#NowPlaying: P!nk - Try

AHHH!! The post on my new tattoo has taken me almost all day to write. It's crazy deep, and apparently getting on the longer side. 

I signed up for an evening spin class this morning, and I get penalized if I don't show up ... so I gotta jet for right now. 

BUUUUUTTTT here is the video if you haven't seen it yet ... 

and here's the song I have been listening to literally all day while writing it. 

ARGH!!! So. freaking. beautiful. 

Thanks for watching and thanks for all the kind messages and emails everyone. Can't WAIT for this to go live. It already feels like SUCH a relief getting it off my chest. 

Brb! 

Oh yeah and ... 

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#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (how do I start a blog?)

It is my goal for 2013 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy peeps out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life. 

Here is a question I got on Facebook the other day ... 

First off, thanks for reading and thanks for reaching out. 

Wow, that's definitely a unique online dating experience, but I'd take it as a blessing. 

I facebook stalked you after getting your message, and you are unique and you have this AWESOMELY quirky yet classic beauty look about you. 

I like to think of these people that come into our lives as "little blessings." You obvi weren't meant to date this guy, but he was "on your path" to wake you up. He spoke your truth in a VERY blunt manner. It shook you, you became offended, but that was just coming from a place of ego. 

"Who is this guy to tell me this, and I'm not a client of his. blah blah blah" 

Your ego in that sentence is saying, how dare this person say exactly what I've been feeling and point out this flaw to me on a date. I didn't sign up for this!! Go to hell!!! 

His timing and delivery was less than stellar but what an INCREDIBLE blessing to come your way. This is obviously something you were interested in, and he woke you up to that fact!! 

Everything is going digital. Period end of sentence. 

The quicker you realize this and start building out your online presence the better it is in general. What's the first thing employers/ dates/ whatever do now when they want to find out about you? They don't ask around, they go to their computer and google (or Facebook stalk you). This is just a period end of sentence of this new world we are walking into. 

As far as starting a blog is concerned it takes an ENORMOUS amount of work if you want it to become a business. 

I'm not even kidding you when I say that, if I personally knew what I was getting into there was NO WAY I would have spent the last 3 years living the way that I have. I had no idea it was going to be this massive rabbit hole that I'm still exploring and playing in, but I am grateful. 

I would suggest though starting some sort of blogging even to just get your voice out there. It's again, a great way for employers to see how serious you are about any given topic and how knowledgeable you are on it. 

I'd suggest starting with a tumblr account. You can buy a personalized domain for $10 and redirect the URL directly to a free account on tumblr. 

Pick a template that suits your personality and suits what you are going to be talking about, and you're good to go! 

If you're super serious about becoming a writer or getting your stuff out there more, I'd reach out to some sites and ask if you can guest post. (We LOVE that here on TNTML, btw. Email: JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover d c) 

That's a great way to work with the grain and tap into an already established audience. Ask them to link back to your blog, and to your twitter account (which you should create if you don't have one already). 

Don't focus so much at first on "community management/ development" focus on you, and focus on developing your voice. The rest will naturally unfold. 

So, here are my final questions. Who are you? What do you have to say? 

Thanks for reading!! Keep me posted on your progress xoxo

Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com

ORRRRR you can message me on Facebook and if it's within 140 characters on the twitter!

Best of luck out there nerds!!

xoxo <3 @JenFriel

Weird Al Says: #WTF?!

There is an English word to describe that slight feeling of joy you get from the misfortune of other people - It’s “epicaricacy.”

This has been a moment of ... WTF?! 

#NerdsUnite: Tips on lasting "longer"

<editorsnote> Nerds, meet my buddy Fabio. Yes. Real name. We're friends in the digispace and he owns and blogs at the fantastically awesome site LetsTalkSex.net. He's here today to share one of his latest and greatest tips on sex, and I only have one more thing left ot say ... HIT IT FABIO!! </editorsnote>

#TalkNerdyToMeLover's Fabio Black

Even your grandma knows you can switch positions in order to last longer. That's a kind of "physical" last minute trick. It involves you flipping her around or flipping yourself around or flipping both of you around like two figure skaters...

Not everyone is that athletic though. Did you try switching positions but got stuck with her ankle in your mouth and your head in the dishwasher? If you aren't really into "moving stuff" remember to always keep your mobile phone next to you when trying these techniques and the fire brigade's number on speed dial (just in case).

For those of you who want a more "sedentary" quick fix here is one for tonight:

Lube.

This is a bit crazy and you don't want to do it every-single-time otherwise your sheets will become so oily that you'll be needing underwear made of sandpaper.

While for many men, the word lube is still tabu, like anal or dildos, most women love the feeling of lube because it allows them to have sex for longer without getting physically tired. It's also true that a lot of lube is a bit... annoying.

So you need to know that what you're doing is a bit sneaky and if you're recording an amateur video (to upload on a porn website) make sure that you put the lube on your hoe "behind the camera", otherwise everyone is gonna see that you only last long because her flower is so slippery that you basically feel no friction on your magic wand.

So, since what you are doing is a bit sneaky, get ready to handle objections!

You basically have two options:

1) The Super Sneaky Plan

You penetrate her from behind first (so she can't see how much lube you're putting on) or you do it facing her but in a way she can't see (like pouring the lube on your hand first and from there onto your pipe).... And hope for the best...

If she feels something isn't quite right and tells you:

Eve: "Hey, that's a lot of lube"
Adam: "Wow, yeah, it came out all together, anyways..." (and distract her talking about how much you like her body...)

2) The Basic Sneaky Plan

You do "the mess" in front of her. You pour the lube on your tea spoon right in front of her eyes and you put a lot of it on pretending you can't control the amount that's coming out...

Adam: "Oh! That's a lot of lube"
Eve: "Yeah, no worries... come here sexy..."

Choose the sneakiness level that better suits your personality.

Hey! Wait a minute! In case you're thinking:
"Oh YES! I just found the secret tactic of my life" and are ready to go out and buy 70 liters of lube this afternoon.... STOP!

Read on!

Using truck loads of lube is not gonna make any miracles, you're not going to become enlightened, a prophet or not even a porn actor. And of course it's not that "the more you put on the more you last"... It doesn't work that way.

When using a lot of lube, you'll notice that your pen will slip into her pocket very smoothly, there will be less stimulation on your end and you'll last longer. A few minutes longer. Not hours longer.

Anyways, let's say you don't like lube, you ran out of it or you are having an unexpected affair and are caught empty handed... What do you do?

A) Use some butter

B) Use some motorbike oil

C) Stimulate her cherry with some fingering techniques and create loads of natural lubrication

A, B or C?

If you chose A or B:
You are a very romantic person, that's for sure, Taurus and Aries are aligned for you but sexy Venus thinks you have no idea what you're talking about and is very quickly moving away from you...

If you chose C:
You are a bit wilder, and you know that you have a secret power in your magic fingers... The moon will protect you.

See you at the lube store.

#thatisall

Fabio Black writes about sex, sex and sex. But not necessarily in that order. Read more about him here.

#NerdsUnite: Ask That Nerdy Chick (he's just not that into me, now what?

It is my goal for 2013 to take a lot of my weird and wonky experiences as a lifecaster and help nerdy peeps out by providing a frank (not shirley) and honest answer to some weird and potentially random questions you may have about life. 

Here is a question I got on Facebook this morning ... 

Alrite, want some tough love? What the eff are you doing with this guy? You're giving him all the power in this dynamic and he is making you optional nerd on hold because you're allowing it. With friends like this guy who needs enemies? 

What are you doing to feed your dating pipeline? You are clearly fixating on this individual because you have this preexisting bond and connection, but have you taken other dates? Has he seen how desirable and much men want you? One guy isn't enough. 

If your friend was into you he would have made a move. Period end of sentence. 

Also, a 34 year old besties with a 21 year old? The emotional maturity between the ages is quite great so that in and of itself makes me scratch my head. I couldn't date a 34 year old when I was 21, unless all he wanted to do was party and talk about boys. (Which would be weird but this is LA and anything is possible.) 

Word of advice: Right now, create a profile on an online dating site. DateMySchool and OkCupid are free and good ones, but whatever makes more sense for you, just go for it. You need to get yourself out there and stop allowing friendships like this that do more to hurt your self esteem than help it. 

Thanks for reading hope this helps!! xoxo

Got a question? Drop me an email! JenFriel at TalkNerdyToMeLover dot com

ORRRRR you can message me on Facebook and if it's within 140 characters on the twitter!

Best of luck out there nerds!!

xoxo <3 @JenFriel