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After becoming this accidental expert in dating, it is now my life's work to take what I have learned in the field and help nerdy guys get the girl. We're all super smart, and talented, yet what makes us so successful in our professional lives no doubt impedes us in our love lives.
I've talked about this before that dating has an ebb and flow - and courtship is TRULY an art ... but now I'm putting my money where my mouth is and finally structuring a workshop.
I am SO FREAKING EXCITED to announce this .... but in 17 days Talk Nerdy To Me, Lover will be throwing its first ever social dynamics workshop.
We've been privately working with some students for the last few months and here is what some of them have said ...
Student A: 30 years old, never had a girlfriend.
After Eric coached me for a week, I used his advice on a smokin' hot girl I met for the first time in class and she INSTANTLY started going crazy over me. She actually asked when she could see me again without me saying ANYTHING about meeting up! Now every time I text her, she texts me back, gushing with praise- just like I used to do to women I didn't have a chance with.
I'm a 5'8", 270 lb high-functioning autistic with seborrheic dermatitis, no car, no college degree, and working 10 hours a week at minimum wage. A year ago, I thought I was going to die a virgin- but after taking Eric's advice for just 7 days, I got a solid 8.5 eating out of my hand.
Did I mention that this was all without meeting Eric face-to-face or even talking on the phone? We only talked over Facebook chat for a half hour or so a day.
Jen tends to have the most original ideas in the world. Quite possibly the last of the original ideas to be had if you think about it. When she posted about a reversed date where she asks me about my dating life in order to help me better myself, I was intensely intrigued. I immediately contacted her and set up an “appointment” for this wondrous experiment. I am the case of the “sad puppy dog eyes”.
Since our meeting, I have dived into Neil Strauss’s Rules of the Game, started intensely looking & calling for my own place, put myself out there a bit more, and most of all, found a girl that I THOUGHT was really into me. Long story, short: I turned out to be a rebound and I was blinded by my own mind. I am an over thinker, and I’ve definitely learned my lesson; the mind can really fuck you harder than Chris Nolan’s Inception. However, my mind ran rampant constantly until last night.
The Talk Nerdy To Me Lover’s talk show was last night. Unfortunately, I didn’t go due to a previous engagement. I did go to the after party at Barney’s Beanery in good ol’ West Hollywood. After quickly relaying a synopsis of my recent girlfriend after Jen and my meeting, she felt compelled to introduce me to THE social dynamics expert: Eric Carrillo. This guy is fucking brilliant beyond belief. He not only broke down what my situation was without me fully completing my description, but he was able to go into detail effectively. I explained to him about my current ordeal with the girl who had used me as a rebound: she had a void and she saw certain similarities in me that her ex-fiance had (they were engaged for 2 years and she is 19 now… yeah) and attempted to fill that void with me. It seemed to work for her for at least 3 ½ weeks… then disaster struck when she realized I was not that much like her ex at all and was someone else with different personality qualities: being nice, honest, and liking her a lot. Since this was my first time experiencing this, I went crazy trying to figure out what was wrong. I had done some soul searching to put my mind at ease… but no dice. It wasn’t until I had this ridiculously relaxing talk with Eric that it made perfect sense to me. I was a rebound. Plain and simple. But, what next? Eric simply said, “Just let it go.” Within the realm of social interaction, letting something go should be relatively easygoing because all you need is time, right? Time heals all they say. But there was something soothing about how Eric delivered it to me. It was easy to hear and understand. He put it in a way that made me feel like he knew exactly what I had just gone through. I cannot thank him enough. Thanks a trillion Eric!
How amazing is that? Social dynamics simply opens your eyes, please understand this isn't a PUA (pick up artist) community event - it's just two nerdy peeps with a WHOOLLLLEEE lotta expertise that want to share it with you guys.
When: Saturday August 11
Time: Afternoon-Evening
Cost: $250
I don't want to publicly disclose where the event is going to be held to make sure you guys remain anonymous in the process, but the event will be held in Los Angeles.
You will have both of us at the workshop - and we are looking to have this be an ongoing thing so even if you can't make the first one feel free to still email and we will add you to the list for updates.
Some areas we will be covering include:
1) How to approach a girl in a non-traditional setting
2) Attraction basics
3) How to approach a female through social media
... and much much more.
We're going to keep the classes small and intimate, but the majority of this will be field work. We'll teach you guys the bare bones basics but then we're going to get your butts out in the field and help you guys out IRL. This ain't yo mama's workshop!! =)
I'm extremely humbled to be of service, and I ABSOLUTELY cannot wait for this. Eric and I are at your service nerderinos!! Let's experience some more personal growth!!
To sign up email: JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover d c (or if you'd like more info)
AHHHHH!! So freaking stoked for this ... so, obvi, I'm SUPER freaking passionate about the new social utility Mirror.co which provides a storytelling perspective of dating. (check it out here)
I've been taking guys in the field for the last few months, and it worked out great - but the problem was the demand was too high. (Best problem ever, btw!!) I'm literally one person, and I also quickly realized a lot of these guys problems went waaaayyyyy deeper than just dating and as excited as I was to assist, I realized I needed to build out my team.
Look at what one of the guys just said about our date ...
"Literally changed my life!"
Wow. Wow. Wow. And congrats on the sexual explorations!! Exciting stuff, right??
(more on the domination portion of the email in a bit ...)
This is SUPER powerful stuff, nerds and as much as I want to help I can only do so much.
SOOOOOO ... while I was speaking at a conference in San Jose earlier this month, I happened to meet a social dynamics expert that I was EXTREMELY impressed with. Most guys in the PUA/ social dynamics community are completely full of it. Sorry Neil and co - I'm not mad at it, but what impressed me about this guy was his GENUINE appreciation for helping people and INCREDIBLE field work.
We then talked, he agreed to come on board - and boom just like that ... this is happening.
Either way, this will help me service you guys PAST the first date and help you guys understand exactly how you can better yourself moving forward. Mirror.co is a breeding ground for transparent experiences, but what are the next doable actions for you guys after the date?
@redolpho is going to help identify those for you ... and yeah! I'm stoked!!
I'm also going to start to take skype dates, so if anyone is interested you can email me: JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover d c.
Back to the domination portion of the email for a sec though - I'm a domme not sub, so unfortunately, no one will be dominating me ... UNLESSSSSS we are dating. That would be hot to be submissive to my dude, but other than that - no bueno, however thanks for offering.
YAY LIFE! and YAY more transparent experiences!! Keep rockin out nerderinos!!
See, I am taking my 103 dates in 9 months and the fact that I have still averaged at least two dates a week for the past year (after the social experiment) and turning it into helping nerdy dudes get the girl. Rather than keep plugging my personal life (which any relationship blogger will tell you - you can't do forever) I wanted to shift into an advisor-ship role where I help nerdy dudes out. From their OKC profiles, to anything, I wanted to create a mock environment where we would sit and chat and I could help them figure out what their dating dilemmas were truly all about. FTR, I have absolutely no filter and a bullshit radar like NO other.
I heart helping people, and I can talk about dating and social dynamics for daayyyysssssss ... so this is helping me with my understanding of people tremendously, while at the same time, again, helping my nerdy fellas out. To make sure a transaction of some kind is exchanged though for my time (time is the most valuable thing ever), I have the guys buy me a beer and in exchange we will talk.
So, that's what has been going on, and here is the latest and greatest ...
Introducing: the Mormon
Editors note: I know that the Amish clearly aren't the same as Mormons - but in my brain when he said he was Mormon I could only imagine this song with the post.
Last week I got hit up by a duderino on Facebook asking if I could take him out into the field. I got super excited, and agreed to meet up with him at a bar in Hollywood.
I arrive at 7 (our arranged time), and since the bar we agreed to meet at had wifi - I quickly got on my phone while I waited for my date to arrive.
I check Facebook and see this message ...
Fine, I think. Not exactly cool, but shit happens.
I email him back letting him know that I have somewhere I have to be at 8:30 so I could stay no longer than 8:20 but if his time was spent in traffic then when he got here we'd really have to get down to the nitty gritty.
20 minutes go by .... nothing.
30 minutes go by .... nothing.
FORTY minutes go by ... nothing.
I then tweet out my frustration. See, anytime you keep a person waiting longer than 20 minutes for a date to begin, you have opened the flood gates for them to live tweet as much of their frustration as possible. It's about respect.
In this particular instance I didn't care because no matter what, I was executing my time allocated - so if that was how it was going to roll then let it be ... I still had to bounce at 8:20.
At 7:47, exactly 47 minutes late, my mock date arrives.
He immediately walks in all apologies.
I'm disabled he admits, and the state provides this car service and the guy was late on top of us hitting every red light.
Dude, dude, dude, I say - take a deep breath. It's okay. I genuinely have to leave at 8:20, but why don't you tell me what's up. Tell me about your dating history.
He then explains to me because of his disability his dating life has been impaired.
That sounds like an excuse to me, just like it was an excuse as to why you were late. Let's cut out the excuses and just get to the heart of the issue. When was your last relationship?
I haven't had one, he said.
Okay, how old are you?
30, he says in shame.
I touch his arm letting him know it's okay.
Dude, I genuinely don't care, I'm just trying to establish a baseline and figure out socially where you are. Dating has a rhythm to it - it's all a dance. If you're still in position one while I'm on pointe we're going to have a problem.
He then takes a deep breath admitting that he's nervous.
I then connect the dots that no relationship might mean no sex.
Can I ask you a personal question? (what in this isn't personal)
Yes, he says.
Are you a virgin?
Yes, he admits, but that is because I'm Mormon and we have to put a ring on it first.
AHHHHHHHHH, I say, all of this is making sense now.
We don't even drink, he admits.
AHHHHHH, okay. This is good.
How do you meet women then?
Through church groups.
Awesome, how is the market in your church group?
Not good, he admits.
There''s one girl that I'm into, but I come on too intense and I drive women away.
What does 'intense" mean?
Well, we see each other once a week at the group and then I text her.
How often do you text her?
3-4 times a week, he admits.
Based on his body language I could then read he was telling me a lie.
No, how often do you really text her?
A couple of times a day, he says.
Alrite, this is better. What do you say to her? And why are you texting her in the first place? Why haven't you just called her and asked her out?
I've tried that before, and she said no - but then she dropped me these hints that she was interested, I was confused.
What are the hints?
It's how she acts - very flirty.
Break that down for me, what exactly does she do and how do you respond? Your definition of "flirty" can be different than a female's.
It's in her behavior, and she's also told me that she could see herself dating me, just not now.
What did you do then?
I started texting her.
Why did you start texting her?
Because I still wanted to talk to her.
I then stop him, note to nerds, do not EEEVVVEEERRRRR keep texting a girl in a situation like this.
As a dude, THIS. IS. WHEN. YOU. WALK. AWAY.
If a chick isn't into you, cool, no problem! You. move. on. If she is TRULY into you, SHE. WILL. COME. BACK.
Have you tried another church group? I ask
Not yet, but I was going to.
This week you're going to, I order. The only way you're going to get this chick is if you walk away. She's not going to know what to do without the attention and she will ABSOLUTELY come back - you have to be confident enough to trust that.
Also too, you have to play the field a bit more. Obviously you're limited to church groups, but there are other cities you could go to, or other meetings - you can't be so stuck on just one chick each time or you're going to overwhelm them with attention and they will bolt.
ANNDD, you don't EEEVVEEERRR ask a chick out over text message. Maybe after the first few dates it's cool, but always always always for the first date - you call. Grow a pair and pick up the fucking phone.
Got it, he said.
Good, now what are you going to do this week?
Find a new church group.
Awesome! And what else?
Stop texting the girl.
Even better.
My phone alarm then goes off. I want to see you again, I say. You're like the holy grail being at such a "step 1" phase, and I genuinely think I can learn from you.
I'd LOVE it, he said brightening up.
Great, we're going to do a follow up. Right now though, I want you to stay at the bar and make friends. Just go up and start talking to people. Have no agenda or motive, talk about the game, talk about anything - but I want you to get comfortable talking to people.
Alrite he said.
I then went in for a hug and left for my date with a smile on my face knowing I had genuinely made a difference today.
I'm going to keep seeing the mormon to see what I can help him with. He's at a very very very basic level one and again, I can learn from him as much as he can learn from me. I'm SO FREAKING EXCITED and I'll keep you guys posted!!
See, I am taking my 103 dates in 9 months and the fact that I have still averaged at least two dates a week for the past year (after the social experiment) and turning it into helping nerdy dudes get the girl. Rather than keep plugging my personal life (which any relationship blogger will tell you - you can't do forever) I wanted to shift into an advisor-ship role where I help nerdy dudes out. From their OKC profiles, to anything, I wanted to create a mock environment where we would sit and chat and I could help them figure out what their dating dilemmas were truly all about. FTR, I have absolutely no filter and a bullshit radar like NO other.
I heart helping people, and I can talk about dating and social dynamics for daayyyysssssss ... so this is helping me with my understanding of people tremendously, while at the same time, again, helping my nerdy fellas out. To make sure a transaction of some kind is exchanged though for my time (time is the most valuable thing ever), I have the guys buy me a beer and in exchange we will talk.
So, that's what has been going on, and here is the latest and greatest ...
Introducing: the dude that took me out on a date to get startup advice
Last week I got hit up by this duderino on Facebook asking if he could be taken in the field for my mock dating. I was all ... great! I adore people that are brave enough to put themselves out there, and are willing to be transparent in the hopes of cutting out the bullshit and getting to the heart of something.
We then agree to meet up in the holly of hoods, and before I knew it the day was upon us.
HELLOOOO I say with a big hug as I see my mock date.
HELLOOOO he then says back as we cop a squat over at the booth in the corner.
SOO, tell me what's up, I say wanting to get to the heart of things. Tell me about your past dating history.
He then tells me all about his previous relationship with his college sweetheart.
Wait, how old are you, I ask.
24, he says.
Ah, fuck, I think - I hate hate hate giving advice to people this young. (remember the dude with the sad eyes?) Your early 20s are all about trying everything and anything -period end of sentence. You need to go out there and date as mannnnyyyyyyyyy different types of people as possible to find out what you like and what you don't like. From THEERRREEE it is easier to break down the patterns and from an advisor perspective help you understand what patterns are present. The absence of patterns makes it very difficult for anyone to dissect (no matter how analytical they may be).
Dating, however, isn't really what I'm into right now, he confesses - I'm really just focused on my startup.
Every alarm in my head then proceeds to ring as I think, fuck, you're now using this time to get startup advice not dating advice from me. Clever, I think, but not cool.
He then goes into telling me about his startup - which I actually don't think is a bad idea, but was not the reason why I agreed to meet up with this dude.
FYI nerds, peeps don't dig being hoodwinked. I've actually met this kid before, and am obviously EXTREMELY grateful that he reads the site - but I very genuinely have this time specifically allocated for my mock dates. I DO give startup advice, however, that is given over lunch not drinks. If you want to buy me lunch to tell me all about your startup, great! I'd adore it as I learn so much from you all as well ... but please for the love of everything holy, do not ... DO NOT bring someone to a meeting under a false set of circumstances. Game recognizes game, so I wasn't mad at the kid. Heck, if Pete Cashmore was more available to the public I prolly wouldn't have had to crash the Grammys to meet him. I TOTALLY get and can TOTALLY resonate with where this kid was coming from, but it genuinely pissed me off.
The entire night I kept trying to steer things back to dating, and while he did open up a bit - it just wasn't cool, totally made me feel used.
<tangent> Coming from this space in general I have to thwart off peeps trying to use this brand morning, noon, and night. (Even the motorcycle/national geographic dude I went out with earlier this week was asking me about my connections in radio. It's like are you for REAL??) It makes you your own worst enemy!!! You work your ASS off to create something, and to create connections when in return 90% of people will only just try to use you for their own personal agendas. Why do you think I had to take my dating out of real time?? It. does. not. work. Guys want to be written about, so they'll message me, read about my past history discovering what I'm into ... what I'm not ... just like that I get manipulated into liking them, and just like that boom - they break my heart so that I'll write about them. It sucks. And something I am always always always on the lookout for. </tangent>
I consider the time I allocate for these mock dates to be sacred - peeps confess their SOOOULLLLSSS to me ... the LAST thing I want to talk about in that space is startups.
No. Freaking. Bueno.
SOOO that happened. I then gave him some advice and politely excused myself walking back thinking it was cool that this happened since I didn't exactly have a bad night, but if anyone ... and I mean AANNNYYOOONNNNEEEE uses this space again to ask for help with their startup I will chop your balls off and publicly shame you.
I am ABSOLUTELY not even kidding either - I run with scissors and don't always play well with others.
Don't piss me off, man and more importantly don't waste my time.
ALLLLLL this being said, here's his review on Mirror.net...
His dateAbility:
annnnnddd for his review ...
Again, I didn't have a "bad" evening, but I was definitely lead to it under false pretences. If you guys want advice for your startup all you have to do is buy me lunch. Easy peasy! I ADOORREE talking about startups, just not in this type of setting and not when I think I'm going into something to give dating advice.
This kid will do well in business, but EVERYONE ELSE HAS BEEN WARNED. Put me in this kind of situation again and this is what you will get ...
OOOOHHHH what a weekend. First up, lemme address the latest and greatest with the ongoing saga of Romeo.
I texted him on Friday asking to kick it, and he unfortunately had to work all weekend. See, he works in TV and his hours are all over the place all the time. Totes get it, genuinely wasn't mad at it - but this week we have to have a chat.
He came back into my life on April 18th, and I'm still as unsure what everything means. So, my first love and best friend of 8 years is back in my life, and I have no idea what I am supposed to do about it. I've obviously been playing everything RIDICULOUSLY cool - but this is bullshit. He knows it, and I know it. We love each other so much it's absurd and our story is the most insane thing ever.
I have not been able to stop thinking about him for less than 5 seconds since April 18th. THERE ARE 86,400 SECONDS IN A DAY!!! That's 17, 280 SECONDS OF MY DAY DEVOTED TO HIM!!
I DO NOT GIVE THAT MUCH BRAIN POWER TO ANYONE ... EVER!!!
So, it's total bullshit and now I'm genuinely just pissed. It's shit or get off the pot time with him. We don't have to "officially" date right away (we're actually not even Facebook friends, so it will def not be Facebook official), but I DO need a commitment from him in some capacity that that is what we are working towards.
YOU CANT DO THIS TO A PERSON!!! It's horrible!! He waited TWO MONTHS to contact me after his break up and then when he texts me he is AT THE BAR ACROSS THE STREET FROM MY HOUSE? I mean how nuts is this entire story. (If it ends well, I'm going to turn it into my first screenplay. If it doesn't end well I may type it all out anyway and then slowly suffocate myself with the pages.)
I just have to grab everything by the balls though and say - if we're going to do this, great! If not - I'm 27, I run my own business, and I have spent 8 months doing self work with a modern day shaman after conducting a social experiment on the organic root of attraction. I FUCKING KNOW WHAT I WANT and I'm done done doner than done with casually dating. (It's also too a series of next doable actions. I want kids one day, so to have kids I want to be married, and to get married I have to be in a serious and committed relationship. To get into a serious and committed relationship I had to do all the self work I'm doing first. Get it?)
That is one thing that I have recently gone over with the shaman, and I can't begin to tell you how mind altering it is:
It's really hard to wrap your brain around based on the domestication that is placed on us from the womb. (Be polite to others, say your pleases and thank yous) I'm not saying we should all go around being butthole surfers to each other, (I still heart Pepper long time) but be deliberate with your words and SAY WHAT YOU FEEL!!!
So hard to do. So freaking hard - but every step down the path of personal truth is a step in the right direction.
Romeo is on my path of my personal truth. I would absolutely absolutely absolutely marry him tomorrow if he asked. Not being with him 2.5 years ago is LITERALLY my only regret in life, and I knew at 19 in OUR VERY FIRST KISS that bam - this was it.
Saying all of this to him though is going to be one of the most difficult things I've ever had to do. I actually just considered sending him a Facebook message on it, but I know I need to just lay it all on the table for him in person. I just might be sobbing the entire time as I do so.
UGH! I can't begin to tell you how much that makes me want to vomit. I can't believe I am going to be that emotionally vulnerable in front of anyone. BAHAAHHHHHHHH
We'll see where it all goes, but in the meantime, I took my own dating advice and said - what do you do when you're head over heels for a dude and still not in a committed relationship? You keep dating other people!!
Super. Super. Super. important - and although I can't scientifically prove it, literally EVERYONE that I have given that advice to have not only loved it, but gotten their duderino or duderina to come around faster. We're obviously all energy beings, and the second you feel that person's energy suddenly disappearing it can make people react faster. It's like woah woah woah! Where'd they go?
The person will then call or text you and wham bam thank you ma'am! You are good to go.
So, laaasssttt week - yeah, I was watching my favorite show EVER on National Geographic, and I noticed that there was a live tweeting component. W2G @natgeo, I thought ... but then as I watched this dude's story I was COMPLETELY blown away. This motherfucker was locked up in a jail in Pakistan for almost 3 years. He was beaten numerous times to literally a bloody pulp and that fucker fought back like you wouldn't BEELLIIEEVVEEE!! Badass with a capital B.A.D and I had to at least give him a holla.
I wasn't watching it live since I DVR everything, but I just googled his name and "twitter" - and just like that, there he was. I then sent him a tweet saying his story was incredible. I had no idea if he was going to write back, but I have RIDICULOUS respect for people like that.
To my surprise a few hours later he @replies me back and throws in a "you're gorgeous." Oh la la, I thought. Flirting in 140 characters is pretty darn sexy!
We then started DMing and swapped digits. Then on this Friday I texted him asking to kick it, and just like that a few hours later we were grabbing beers in WeHo.
I don't want to say anything about the date (since I can't document dating in real time), but I'd LOVE to kick it with this guy again. There was something so visceral that he provoked in me. It's like at any given moment the shit could LITERALLY hit the fan (earthquake, zombie apocalypse, person next to me spontaneously combusting) and this guy could protect me.
That is ahhhhh-mazing and a total panty dropper.
I will say though, we wound up only staying in WeHo for a hot minute because he then took me for a ride on his Harley.
There is nothing more insane btw than meeting someone you've met on twitter because you saw them on TV and then hours later being strapped as bitch on the back of their bike.
It was great, I had a helmet - and I enjoyed myself. YAY FOR NEW LIFE EXPERIENCE!!
So yeah, outside of that, there is no review of him on Mirror.net - nada. Just genuine human to human connection that I can't document in real time.
Then on Saturday, I had made plans with the duderino that I connected with via him dialing the wrong number and he wanted to head up to the hills to see the Super Moon.
The moon last night was 14% bigger and 30% brighter than all other moons we will see this year. Pretty darn cool!
He then picks me up in his big ol' pick up truck (chicks dig trucks) and we headed over to Runyon Canyon to gaze at the sky.
Is Runyon going to be open for the gazing, I asked?
What do you mean, he replied.
Runyon closes from dusk til dawn, I say.
OOHHH does it? Well, we might have to hop a fence.
I laugh as I say, not a problem, but let's go up the Mulholland route so we're at least closer to the top and they might leave that gate open for the star gazing.
We then get to the peak, and fortunately the gate was open.
WINNING!
We then walk up to the very very very top of Runyon and have literally the most breathtaking view of Los Angeles and of the GOORRGEEOOOUUSSS moon.
Here is an unfiltered photo:
We then sat on wooden benches and he pulled out a cooler stocked with wine, cheese, and crackers.
I hope you like pinot grigio, he said.
UMMMM, kind of my favorite wine, I reply thinking well done!
We then kicked it in a super romantic way. Again, not going to talk about it ... but FTR dudes, Bristol Farms has the most AH-MAZING chocolate covered strawberries ever!! So fresh and SO FREAKING YUMMY!!!
About an hour later we started hearing coyotes.
OOOOOOOOOOOOOO cooed the wild beasts.
Holy shit, I said. That last one was close!
We better get going, replied my date.
I then realize we are both unarmed and should an animal actually come at us, we're kinda fucked.
I then motion for him to hand me the bottle opener which has a small but sharp knife attached to it.
He grabs the spatula which had a sharp edge used for cutting the cheese.
You take that, I'll take this, he said.
And just like that ... my date and I walked down the mountain armed with a spatula cheese thingie and a bottle opener guided by the light of the flashlight app on my iPhone.
We make it all the way down, safe and sound, but when we get back to the parking lot we quickly realize that they've locked up for the night.
NOOOOOO!!! I thought. We're ACTUALLY going to have to hop the fence now.
And FTR this shit was MASSIVE ...
I've joked 100 times on this site that I rock Vans and Converse because I normally have to climb fences, but even for me - this one was big. ::thatswhatshesaid::
My date is a semi-pro climber having climbed mountains before, so he instinctively surveys the grounds and finds a relatively safe spot for us to jump.
I'll go first he said, then you drop me the stuff, and I'll help you over.
Like Spiderman he SSCCALLLESSSS that bad boy in 2 seconds hopping down like it was nothing.
I on the other hand climb up on this super shaky crate and quickly realize at this point I have had 2 glasses of wine. 2 glasses of wine + 1 slightly buzzed Jen Jen + fence hopping = disaster
I started shaking as my fear of heights also kicked in.
Don't fall.
Don't fall.
Don't fall.
My date was great, he guided me literally step my step as I lowered myself down and then onto the ground.
We then hug to a job well done and no broken bones.
YAY ADVENTURE AND YAY LIFE!!
THHHEENNNNN at that point it was still pretty early, so we headed back over to Hollywood and kicked it at one of my favorite bars with the best craft beer EVER.
The place was pretty packed at that point, so we scooched into this booth with a big birthday party happening.
Two seconds into sitting down they all start taking pictures. My date proceeds to photo bomb them.
AHH-MAZING!
We then kicked it for a bit, and then went upstairs to play Street Fighter.
AHHHHH I kick so. much. ASS at old school Street Fighter. I get super into it too, and yeah, that shit is my jam.
He beat me the first round, however, I quickly dusted myself off and pwned the motherfucker.
When we were done playing, we were about to walk downstairs when I can't describe it - but I instinctively looked over to this back area and saw mine and Noah's old roommate!
WHHHAAATTT I thought, not having seen this guy in a few years.
I then start screaming his name, and he looks up.
I RUNNNNNNN over to him and give him a hug as he introduces me to his fiancé. Mazel tov all around, I say congratulating the happy couple.
What are you guys doing here, I ask?
Oh, we're here for a friend's birthday party, replied the old roommate.
Wait, is your friend the one in the red sweater?
Yeah.
HAHA this is HILARIOUS!! My date was totally just photo bombing their pictures!!
.... and this ladies and gentlemen just became the smallest world ever.
WTF are the odds that you'd randomly photo bomb the people next to you and come to find out the people there were friends with your old roommate.
WEIRD!! But this shit happens to me ALL. THE. TIME.
We then laugh it off as my date and I head back to my place.
He dropped me off at the door .... and I shall say no more.
It was super sweet and hands down one of the most romantic dates I've ever been on.
As I was writing this I texted him a thank you and here's his response ...
He's pretty much the most adorable human being ever.
So, this is my reality. I'm SO FREAKING PROUD OF MYSELF for doing so much inner work to now attract more awesomeness, but I'm scared out of my fucking mind with Romeo. I just want to get our conversation over with. I need to articulate my truth, and if we're meant to be together great, but if not this weekend was indicative enough that I am DEFINITELY on a great track to meeting a great guy.
Wednesday, July 25, 2012 at 10:57AM
I found a calling last year when I worked in the field with Neil Strauss and between myself, and our resident social dynamics expert @Redolopho we really want to help you guys take things to another level.
