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<editorsnote> Hi, I'm Jen Friel, and we here at TNTML examine the lives of nerds outside of the basements and into the social media, and dating world.  We have over 75 peeps that write about their life in real time. (Real nerds, real time, real deal.) Sit back, relax, and enjoy some of the stories!! </editorsnote>

 

 

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Tuesday
Mar222011

#HowTo: Prep for the Biggest Meeting of Your Life

I have the biggest meeting of my life tomorrow. I've literally been trying to write for about the last hour how I feel and I keep typing, deleting. Typing. Deleting. Typing. Deleting.

That's not like me - at all. I pretty much just post random shit just so I can get it out of my head. I don't really think about people reading it. Actually, come to think of it, I don't even think I'm deleting it because I'm thinking about people reading it, I am just so fucking excited.

I think one of the hardest things anyone can ever do in life is learn how to step up to their own plate. When we're growing up, we are told to be here ... to be there ... do this ... to do that ... need permission for this ... you'll get in trouble for that ... it's a hard thing to be so conditioned like that as a wee one, and learn how to just break free from it as an adult. Ever wonder why we give permission slips to be Unapologetically Awesome? Cause otherwise, I know you guys won't do it! We always look for that little psychological cue. Get it?? Eh? Eh?! There's always a reason. Jiggggaaaaaaaaaaa


I'm really excited. We just got off a call with one of the duderinos, aka the hollywood god. I just like want to pinch that dudes cheeks. When we had lunch last year, I emailed him right back saying I wanted to work with him. Who knew what one year would bring - ahmazing. But for reals, he told me to just let loose on all my ideas for marketing and emerging media ... which to me, just makes me wanna cry. It's like finally! Finally!! I feel like I've been SCREAMING at the top of my lungs for the last year telling people, please, please, listen! This is a HUGE area of opportunity!! I literally just want to cry. I'm so thankful. I know these people are smart, and I know they're going to do something with it - which is just this huge relief to me. It's like FINALLY. THANK YOU!!!! We're already talking about your project, why the FUCK aren't you setting up the platform for us to do so!?! They just don't know! No one really knows what they can do with social media, the education on all of this is CRUCIALLLLLLL!!!

I just can't believe tomorrow I am fully stepping up to the plate, and I know it's going to be a homerun. There's nothing they can't ask me about this space that I don't know. I've been eating, sleeping, and breathing it in an extremely unhealthy way for the last year. OMG I can't believe I am turning into such a chick and tearing up as I write this ... I just, have worked so hard. So hard. And I didn't know what the "right" opportunity was - but I knew I wasn't going to ever give up. NOONNNNEEEE of this has been easy. I assure you, if I wasn't such a sick and twisted individual, I would have given up a long time ago. Not having any money is not easy - but it's certainly motivating. If I had sold a piece of the brand, or dude, even just ad space ... it wouldn't have kept me as hungry. I knew what I was doing, I just didn't know how to articulate that. This didn't start off as something that I wanted to do for money. I thought it was a cute idea, and by studying trends I was incredibly confident that it would work ... but no one knows for sure.

I love this video by Unkie Steve Jobs ... I've posted it a million times, and it deserves it a million more ...

 

Best advice ever: stay hungry - stay foolish.

Being hungry will keep you motivated, and being foolish allows you to think outside the box, and in certain cases even reinvent it. When it comes to anything worth doing in life, you can't chase the dollar. Money is just an illusion. It's all bullshit. It comes, it goes - and the adventures you have in between are really all that will EVER count. I cannot stress that enough.

I heard no less than 100 times that I was crazy. I heard no less than 100 times that what I was doing was foolish. I heard no less than 100 times, we're not interested. I heard no less than 100 times, get a job. I heard no less than 100 times you could just sell and this would all be over. My friends didn't know what to do with me, my family even stopped speaking to me for a bit ... this UNSHAKABLE belief that I was onto something, and your support was very literally the only thing that kept me going. Omg STOPP BEEINNGG A CHICKKK!! Here come the water works.

You guys mean the fucking world to me, man. Do you know how hard it is to wake up in a car, but hear heyyy! You've changed my life!! It's bat shit. But I knew it was part of something greater, I just couldn't see the whole path yet. Even now, I still don't know what tomorrow is truly going to bring, but I know I am more prepared than ever, and ready for ANYTHING ANYONE has for me.

#bringit

"You can do anything you set your mind to."

 

Monday
Mar212011

They're Talking Nerdy Baby: #NerdsUnite

OMMMMGGGGGGGGGG is there anything better to wake up to? Looky looky the email I got this morning ...

 

Hey XXXXX!

Thanks so much for reaching out dude.

I was totally in your same shoes. I lived my ENTIRE LIFE for other people, and their expectations of who I was and what I should be doing. It drove me crazy - literally. I finally got so frustrated with reading all of those cheesy quotes sitting around my desk, and just said I'm gonna go for it. The first step was the hardest, but the best part was every subsequent step was shown to me the moment it needed to be shown. It's a journey that you can't really see and no one prepares you for. It starts with this feeling of discontent, and unhappiness. I had two things I listened to ... feels good/ doesn't feel good. Literally, it was that easy. Social media felt AWESOME! But everyone thought I was bat shit for turning my back on acting and modeling. It's like wait, why can't I just create my own multimedia platform to take pictures on and occasionally make a funny video or two. Isn't that kinda the same? Who says I have to do it your way when I think this is a REALLY special time to be alive in this space?! And it interests me SO much!!! This can't be a bad thing!!

People will tell you you're crazy. Family and friends may not speak to you for a while ... but hold people in a place of unconditional love and just let go, babe.

Life really. really. really. is what you make of it. If it doesn't feel good, you're doing life wrong.

Stay strong, and LMK if theres anything I can do to help.

#nerdsunite

Also!! I totally updated the About page, and created a Jen's Journey piece up top sort of explaining how we all came about, since my journey isn't exactly what this site is necessarily about - more of just a cool tale. You guys have NO idea how hard it is to write that yourself while you're still so deep in it. It's a very weird feeling - no other word for it.

I'm totally serious too, and please take me up on an offer to help anyone out with anything you guys can come up with! Dude! @Zrdavis hit me up back in December, and TODAY he is starting his hike on the Appalachian Trail. Like today, like right now - he is there. It was very literally nothing for me to post, and it helped him tremendously. So fucking bat shit, man! So for reals ... you don't bother me ... you people make my life, and I kinda wanna make out now cause kissing feels good and you're hot and uh yeah.

#kthxbye

Email: JenFriel at talknerdytomelover dot com

Twitter: @JenFriel

Facebook: Facebook.com/jenfriel

 

Monday
Mar142011

#NerdsUnite: Learn to take time 

 

AHHH!! BAHHHH and YAHHHHHH!!!! ANNDDD looky looky the tweet I just got ...

 

K. So I've posted on this a gajillion times, and I'm sure I'll post on it a gajillion more. No really, a gajillion. Literally.

Get it? ... My daddio who kicks it on the patio, taught me growing up the importance of sitting and watching the sunset. It keeps you present, keeps you grounded, while at the same time reminding you of what is important in life. Even the other day, when I got like crazy overwhelmed with what's going on with the pilot and what not - my first instinct was to hit a bus and get to the beach. No, not literally hit a bus more like go find one ... track it down ... and make it your bitch.

It is MAKING MY LIFEEEEEEEE right now that some of you guys are doing the same! For REALS! Keep it up! Totally works! May not have listened to my dad on everything ... as is evident from this video ...

but that ... THAT ... I still do.

Keep on keepin on! WAHOO!!

#nerdsunite

PS. emails make my LIFEEEEEEEEE!!! Thanks so so so so so much you guys xo

 

Thursday
Mar102011

Unapologetically Awesome Tour heads to San Diego! 

In the land of Jen desires a Kokomo checkin, I need a vacation. Desperately. I am being proactive in this scenario, and decided to head to San Diego for the weekend. The best part is that I came up with a frugally responsible plan strictly utilizing public transportation. 

First, I'm popping over to the Greyhound station here in Hollywood - and hopping on a bus.

Cost: $16.72 (money received via the psychological fugue fund aka friend of the site)

Bus station to Gaslamp district (where I want to go): $2.25

Upon arrival in the Gaslamp district, I negotiated a deal with a hostel to stay in one of their rooms in exchange for some nerdy loving.

Cost: $0

Food: I got a bunch of Zone bars the other day from the gym doing some sort of promo thing. I'm pretty certain I can survive off of a box of 10 for a weekend. I don't think I'll need to eat more than 3 over the course of 3 days. Might be close, but doubtful. Either way, never underestimate the kindness of Facebook friends you haven't friended yet for web favors in return. Fucking FABULOUS!

And there I beeeeeeee in the San Dizzle izzle my nizzle! I'm literally getting out of town for the weekend for under $50 round trip. How AWESOME is that?

If you're in the area and wanna kick it totally hit me up on twitter: @JenFriel and follow my checkins on FourSquare: foursquare.com/jenfriel

Can't wait to meet some of you! Except that dude over there. Yes, yes you. You smell.

 

#geterdone

 

Monday
Mar072011

They're Talking Nerdy Baby: #NerdsUnite

Looky looky the email I just got on Facebook ...

 

Wow. Amazing question Rebecca! Thanks for reaching out.

The number one thing I used to ALLLWWAYYYYYSSSS teach my accounts was to ask a series of qualifying questions. When it  comes to cellular anything - people really only wanted the newest and fanciest app friendly device. I used to tell my accounts that that was great and all, but if they actually educated the customer on why they were buying the product, they would ultimately have a better experience and refer more friends. Back then, omg haha - it was does it have a camera, can you send a text? (Dude, this was 2006! INSANE!) I know this sounds lame, but I just very very very genuinely wanted to help people find the device that was best suited for their habits. Again, these now seem a bit outdated since I feel like everyone under the sun has one reason or another for a smartphone - but I would ask people questions like- are you going to use this for work? What kind of work do you do? (PDA vs. non - ANNNDDD maybe they are the decision maker in the office, so you could do a B2B upsell at that point!)

Get personal. Vibe it out, though. Some people may TOTALLY shoot you down, and say this is what I want - give it to me - peace. But the overwhelming majority of the population won't. They'll actually get really really really excited. Know your phones inside and out so you can recommend on the fly, and just go with it. No one likes to be sold - but we want to buy. So, let us!

Hope this helps!

#nerdsunite