They're Talking Nerdy Baby! #NerdsUnite

Every.Freaking.Day. I wake up to the most AH-mazing emails on the planet. I literally cannot thank you all enough ... here's a cool one that came in last night ... (hehehe I said came)

This is like the greatest thing ever!! I've honestly been toning down my own dating on OKC as of late due to the shaman and the dating coach I've been working with. I've been doing loads of self work and operating a bit below the radar dating wise (but for good reason!!). I can't explain it all yet, but I will ... and it's cool! And I think working!!!

I can't say anymore without giving it away ... but thank you thank you thank you. AND thank you all again SO MUCH for all the flowers, tweets, emails, comments re: the attack on Sunset. I still haven't gotten to answering emails, and I very genuinely just don't think I can go there. I know ... I know ... lame, since I respond to everything else, but just need to process that still. Read everything - but can't go there yet. I still have to go and give flowers to the Russian ladies that chased the mothafucka down. I'm dragging my heels so hardcore on it. It's like if I dont actually go and do it - this didn't actually happen.

BAH! Oh the brain ... either way ...

Got something to say?

Here's my email: jenfriel at talknerdytomelover d c

Twitter: @JenFriel

Facebook: Facebook.com/jenfriel

Keep on keeping on ... and keep on talking nerdy to me!!! =)

#RAWR

Oh and PS. this is what I'm currently listening to. Talk about an AWESOME way to start off your Tuesday! Whoop whoop! #love

#NerdsUnite: Breaking down the steps to ensure you get a kiss at midnight!

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Barry. He's a dating coach here in LA, and starting in January he is going to help me out with dating and totes offer up some advice for the community! How friggen RAD is that!!! Here is his latest and greatest. HIT IT BARRY!!! </editorsnote>

(Please note for dudes - swap out the him with her ... and this article is kosher for you too! kthxbye)

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @DatingCoachB

New Year's Eve is a great opportunity for a first kiss with the guy you wish would make a move. The truth is, connecting with the man of your dreams comes down to a few key moments. The moment he first notices you. The moment he approaches you. The moment he asks you on a date. And, of course, the moment you share your first kiss.

New Year's Eve creates the perfect opportunity for you to finally kiss that guy you want. He might be someone you've been on a couple of dates with, or someone you've known for awhile but never had a chance to get romantic with.

Here's how to make the most of your New Year's Eve this year.

Step One

Make sure you are at the same party as the guy you want to kiss, obviously.

Step Two

Make sure you break the touch barrier early in the night. Start with friendly touching on the arm or upper back. As the night progresses and the champagne flows, see how he reacts to escalated touching on the lower back, or letting your hand linger a little longer. Look into his eyes more. Find reasons to lean in and tell him things (either whispered secrets or speaking loudly over the music). Let your cheeks and bodies brush if possible, but only if it's natural. The more closeness and contact you can promote the better.

Step Three

Flirt a little during the night, if you feel he'll reciprocate. If he is not reciprocating, he may not be interested enough in you to kiss you. One way to get your flirting going on the topics of romance and intimacy is to ask him to look back on how this past year was in terms of romance and passion, and then both share what you want the New Year to bring you in terms of passion.

Step Four

Allow the tension to build. Don't disarm or defuse the sexual tension. As the evening goes on, you may feel a little electricity or attraction in the air. Let it hang there, especially as you get nearer to midnight. Don't undercut it with self-deprecating comments, or discussing 'downer' topics like sick relatives or divorce. Stick to fun, sexy vibes and looking forward to the New Year.

Step Five

Close to midnight, compliment him on some quality of his that you really love. Touch him affectionately. Keep eye contact.

Step Six

Keep him close as the countdown begins. Put your hand on his lower back, or on his chest. Smile at him and let your bodies lean against each other. When the countdown hits zero and the party poppers go off, turn to face him. Lean in for a kiss. When you get about a foot from his face you'll notice if he turns his head slightly to get a kiss on the cheek ("Let's just be friends." or "I haven't decided yet.) If he continues to face you then finish coming in for the kiss!

Step Seven

Kiss him! Match his style of kissing. Open-mouthed if he's passonate and into it. Closed lips to start if that's how he is. But you can escalate the kiss with caressing, and by slightly parting your own lips to see if he follows suit. (More detailed tips on kissing will be available in my upcoming booklet "Kisses That Seal The Deal").

If you aren't at the same party as the man you want, then text him playfully throughout the night. At midnight, send him a playful "kiss" text, humorously telling him that if he were there he would have gotten the best kiss he'll get all year. If he is disappointed, you know he wants that kiss the next time you see him!

Have a Happy New Year and HAVE FUN FLIRTING!

Your Dating-Coach,

Barry

#nerdsunite

Want more from Barry? Call or email him for your free one-on-one Dating Quiz and Assessment today. BarryPaulPrice@gmail.com & 323.301.6038

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#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick ... (how to ask out a server)

It is my goal for 2012 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy dudes out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life. 

Here is one I got last night on Facebook chat (which FTR I am not actually always on. My Droid Charge leaves me logged in 24/7 and I very genuinely do not get all of your messages. Stupid Facebook chat on the stupid Droid Charge. BAH!)  ...

 K ... I've been a server before for years and years and years and I will let you all in on a little secret - there is never a tacky moment to tell a woman she is beautiful.

It's not the time or place that makes things awkward or "tacky" - it's the approach. What you need to do if you find a server attractive is this ...

1. Be geniune. Women have this very freaky ability to call out bullshit; we get "how you doin'ed" all day every day ... but the one guy ... the ONNNEEEEE guy that called us beautiful, and genuinely meant it- we remember. BE THAT GUY!!!!

2. Write her a note, don't ask her out immediately at the table. She's going to be "put on the spot" and wonder if her tip is going to be effected by her answer. You might want to smile a little extra sweetly, or strike up some sort of small talk asking her what her favorite special is or something ... but when you're dealing with a hot server or bartender the position of power is shifted. You want something from her, but her answer could also depend on how much she could make this evening, and to servers who in most states don't even get minimum wage it's a HUGE deal.

2. At the end of the meal leave a note in the check. All servers check this obviously, and it's a way for you to leave it open to her to contact you without making her feel uncomfortable. It used to happen to me a lot when I was serving and every time I would at least call the guy back and just say thank you. I was incredibly flattered. One dude I served over at the Milk and Honey here in LA though found me on google and emailed me on this site. Dudes, I haven't worked there in 2 years - and his approach was creepy not cute. (Read his email here)

That didn't work. But here is an example of what would have worked ...

I just have to say that I think you're really beautiful. I didn't want to embarrass you in front of my friends/family/ ::insert whatever:: - but I'd love to grab a drink or coffee with you sometime.

::insert name and number::

BOOM! Short, sweet, and to the point. Telling a woman she is beautiful will never go out of style, and if for whatever reason a chick gets pissed at that, be glad you know up front she's a beyotch and didn't waste $20 on booze!

Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com

ORRRRR you can message me on Facebook and if it's within 140 characters on the twitter!

Best of luck out there nerds!!

xoxo <3 @JenFriel

#Tonight: Calling all DC nerds, who wants to kick it???

DUDDDEESSSSS!!! So freaking excited!! Tonight! I am going to be meeting up with a bunch of peeps over at Sine here on Pentagon Row.

And guess what .... this totes means you're invited!

Dudes, if tonight is going to be anything like it was last time ... holy moly roli poli oli! We CLOSED THAT PLACE DOWN!

HAHAHAHA omg my favorite part from that night though was the bathroom discussion on sodomy. That was just off the freaking CHARTS!!

So, if you wanna come hang out, grab a beer and be part of an adventure I shall see you tonight! I also too genuinely enjoy connecting people, and TNTML has one RAAAAADDDD community, so come meet some like minded nerdy peeps, and yah! Let's have fun!! =)

Where: Sine Irish Pub

When: Tonight, 9pm - close

Hit me up on twitter if you need more deets, but we're very much a come one come all things nerdy kinda community - so feel free to bring friends, whatevs.

OMG OMG OMG OMGGGGG I cannot WAIT to see @ashleycrowl. I might dry hump her face right off. Dudes, this chick drinks Guinness, plays rugby ANNNDDD is crazy beautiful and awesome.

She might just be the great white buffalo.

::sigh::

SEE YOU ALL TONIGHT!!!

LOVE @JenFriel

#nerdsunite

#NerdsUnite: The secret life of a veterinary technician (Preparing for & celebrating the holidays with pets)

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Lindsay. She and I met ... well, somewhere in the social space. I think we might have started talking through this site directly, then through facebook - maybe ... I'm not sure. But she's awesome. I talk to her on twitter almost every day, and she's really rad and TOTALLY a big huge animal lover. Like crazy huge!! In these series of posts she will be talking about her life and random adventures with sometimes more than two legged creatures. I guess there's only one more thing left to say ... HIT IT LINDSAY!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @TheCraftafarian

Hey nerds! My little foster kitten inspired this weeks post by being all sorts of crazy and attacking my mini christmas tree (every night...). I'm sure some of this may be common sense but as a vet tech working before, during, and after the holidays I want to share a few precautions to take with your furry babies. Annnnd as a nerd, hopefully some of us get some awesome nerdy goodies for the holidays--how to protect your gifts from your terrible pets ;)

My older pets (really all four of them, the other two are lizards and stay in their enclosures) don't mess with my decorations. When they were younger they did but of course we get used to things and it wasn't until I started decorating for christmas this year that I began to realize I may be in trouble with this rambunctious foster kitten. 

His main focus is my mini tree--thankfully (I guess) the lights died so they aren't on there. Its just cute little ornaments we recieved for christmas last year or the year before and this really pretty red ribbon. Oh and a glow in the dark star--hey I make christmas on a budget!!

Here are my tips!!

1. Absolutely no no no NOOOO tinsel strands!! Cats and dogs may try to eat this and if ingested it can get wrapped up in the intestines and cause serious injury or death. Expensive and major surgery is usually required. Keep this in mind also for yarn, string, thread, and any other linear object (ribbon etc). 

(example of strand tinsel)

The tinsel garland is ok because it breaks off in little pieces but I would still use extreme caution. (click here to view)

2. Always be careful with lights and wires. A little kitten or puppy can easily chew smart phone cords as well as lights and regular electric cords. Most pets learn to ignore it as they aren't really a good source of entertainment but a kitten will likely chew and play with it. They can get a really bad shock from that it they make contact with the actual wires. 

3. As much as you may want to feed them holiday food BE CAREFUL!! Dogs and cats are used to the same diet every day and when you change it they can often get a stomach ache. What is more concerning is pancreatitis. Sometimes when pets eat food that is not their normal diet it can upset the pancreas. The pancreas is the organ that gives off digestive enzymes to digest food and when those enzymes are released early due to inflamed pancreas they can cause serious problems. Those digestive enzymes piss off the already inflamed pancreas and eventually it starts to affect the liver.

I do let my pets have a little bit of turkey, no skin, no fat, no gravy. Just plain turkey meat. Just watch what you give your fur babies and make sure it isn't high in fat and doesn't have much spices on it--those are the things that usually annoy the pancreas more but any food that a pet isn't used to can cause it. Vomiting, diarrhea, lethargic, painful abdomen, and fever are symptoms. They don't all have to happen together. If your pet is vomiting several times in one day I would go to the vet. Vomiting and diarrhea can drastically dehydrate the body.  

4. Chocolate--I think everyone knows chocolate is bad for dogs. And I would avoid it in cats as well. Bakers Chocolate is the absolute worst, then dark chocolate, semi sweet, and milk. If your pet eats any chocolate I would seek immediate veterinary help. They can eat a certain amount of milk chocolate but to be safe I would go to the vet. Theobromine (ingredient that is toxic to dogs) causes some serious gastrointestinal and cardiac issues. (Info on chocolate toxicitiy and toxic doses by weight and type of chocolate)

Anyway--these are just a few things I thought would be helpful for everyone while preparing for the holidays. 

#nerdsunite

<3 Lindsay
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