#NerdsUnite: Gratitude for Love in Your Life

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Ajay Chauhan

All of us go through personal victories and tragedies. The difference is in how we perceive these experiences. One can downplay the positives and dwell on the negatives. This will make life hell. On the other hand, you can have a beautiful life if we have a sense of gratitude for all the little positives that are manifested in our life.

Some of us may be going through a period of separation from a partner or spouse. The newly single status and its associated loneliness may seem cruel and empty. People may seem vicious and evil.

At this stage, one must remember that this stage will definitely pass. No situation is permanent, and if you have lost one relationship, there are several more relationships waiting for you in the future.

Meanwhile, you need to cultivate the habit of gratitude. Even if you have lost a husband, there is plenty of love in your life: From a close friend to a friendly neighbor to a sensitive colleague at work. If you contribute to charitable causes, you have the love of its recipients to boot.

How can a habit of gratitude be cultivated?

•                Use your senses:  Many sensory experiences are taken for granted. Learn to appreciate life with heightened awareness: Beautiful sights of trees and flowers around you, different smells, and different tastes of food items and different feel of fabrics. Appreciate music, as well as, the different sounds of silence.

•                Do some spring cleaning: Whichever month it is, it is good to gather up the mops and vacuum cleaner to clean up your home. Not only does the newly cleaned room re-invigorate you, but you may stumble upon old photos and trinkets that remind you of happy times.

•                Learn to relax: It is difficult to have a grateful attitude if you are anxious or angry. Try to resolve all issues that disturb your mind so that it can be relaxed and happy.

•                Live in the present: Do not lose the joy of today being entangled with the past and the future. Dwelling on the past and the future makes you miss the wonderful things in the present. Enjoy the experiences of today and do not delay it for tomorrow.

•                Take vacation: It is good to pack up your bags and set upon a vacation far away from the hustle and bustle of your life.  A small picnic in a park nearby will also do, if it can help you unwind. You need to separate yourself from someone or something to truly appreciate their value.

•                Maintain a gratitude journal:  Keep a written record of all the things you are grateful for. By re-evaluating your experiences and sifting the positives, you can reinforce the habit of gratitude. You can read this journal every time you are feeling low, and it will perk up your spirits.

•                Create your own ceremony of gratitude: Light a few candles, meditate or enjoy a pampering bubble bath where you can collect all your positive energy.

•                Take things lightheartedly: Look at the lemons handed down in your life with a pinch of humor. Learn to laugh more, love more and be thankful for every laugh and every feeling of   love in your life.

•                Inspirational material: Read Inspiring books, as well as, inspirational quotes in order to be thankful for the good things in life.

•                Dollops of kindness: Allow yourself to perform random actions of kindness.  Gift a bag of grocery to a homeless man. Volunteer as a neighborhood watch member. All these kind acts are a perfect way to express gratitude to God.

•                Family time: Take out time from your daily life to spend with family and friends and your life will be blessed with unconditional love and joy.

These are some of the tips on how to develop the habit of gratitude in one’s life.

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Author: The author Ajay Chauhan is presently associated with Love Wale. All articles are published on behalf of LoveWale. 

#OnlineDating: Separating The Keepers From The Creepers

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Becca Rodriguez

In the past decade, online dating has transformed from the ultimate relationship taboo to a viable and even admirable means of meeting a compatible partner. According to a recent survey from Pew Research, a full 11 percent of Internet users have signed up for online dating sites, up from just 3 percent in 2008. Of those, an astounding 23 percent have found spouses or long-term partners. An online dating profile can't guarantee you find your soul mate, but the process can be greatly simplified by using some basic criteria in order to weed out the creepers from the keepers.

Making And Sticking To Plans

If there's one way a guy can make it obvious that you are little more than a booty call, it's treating your date in cavalier fashion. Whether it's the first date or the hundredth, you deserve to know when and where you'll be meeting, and that you can actually count on the guy showing up. In this age of social media and text messages, it's incredibly easy for guys to weasel out of dates. That's not to say that all men are willing to leave their dates out in the cold. As a study from Match.com reveals, 82 percent of online dating users say they've never stood up anyone. However, it's still easy to ditch out at the last minute. If your guy sends a cursory text and doesn't attempt to make amends, you might want to consider throwing him by the wayside.

Sweet Gestures

You've made it past the perilous first and second dates and are now rounding the corner for date three. Has your would-be significant other made any romantic gestures? Super fancy dinners are by no means necessary, but moves such as picking out flowers online and having them delivered to your office quickly distinguish creepers from keepers. A dating prospect will only go through such an effort if he is truly interested in pursuing a long-term relationship. In fact, as a study from Hort Technology reveals, the regular presentation of floral gifts actually greatly enhances the chance of a relationship standing the test of time. However, other sweet gestures can also strengthen bonds, with cards, chocolates and even thoughtful phone calls serving as excellent signals as to whether a love interest is truly worth your time.

Sharing Potentially Embarrassing Interests

Often, men go into online dating thinking only of impressing their dates, as opposed to showing their true selves. But at some point, the macho talk about career and athletic achievements grows stale. By the time you've been dating for a few weeks, your new beau should have shared at least one potentially embarrassing tidbit. This could include everything from his penchant for the "Real Housewives of New Jersey" to the story about that time he tripped up the stairs. Research from the University of California Berkley shows that sharing potentially embarrassing information about oneself actually increases trust levels. As such, you should encourage your guy to tell those goofy stories — and don't hesitate to share a few past bloopers of your own!

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#RealDeal: 5 ways to offer each other extra space to enhance relationship

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Ajay Chauhan

Relationship begins to decay, in case any of the partners start to feel suffocated due to the partner’s over clinginess. Couples interested to enhance their relationship and make much stronger should try out different ways that would assist them to understand each other better and to give that much needed space. It is to be remembered that being into relationship is not just a game, but requires plenty of effort for maintaining it. Moreover, it also needs to pass through every test and remain intact.

Spending quality time with friends

It is necessary to understand that everyone would like to spend some quality time with their friends. There might be some special friend, for whom he/she might like to share memories. If the partner tries to stop the person from giving quality time to the friend, this could mean trouble. This actually develops suspicion and is not at all good for a healthy relationship. On the other hand, it would only make the other person to repulse and develop a negative feeling about the partner. Hence, adequate space should be given so that the partner enjoys his/her time with friends, but it is important to know who that friend is.

Taking up different hobbies

It is not necessary that both of them share the same interests. Being love definitely means appreciating one another’s interest, but not at the expense of sacrificing each other’s interests. Therefore, every couple needs to pursue their own hobby, so that they can enjoy themselves and maintain a healthy relationship.

Pressing hard for getting answers

There are times, when a person might handle a situation in a different way. In case, the partner is exhibiting an unusual behavior or quiet, this should not be seen as negativity and too many questions asked in this regard. It would only lead to discomfort in the relationship and unnecessary tension. Also, one should not expect immediate response for such actions.

Becoming a mind reader and too clingy

The partner should not keep on calling every 5 minutes or try to bombard with text messages. It would not be possible for the other person to reply to each of them. Experts state that this could prove to be quite dangerous for the relationship and also not let the partner to focus on his/her work. It might happen that the partner is busy with some important schedule and not have the time to respond. Hence, it is important for the person to give the partner a good amount of time, so that he/she can complete their work and can explain in a relaxed manner about their being late to respond.

Making the partner to understand the importance of providing space

In case, one of the partners is not able to understand the signals, it is, then, high time for both of them to sit down and discuss on providing space to each other. The partner needs to be reassured that giving space is important for mutual development. Communications is known to work always.

With these five top ways, it is sure that the couples would enjoy their relationship.

#nerdsunite

Ajay is currently associated with Love Wale and has been into writing articles for couples to strengthen their relationships with each other. There are plenty of articles written by him that you can see here. 

#NerdsUnite: 5 nerdy and dirty gift ideas for your woman

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Mark Tomich

Fello nerds and geeks, in the decades that passed we may have been considered bad, unimaginative lovers and prudes like Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory. Today we rule the world and are highly sought after by the opposite sex, mostly so for our imagination and non stop innovation in all fields, bed included.

But still, just like with anyone else, things in the bedroom get stale after a while. Here are some tips on how to reignite the fire. These tips are written with all of us in mind - all of us who enjoy ridiculously obscure movie references, technology, lasers, tribute costumes, long conversations about things nobody around us seems to understand. These are ideas specifically written for people like us, people who are proud to be considered nerds and geeks by both society and ourselves:

1) Nookii - a Board Game for the Bedroom

Yes, you read that right! Now you can merge your two major loves - your love for board games and your love for... well, making love. :) Nookii is not a conventional board game by any means. Actually, Nookii is played by using each other's bodies as boards. Disclaimer: do NOT use a gameboard, keyboard or a doll to replace your partner.

Nookii will lay out a script through a series of cards, and you will be playing on every part of your partner's body. The trick is to resist and wait until you finish the game, which will be a challenge in its own right. You will also learn a lot about your partner that you would never think of trying or asking in just 15 minutes.

2) Roleplaying

There is no better spice for your sexual life than roleplaying. Princess Leia and Han Solo constitute the ultimate nerdy turn on. Princess Leia fantasy became so widspread and mainstream that it even got mentioned in a Friends episode in which Ross wanted Rachel to dress up as Leia, so you can now buy specially adapted costumes for just such an occasion in practically any costume store.

If you are feeling both frisky and exceptionally kinky, you have a set of costumes that will enable you to fill the fantasies of Jabba the Hut with princess Leia at your disposal. Yeah, you can help His Ugliness use the collar around Leia's neck and tame the Princess with no help coming to her rescue this time around.

If Star Wards is not your cup of tea, maybe Star Trek costumes which would allow you to fill in the shoes of Captain Kirk, and your loved one an officer lucky enough to catch his attention would be more to your liking. And, theres always the option of dressing up as some of the manga characters - cosplay conventions can be extremely fun too.

3) 360 panoramic photos

For all of you who admire advanced technological solutions, there is now a very compact (albeit fairly expensive) apparatus for recording your foreplay with style. The 360 degree camera is very small and it will make a photograph of your entire surroundings with a click. Many will find this a bit ridiculous as a sexual refreshment tool, but not us geeks! Even though it is almost a given that you will enjoy it thoroughly, the problem is it might prove itself too much of a distraction, thus you may forget to actually do your bedroom duties. ;)

4) Go Virtual

Many Second Life enthusiasts will be thrilled with a gift in the form of virtual genitals. Should you desire a more tangible present, you could always get a couple of months of premium membership. Second life sexual fantasies have a big advantage of going way over the top. For example, you can have your virtual partner turn into an Egyptian goddess or a common prostitute. Whatever floats your boat. Who wouldn't want that?

Start by sending each other texts sweetened with naked photos, preferably 360-degree ones. You will spend the day fantasizing and hiding you crotch from everybody, but it will be worth it once you get together again. Perfect foreplay.

5) Scavenger Hunt

Try to create a photo scavenger hunt. Give your partner a clue in the form of a rhyme, an abstract fact or some association that only you two will understand about a location, and then have her look for clues until she finally gets the ultimate prize - you. A scavenger hunt can combine many other forms of nerdy play all at once. For example you may use your roleplay costumes and take 360 degree pictures, while leaving clues in Second Life universe all at the same time! The only limit is your imagination.

Jocks of Today

I believe this article proves the point made in the intro - we geeks are todays sexual innovators. And to add to that point, there are sapiophiliac (people who are sexually attracted by intelligence). There is absolutely nothing wrong with it, of course. The truth is that the sexual attraction to intelligence is as old as intelligence itself.

In countries in which respectable women were traditionally cloistered it has sometimes been the case that courtesans were able to ply their trade less because of their looks and more because they were educated and could carry on an interesting conversation. Some historians even argue that Cleopatra was actually not that beautiful as we are lead to believe. Her legendary beauty is actually the way her contemporaries saw her due to the fact that she was simply pretty, but also very smart. She was also attractive because she was powerful, of course.

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Unkie Chuck Norris Says ...

The sky has never been the limit. We are our own limits. It’s then about breaking our personal limits and outgrowing ourselves to live our best lives. 

Oh yeah and a test group tested a new Chuck Norris game for Xbox Kinect. No one survived.