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Tuesday
Nov292011

#NerdsUnite: Confessions of an Indie Filmmaker

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Meg. She's an indie filmmaker here in LA and is here to talk about her experiences and challenges in filmmaking. Dudes, Hollywood in a recession is nooooo fun! But here's what's working and isn't working for Meg. Hit it lady!!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Meg Pinsonneault

In case you haven’t heard, I’m running a crowd-funding campaign to complete an inspirational feature documentary, Gwapa (Beautiful), about Filipino kids who overcome severe cleft deformities. It follows the amazing work of Faces of Tomorrow, a non profit organization that offers free facial reconstructive surgeries to families in need in developing countries. (You watch our pitch video for this film HERE.) This subject really means a lot to me because I’ve been fortune enough to travel with FOT on two missions to date. Each adventure was completely life changing in every way. It was incredible to see so many families’ dreams come true. To see the joy in their eyes that their child will grow up healthy. (You watch the documentary I made about FOT’s first mission to Ecuador HERE.) When you’re passionate about a subject and especially if you’re making a film about something that moves you, it’s always hard to see passed your own work. Likewise, it’s easy to forget that there are so many other wonderful crowd-funding campaigns out there that deserve your backing too. So, I’ve decided to dedicate this week’s post to a couple other incredible cause-based crowd funding campaigns that have crossed my path recently. All campaigns are on the Indiegogo platform.
 
First up is La Source, a documentary about the journey to bring clean water to a remote village in Haiti. A few weeks ago, director, Pat Shen, was on the Film Courage podcast talking about this incredible film. I was very moved by the pitch video, not to mention Pat’s wonderful passion behind the project. I donated to this film in its final hours and they raised nearly $16,000 of their $25,000 goal. Although this campaign is finished, you can still donate via Paypal on the film’s website. This is definitely a cause-based documentary worth your support. Take a moment to watch their video and snoop around their websites. You’ll quickly see what I’m talking about! Find La Source on Facebook and Twitter.
 

In La Source, water does not come easily. For the past two hundred years, villagers of this remote Haitian village have had to choose either to endure a dangerous and physically taxing walk to fetch clean water or drink contaminated water from a nearby river. For over 30 years the people in the village have attempted to address this problem by constructing a means to channel the water from a natural spring in the mountains but with limited funding and an unsupportive government their attempts were to no avail. For the Lajeunesse Brothers the time had come to finish the work their father and their community had started. As a young man Josue moved from La Source to New Jersey where he found employment as a custodian at Princeton University. His custodial work and second job as a taxi driver, which total close to 20 hours a day, allows him to send money home to La Source so that he and his brother Chrismedonne, who remained in La Source and found work as a carpenter, could properly channel the water from the mountain into their village.

Our journey to La Source takes us on an adventure as the Lajeunesse Brothers work together to rally the support of a group of Princeton students, a Los Angeles-based charity called Generosity Water, and the people of La Source to fulfill their late father’s dream to improve the conditions of their impoverished village. “La Source” is not just a movie about the transformation that occurs in a community when provided the most basic commodity of all but the story of two brothers empowered by a vision and how they were able to ignite the passion of people thousands of miles away to change the lives of the people in La Source forever. Where water runs, life flows.”

Next up is Miss World aka The Linor Documentary, about Linor Abargil who was rapped just before winning the Miss World competition and her struggle to become the face of this tough issue. I was also very moved by this project mainly because of all the testimonials and support it has garnished. Linor’s experience isn’t an anomaly. Miss World (wt) has the potential to ignite conversation, raise awareness and radically alter the way we perceive and deal with sexual violence and its aftermath. With only 13 days left, Miss World is about $4,000 shy of their $20,000 budget. You can also donate to this project via Paypal from the film’s website after the campaign is finished. Find The Linor Documentary on Facebook too.

Beauty queen Linor Abargil was attacked and raped in Milan, Italy at the age of 18.  Six weeks later and still in trauma, she represented Israel in the Miss World Competition.  To her shock, she was crowned the winner, the only Miss Israel ever to win.  Believing that her rape and winning the crown both happened for a reason, she resolved to one day take action.  At the time she fought to put the rapist behind bars and he was sentenced to 16 years in prison.  After the trial, Linor needed time to heal. Today, ten years later, Linor is about to graduate from law school and is speaking out about her rape to encourage other survivors not to stay silent and not to blame themselves.  She has been working with victims of stranger rape, acquaintance rape, domestic rape, college campus rape, rape with the use of drugs.  But dealing with the violent trauma she buried long ago has brought up painful memories.  Linor has given filmmaker Cecilia Peck ("Shut Up & Sing") exclusive access to her life,  as she travels to speak on college campuses and at treatment centers, and faces her fears.”

Last up is an inspirational campaign called “All The Children Are Loved” run by Mr. Andrew Ojambo, the Executive Director of Sherman Health Care Foundation based in eastern Uganda. This is not a documentary. It’s an outreach project to help children who have lost their parents due to HIV/AIDS. Andrew’s organization supports orphans and needy children with not only food and shelter, but they also provide educational support like books and uniforms. This is a truly inspirational project that is already making a difference. This holiday season, please consider making a donation in your loved ones name. With only 4 days left, Andrew has almost $22,000 to reach his goal. Find “All The Children Are Loved” on Indiegogo.

You could help a child in need forever. By sponsoring a child with Sherman Health Care Foundation, one of the children’s charities based in Busia District, Eastern part of Uganda.You could change a child's life forever. If you sponsor a child with Sherman Health Care Foundation you will be linked with that child and their community so you can see the difference you make for yourself. Sherman Health Care Foundation child sponsorship programme supports children in nearly 3 counties in Busia District – and yes, we really do have a vision for a future of the Child tomorrow, one in which no child has to live in poverty. Working to help communities sustain themselves, we are making that vision a reality. Become a child sponsor from only 75p per day, and join us in making a difference. Sherman Health Care Foundation works alongside communities of all faiths to improve the well-being of children in Busia District.”

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Saturday
Jun252011

Unkie Chuck Norris Says ...

 

Some men can run the fastest, jump the highest, or lift the heaviest, but no man has the corner on ambition, desire, and hustle.

Oh yeah and Chuck Norris is the reason that vampires couldn't go out during the day.

Tuesday
Jun142011

Time to Effing #GetItOn: The New Challengers

Dudes! I have an idea!! I have an idea!! I have an idea!!! ONE! A WHOLE idea!!! Funny considering I am still in my bathrobe and still have my sleeping mask on my head, albeit on top of my forehead so it sort of looks like some super hippie ninja headband ...

 

And I may or may not have showered yet ...

Note to self: shower

But yeah! I'm super stoked!! I noticed in my current dating social experiment this thing - that I can't tell you all just yet - that I want to test out.

How can I do this you ask?

Bring in other people as a control!!! 2 people ... that I will match ... to go out on a date in LA and test out my hypothesis.

I've got the chica down, I just need the duderino.

He needs to be a specific type. Not like looks wise, more of how I know he will process some things.

AHHH!! This is so hard to type out without just saying it ... I will know when I find him another words.

But if you live in LA, and you're free this Saturday - I wanna talk to you!!

Here's my Facebook: www.Facebook.com/JenFriel

There will be no cameras, no BS, there will only be an email or call follow up with me. You will have no idea what I am looking for until after you are done.

Nothing creepy, I just need to test something out in as organic of an environment as possible, and I need to step out of my own head to see if it could literally just be me, or if this is what other people will encounter when they date that could be a pretty big hurdle.

Ya know what I mean jellybean??

So yeah!

Facebook me, bitches!!! I wanna do this!!!

WAHOOO!!!!

#SOEXCITED!!!!!

Special thanks to Effing Gear for sponsoring this latest social experiment. DUDDESSS!! Their t-shirts totes act as a rad ice breaker at bars. No, like for reals. Location based tees FTW!!!! Check 'em out over yonder!

Saturday
Jun112011

#Fact: Never Treat Someone Like a Priority, When They Treat You Like an Option

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jordan Harbinger

I remember when I was young and new to the community, I used to get flaked on quite a bit, and it was a big issue for me and a lot of the other guys I hung out with back then. Nowadays, I get flaked on very rarely, and I think it all comes down to an attitude shift;  changing my attitude toward dates from treating them like priorities, to treating them like options.

Let me explain.

Cool people who have stuff going on in their lives don’t treat dates like priorities. Hot girls don’t pull out their blackberries and writes the date into their calendars when I invite them out, and they don’t expect me to do so either. Even if you’re a really cool guy, and she really likes you, chances are any plans you make together are still options, not priorities. And that’s fine with me, because I don’t expect to be treated like a priority, and I don’t really WANT to be treated like one anyway.

So what is the difference between a priority and an option?

A priority is when you mark a date off in your calendar, cancel your other plans, and start tidying your apartment just in case she comes back to your place. A priority is when you presume that the date is going to happen in a certain way, at a certain time, and you get fixated on that. Implicitly, when you treat a date like a priority, you’re presuming that the other person is treating it like a priority too. And most importantly, when you make something a priority, you get disappointed when the plans change or get canceled.

An option, on the other hand, is much more flexible. An option is simply the possibility of doing something, with real plans TBA. When you have an option open with a girl, there’s no pressure, there are no real plans, and there’s just an agreement that you like one another and will hang out as soon as your busy schedules work together. An option is when you have plans for Thursday, but you call her up on Wednesday and say “let’s grab a pint tonight.” Options are not real plans; they only become solid plans a few hours before the event, when you call up and say “Hi, you still down for some Vietnamese food in the market?”

They are emotionally driven; we will meet up when it feels right, and we will do what we feel like doing at that time. Any plans are really only guidelines for what is going to be an emotionally driven activity.

The great thing about treating dates like options is that they’re low-pressure, comfortable, and make you look like an easygoing, busy guy who doesn’t care too much about the interaction. By treating dates like options, you’re preventing the logistics of the situation from interfering with the emotions of the situation. As long as the emotions are good, as long as she’s attracted to me and wants to meet up with me, then I can be confident that the logistics will work out eventually.

The other thing about options is that they’re easy. Easy come, easy go, easy to reschedule.

Because I never treated the option like it was a big deal, I don’t care if she reschedules or cancels. In fact, I usually have several options on any given night (either with girls or with friends or other activities) so there are always backup plans. And of course, everyone I have an option with is treating it like an option too, so I’m not leaving people high and dry.

If you treat a date as a priority, or worse, try and make her treat your date like a priority, you’re going to damage the emotional momentum that is driving her to want to meet up with you. If you’ve treated the date as a priority, and it doesn’t work out, you’re going to be disappointed. And if you’re disappointed, chances are it’s going to come out in your voice or in something you say, and all of a sudden, the emotions of the interaction have changed. Maybe she’ll think you’re lame, or maybe she’ll just feel guilty for bailing on you, but either way, attraction and excitement has been replaced with something else. Your emotional momentum is lost, and it will be much harder to get her to meet up with you again.

If you try to make her treat your date like a priority, you’re probably going to come across like a tool. Some gurus advocate calling women out on their flakiness. That’s a great idea if you don’t care about talking to her again. Likewise, trying to pressure or guilt a girl into going on a particular date with you is a great way to ruin attraction and ensure she doesn’t answer the phone when you call next. The fact is, unless you have tickets to a Bob Dylan concert or something, it’s really lame and needy to expect a woman to treat your casual date plans as a priority.

Treating dates like options can sometimes be a bit of a pain. Sometimes, you have to wait a week or more between getting a girl’s number and meeting up with her. You can’t plan really complicated dates, and you often need to have some decent phone game to keep the emotional momentum going in between meetups, but in the end, it’s a much more effective strategy.

Eventually, as long as she’s attracted to you, she WILL meet up with you in the end. And the hard-to-get, busy girls are usually the most fun anyways.

Peace out!

To learn more from The Art of Charm about how to meet & attract women, visit www.afterhello.com And, if you're an LA local, you can stop by The Art of Charm office and meet the crew!

 

#nerdsunite

 

Tuesday
Jun072011

#GirlCrush Alert: Courtney from @Kiss957

Oh. My. Gatos. you guys ... I totes just had the most EPIC morning everrrrrrr!!!


So, for this TV show I'm working on (which again, so sorry I can't tell you all yet - but SOON!!! Their press release has to go out first), I had to find a celebrity to stalk. Funny, because I live in LA where that is super easy ... but out here in CT? Not so much! To ease the frustration and pain of stalking some uber rich celebs in Fairfield County, the production team suggested finding a radio DJ and tracking them down. Alrite, I thought - but I haven't even listened to the radio in CT for 10 years!!!!!! I don't know any of the DJs!!! Total lame sauce.

I posted on my problems on Facebook, and a friend of mine suggested talking to Courtney from KISS FM. I shitz you not - I lost it. I was like she is STILL on the radio?!?! Dude, Courtney is an ICON!!! For reals, no BS man - I listened to this chica getting ready for middle school back back back in the day. DJs have SUCH an intimate relationship with their listeners. This chica got me going in the morning, and I listened RELIGIOUSLY to her!!!!!! Totally crazy, and I totally had to go for it.

Seriously dudes, she was an AMAZING sport and hahahahahaa I even got frisked by the morning show team this morning.

Here she and I are ... and dudes, she totes wants to start talking nerdy! This is the beginning of a VERY cool friendship.

 

annnnddd here's inside the studio!

NICEST. PEOPLE. EVER.

Seriously!!!!

You can listen to Courtney in the mornings here in CT on KISS 95.7, or online over yonder!

Thank you guys SO SO SO SO SOOOOOO MUCHHHH!!! What a fucking awesome morning, man!! Wahooooooooooooooo!!!

I only have one more thing to say ...

HIT IT POINTER SISTERS!!

#nerdsunite