OOOHHH my goodness, I just started using the new updated OKC app which integrates location and this random dude that just happened to be within my area sent me a message. Looky looky what he said ...
Seriously. SERIOUSLY?!?!?!! Los Angeles is a city of 8 million, of course within the first THIRTY SECONDS I am on OKC's new app I would find someone I know.
Goodness gracious.
::cues It's a small world after all ...::
First up, if you haven't read my OKC profile - you can check it out over yonder. Might make some sense to the things guys reply to, haha. But for reals, these are all actual emails I've received in the last 48 hours, and my actual responses back to them. It is through this transparent experience that I hope you all can take away some knowledge on what works and what doesn't in the hopes of making your online dating experiences that much more fanschmastically awesome. YAYYYY ONLINE DATING YAYYY!!! K ... cool ... here we go ...
Holy moly this one is just sad. Lemme explain this to you all again ... GENERIC. EMAILS. DO. NOT. WORK.
At all, and or what so ever.
I am very sorry men that the odds on this site are stacked in your favor, and yes, you are going to have to put some effort into things, but I assure you - we are worth it.
For reals, just take ONE item from a chick's profile and ask her to elaborate on that. You don't even have to go into anything deep. Take my profile for example - I say one of the things I can't live without is my Macbook Pro. Maybe you can ask what operating system I run off of. Something along those lines - you get the idea.
Doesn't have to be a long email but to get a response, it DOES have to be specific.
Actual Response: None
HAHA I used to get mad when dudes would say "oh I'm not hitting on you" or "I don't want to go out with you, I just want to pick your brain" - now I'm just flattered.
Actual Response: I don't think there was anything "wrong" - I'm just learning about what I like and what I don't. It's a numbers game; I am just actively showing up for life everyday and exploring who/what is out there. I had a lot of really really really great dates, it just didn't work out for one reason or another. No hurt feelings. =)
Actual Response: I didn't go out with anyone less than 85%, but that is actually something I am currently looking to explore. Maybe opposites attract and maybe I will have better luck if I go with a lower percentage - I will have to get back to you on that one.
The friend portion was INCREDIBLE!! I am very literally friends still to this day with a lot of the dudes, and we were at least a 90% in the friend category. AMAZING! AMAZING! AMAZING!
Thanks for reaching out!
There ya go nerderinos - hope this helps. Totally check out OKCupid though. I'm not mad at it - however, I am looking to contact someone over at Match for another experiment. The market is too saturated I feel on OKC for me right now - too many peeps know what I do, and that gets lame.
Click here if you wanna read about my 103 dates in 9 months experiment (please note, it did not AT ALL start off as an experiment. Was just me looking to date - however when I hit 96 dates I figured with that much info I could at least write a thesis, so I pretty much just stopped with a relatively round number.)
and click here to check out OKC for yourself! Good stuff, dudes!
AHHHH Okcupid. I love you long time. The following are 3 actual OKC emails I received over the last few days, and these are my actual responses back. I dig talking about what worked and what didn't so you guys can stay edumacated. Cool beans ... you ready freddy spaghetti? Here's my profile for you to see what these duderinos are responding to ... and let's go ...
First off, hold the phone ... Mrs. Doubtfire was terrible?!?!?! WHATCHOO TALKIN BOUT WILLIS?!?! Mrs. Doubtfire was the shizzy shiznat. I don't know what you're smokin, but for reals - not exactly a great opener since clearly I liked the movie enough to mention it in my profile. No bueno.
I am a lifecaster yes, there is no privacy setting. If you were intimidated by an email though, the real deal might give ya a heartattack. This isn't going to go anywhere.
Greatly greatly greatly appreciate the compliment duderino.
Matched: 83% match - 79% friend- 9% enemy
Response back: Thanks dude! =)
I am 100% unstoppably curious. I can't stop wondering how things work, and how I can break them down to understand how they work. It's nutty bunny - but yes, you are right. Very perceptive.
Ummmmm this guy and I aren't matched very high. He seems rad but meh.
Matched: 78% match - 70% friend- 22% enemy
Response back: None
Yes. 103 dates in 9 months. (you can read the thesis on my findings here) I'm not mad at dudes checking out the site, I do promote it. I just don't think I could ever date someone that religiously reads it as these are my inner thoughts, and feelings.
Thanks for the compliment on the writing duderino! Superly duperly appreciated!!
HAHAHA yeah the text that dude sent me saying he "boned an internet celebrity." First off, his terminology not mine. So lemme just clear the table on that. My shit stank too! That wasn't the reason why we went out. I actually really dug this dude - he just hit a soft spot with me. I have to find dudes that don't get phased about what I do, and aren't looking to just be a character in the story of my life that gets broadcasted for the world to see. At the end of the day I'm just a chick, I'm 26, and I'm looking for love like every other nerd out there. The chick in me HAAAAASSSS to be conscious of filtering those dudes out so I don't get hurt. Again, they're not after you the chick - they want the girl on the screen. Has nothing to do with me and everything to do with validating something in themselves. I'm usually super super super good at spotting that shiznat, but I goofed. Lesson learned.
I'm not a cuddler. I'm not mad at cuddling here and there, but I'm just not a huge fan of the all-over-each-other-while-trying-to-sleep type thing. I'm kinda getting over that aversion, but I dunno, it's all a work in progress documented in real time. HAHAHA no sheets, I'm a kinky bitch sexually speaking. So yah, you can touch all ya want in that regard. The dirtier the better.
::give it to me baby ... uh huh uh huh::
I'm super creative, but also super logical. Again, I like to break things down. My dad's a corporate lawyer and my mom's a writer - I'm pretty evenly divided.
Sincerely appreciate you checking it out duderino! I don't think I'm an enigma at all. I'm at the stage in life where I fully recognize there are no special snowflakes in the world. Working in social media and being able to spot patterns has been incredible. I just dig what I do, man. It's more than a site to me ... this is my thing. My baby. I just really appreciate ya checkin it out!! =)
Matched: 88% match - 87% friend- 14% enemy
Response back: ahh bless dude. Superly duperly appreciate you taking the time to check it out. HAHAHA yes, I am a chick. Wait, lemme check ... yep, no penis. =)
HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHH!! Omg this is making my life ... I just got a generic email from this duderino on OKC, and I was literally floored (a nice marble variety) when I saw his default ... check it out!
Omg omg omg ...
First off, thank you for the awesomeness that is the OKC metrics ... I am only a 60% match with this dude. WHHHEEWWWWWWWWW!!
Secondly, I cannot believe the way men approach online dating - it literally blows my mind. A picture like this does not make a good impression on anyone. All I want to see in your OKC default is EXACTLY what you look like. Literally, plop your butt down in front of your computer, and take a photobooth. Better yet, don't have a mac (hahah your software is so not compatible with my hard drive) grab your cell, smile, hold your arm out, and snap a picture.
You want the pictures on your OKC profile to tell the story of your life. This guy clearly isn't GQ - but what do you do? Do you work in a bike shop, and have a passion for bikes? Show me a pic of you standing next to one! Show me a pic of you riding it! Something telling me in pictures the story of things that excite you, and get your engine running.
Leave your default however STRICTLY to your face. The females looking at your profile will judge your attractiveness - that's what this is about. Don't make it more difficult than you have to for us.
It literally dumbfounds me how many men do not get this. No, like literally 90% of you! And if you sit there and think you're not doing it .... send me your OKC profile, and I'll guarantee you, that you are. I operate strictly from stats - and it BLOOWWWSSS MYYYY MIIINNNNDDDD.
Seriously. No photo filters, take off the hat, take off the sunglasses.
Clean, clear shot of the face. BOOM! Upload, set as default.
Got something to say, or wanna date me? Hit me up on OKC!
Warning: I will analyze you. heheheehehee I said anal
In my effort to put myself out there more on OKC, and not just be on the receiving end of emails, I sent one out this afternoon, and looky looky the response:
Saturday, August 13, 2011 at 7:13PM