of the week, it got much more fun. Katja, Michael, and I all went to the RenFaire! We drank mead and I shot arrows and thru an axe. Singular because after one throw my arm hurt. The best part was the trampolines you hook in to and jump insanely high. Michael and I did this for about 2 mins and then you realize you're not 10 any more and it makes you tired, fassssst. Then he and I went to a soothsayer. I always enjoy these but i will admit i get a little weirded out about how accurate they can. Basically I need to get serious about my business I'm starting. Very true. Noted.

We came home and grilled out - Katjas boobs, epic! - and then discussed everything about the porn industry. The good and the bad. The industry took Katja away from her small German town to america, it gave me away out from my small town in Kentucky. Yet it wears on relationships and really tests you ability to sink or swim and work for yourself. As for relationship, michael and I hit the 1/10000000000 chances on some one matching so well.

I love blogging for you all and Id love to do questions and answers to toss it up! Please submit a question in the comment field and Ill answer in next weeks blog!

Nerdily Yours,

Misti Dawn

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#NerdPr0nz: Behind the Scenes with @MeowMistiDawn

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @MeowMistiDawn

So no crazy learning on my submissive side this week. A fairly normal week, actually a pie making week.

MMMMM PIIIEEEE!!!

The week started off with Michael being insanely ill with a temperature so high he should have let me take him to the hospital. And for once I had to work all week, and he only worked one day and it was with me. Although the guy I banged for work all week was him, the rest were girls. Its kind of unfair he gets to bang a new girl daily and i never get booked to bang another dude. I don't get it. Not that i feel this desire to bang other people non stop, but it does easy the fact he bangs someone else non stop. Even though its just for work. Ok ranted there. Oh Porn. At Least I have some feelings about it!

At Michaels and I shoot, the director Bobby had a over grown lemon tree so on top of payment in monies I also got lemons! The best part of this scene was I got to embarrass michael and his lack of knowledge of video games, the set up was "My Sisters Hot Friend" for Naughty America. I was the hot friend. and he took my video games and sucked at them! haha also small little side note that made me happy inside, during the scene I quote the "Unforgivable" youtube video "bitch you aint no nerd, I thought you was a nerd!" Then I went home and backed a lemon meringue pie from scratch for the first time! I followed me favorite cooking genius chef and nerd crush Alton Brown. I swear you cant fail when you listen to him *swoon*

Then I discovered an hour on the elliptical goes much faster with watching Walk Dead on my ipad. Although I start shaking my fists at the screen when i get scared and probably look nuts to everyone else there, but hey work out goal met!

Friday night I went to a random house party Nicki Hunter invited me to and guess who I get to meet!? The writer and producer for Xena! Laugh I don't care! I freaking love Xena and getting to hear the ins and out and secrets from set. Literally once our conversation about the show was over, I was ready to go because nothing could top that.

Then Saturday, Michael and I went to Dr. Suzys for her 19th wedding anniversary show. I really love her and her husband they are great. But the best part of the night is I got to meet, and totally randomly, Voltaire! Neither of us knew the other one was going to be there. We've been talking online since 2004. Back when we were both suicide girls. I looked up to her so much when I was younger. She was "The" Suicide Girl, then eventually told them to shoe it because they run and awful bushiness (I did too). All that aside. She was amazingly beautiful and smart. Everything I imagined. It was so surreal to meet he because she doesn't even live in LA anymore she was just visiting. Its so wonderful to meet a role model and they end up being everything you wanted. She came and stayed that night and I made her a nice southern breakfast before she left.

And the week starts over.

<3 Nerdily Yours
Misti Dawn

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