Friday
Sep092011
Fun with #Facebook: Epic wall photo
Friday, September 9, 2011 at 9:12AM
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Friday
Sep092011
#NerdsUnite: Confessions of a serial monogamist
<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Jen. She's a graphic designer by day and a serial monogamist by night that lives across the pond in the UK. She's currently in a relationship of 8 years, and her dating record prior had been puddle jumps from 3 months here ... to 3 months there. These are her thoughts on life, love, and all things nerd. Hit it Jen!! </editorsnote>
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Jen Randall
The start of a possible relationship, the dating part, is much like a military operation. Manoeuvres are calculated. Actions are co-ordinated. We accept we might have to go into combat (read: we will not let other suitors get in our way) to respond to this developing situation. We have a single objective and if we don’t reach it our troops will die. No really, some girls would resort to murder.
The most thought out part of Operation Date that Mate are the stealth missions. Wearing your long beige trenchcoat...
Wait... how did we get from an awesome Saving Private Ryan scene to Columbo? Oh well, just go with it, the visuals will be more amusing...
...tweed woollen sleuth hat (I picture myself more as a Jessica Fletcher mystery solver minus the writing books thing), a faux pipe (because smoking is bad) and a magnifying glass that’s twice the size of your head. You look to see where your suitor has recently ‘checked-in’ to and off you go. Tip-toeing around corners, ducking behind street lights and mail boxes, hiding in the (well lit) shadows....you know what...I’m not even sure where this is going. I got carried away with thoughts of Columbo and Murder She Wrote doing a combined episode because that would MAKE. MY. LIFE.
We unintentionally stalk our victims pray possible boyfriends / girlfriends.
Why do we do this? Because we like to have a plan!
Does it ever work? Very rarely
And why is that? Because we come off as crazy people who stalk possible suitors.
It’s no surprise our generation are a little ‘off-balance’.
The problem is, that by sleuthing (or doing special ops ) you can find out too much too fast. On the one hand this is good because you’ll find out early-on whether or not this person really is for you, but on the other hand when you’re out to dinner and he tells you he went to that he went grocery shopping and you can recount to him every single item he bought (including the condoms that you have not yet seen) you could come off as a little cray-cray.
The other thing that isn’t helped by this extra information is that you make your judgements too quick. “OH MY GOD HE DOESN’T LIKE TOBASCO...IT’LL NEVER WORK!”. You could have the most simple difference in taste on paper and you may dismiss this person instantly, which unfortunately cuts your odds of finding someone dramatically. People can’t always be everything you want them to be. But who is to say that what you think you want is going to be the right fit for you? I thought I wanted a muscular, tattooed, shaven-headed, beefcake (read: Vin Diesel) - I tried a quite a few out and it wasn’t perfect, and I ended up with a toned, longish blonde-haired, clean-cut, surfer dude (read: Laird Hamilton....but younger, thankfully)....and 8+ years down the road it’s still going well.
Google is good...but too much Googling can cause blindness....wait....what....did I miss the point!?
#thatisall
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Thursday
Sep082011
Fun with #OkCupid: Guys respond to 103 dates in 9 months
SOOOO, I have on my OKC profile the thesis I wrote about going out on 103 dates. It's pretty rad, and most dudes are kosher with it ... I get onesies and twosies however with just like straight up hate. Even Nick from season 1 of NBC's Apprentice asked once if I was in therapy.
I understand 103 dates might have been a bit excessive, but it was honestly accidental. Like I've said before, I didn't actually count them until I hit month 8 and then realized I could package my dates and write out a thesis. I'm not normal - like I cannot stress that enough. I just now let the freak flag fully fly and just kinda roll with everything. Bom chicka wow wow ...
THAAATTTT being said, I've gotten a lot of emails in the last 24 hours that I wanted to share with dudes perspectives on the social experiment.
I present to you all the unfiltered emails. Hit it!
I actually get this all the time. Dudes say - SOOOOOO tell me something you've NEVER told someone on your site. Dude, I'm a lifecaster - I wouldn't be doing my job if there was something I haven't told people on the site. It's sweet, I get where they are all coming from ... but no.
Pathological? No. I'm actually not crazy - the doctors said so! Just super super super smart.
It is true!! The OKC algorithm is AMAAZZZINNNNGGG at matching you on a friend basis. But to understand the root of attraction is to understand one's self, and the true meaning of life's reflectiveness.
Hmmmmm .... k, moving on!
I also get that all the time ... I'm so glad I wasn't one of the 103 blah blah blah. Dudes, have you read what I wrote about dudes? I don't name names, I just say what my honest experiences are. That's it!!
AHHHH boo. No more Boston dating for me. I'm under deadline to submit season 2 for the TV show I'm in town for ... ANNNNDDDDD on Saturday I'm hoping to get to see the World Civ crush again and maybe ... uh, seal the deal!
Who knows ... I'm not sure how to have game around someone that remembers you being so awkward, but whatevs. I have to own it. AHHHH!!! I really really really want to have sex with him. Like for reals - I was such a fucking puppy dog the other night - PPPAAATTHHHEEEETTTIIIICCCCC!!!
Moving on ... and back to editing.
#peaceouthomeslices
Are you on OKCupid? Me too!! Click here to message me
Thursday
Sep082011
#NotUrLoverGirl: Kanye in the Time of Heartbreak
#TalkNerdyToMeLover's @Shinarae
<editorsnote> Shina Rae is a newbie nerdy artist who recently moved from our great big city of Los Angeles to Chiiii-cago. She has agreed to come on board and document her search for love. True story ... Cause like this is all happening ... like now. Like right right now ... Hit it Shina! </editorsnote>
I'm Back On My Kanye Chase.....
(it's a metaphor)
Sooooo I've been in hiding. My heart is trying to heal from this unrequited love I've been under the spell of for so long. Sometimes I think it is healing, other times, not so much. But I just had a moment here where I thought about what he's done to me, and how he's probably done it to other women, and how they must feel about him, about themselves and about future love.
Well this is how I feel; it's kind of an open letter....
To all of you guys (& girls who do it too) who date someone continuously without any thought of commitment, who keep a situation 'open', 'free' or 'unestablished' b/c you don't have the balls (read: courage) to shit or got off the pot, who know they're not really gonna pull the trigger but selfishly string someone along because it keeps you satiated or (worse) just from feeling lonely sometimes, who keep someone around simply as a backup.... unless you've CLEARLY stated this to your partner and they ACKNOWLEDGE and AGREE with your feelings then, YOU sir (ma'am) are a ...
I mean it's just plain douchbaggery to treat anyone like this. Is this how you would treat your mother, sister or grandmother??
You are one of the reasons why there are so many fucked up, dysfunctional relationships out there; like the one's your parents likely had- so maybe you learned it from them, or possibly from one of their absence? You facilitate desperation, deception, dissolution & often unknowingly diseases and you're not only hurting others, which is despicable, but you're hurting yourselves and future generations.
So if you can't see it, Ima tell you now, you could prolly use some therapy. But here's some Kanye in the meantime....
And my ladies (and for that matter men) who've had someone do this to you, keep your heads up, know it was their insecurities that made them act this way and don't let it make you less secure in yourself and above all, don't let it change you into someone soooo ...
Do what you gotta do, know you deserve not only better but the best, and if you gotta, just ...
