Fun with #OkCupid: 3 different emails ... 3 different responses

First up, if you haven't read my OKC profile - you can check it out over yonder. Might make some sense to the things guys reply to, haha. But for reals, these are all actual emails I've received recently, and my actual responses back to them. It is through this transparent experience that I hope you all can take away some knowledge on what works and what doesn't in the hopes of making your online dating experiences that much more fanschmastically awesome. YAYYYY ONLINE DATING YAYYY!!! K ... cool ... here we go ...

I get asked all of the time about my motivation for going out on over 103 dates in 9 months. The first thing you have to understand is that it was ALL accidental - and documented in real time. I went out on 96 dates in 8 months, and while I was dogsitting for a friend watching the Bachelor decided to write a reflection piece on my dating experiences thus far. It was from that, I stared at the numbers realizing I had something here ... something big. I then decided to package it stopping at 103 for branding and marketing purposes. If I had sought out to go out on that many dates from day one I would have either a) burned out or b) lost interest. I was couch surfing at the time, so I was already committed to running this site morning, noon, and night at that point - and this was how I had a social life. I never let guys buy me dinner (too time consuming) but I indicated in my profile that if they bought me a beer, I'd give them a hug. I was TOTALLY transparent through the entire thing even noting that anything the guys said to me may end up on the site.

My role for 2012 is ABSOLUTELY going to transition, as I have learned through working with a dating coach and a shaman that I have personal blocks that I've had to get through ... but I'm putting in the work and getting shit done ... that's all I can really do.

I know now what I like, and what I don't like. I don't get boy crazy very often, I'm just doing my thing and if a guy can keep up - great! If not, coolio Julio, it's all a numbers game. 

This isn't a joke, it's my life - and I am very committed to living the SHIT out of it every.single.day.

Actual Response: rad! thanks so much! i actually had a really great date with a guy who i am only 75% with last week - so its making me rethink a lot of things. i did the 103 because i was couch surfing. i got a lot of attention for that and for my life in general, so i had to reel it back a bit. i now am shifting the business to act as an adviser and help dudes out with online dating understanding what works and what doesn't. im just along on the journey! and afterall, isnt that the destination!! =)

be well!!! xoxoxo

Emails like this will never, ever work. I can't begin to tell you how many, "hi, hello, or hiya" emails I get on a daily basis. Take two seconds to actually read my profile, pick out ONE detail, ask me to elaborate - and BOOM! I'll respond. This is pooey, and no one likes poo.

Actual response: None

Note to nerds, when emailing a chica on OKC, make sure you SPELL HER FREAKING NAME RIGHT!!!

It's Jen, one N, no A.

Actual response: None

There ya go nerderinos. Best of luck out there!!!

#love

Fun with #OkCupid: It's lifecasting, not journalism

How does lifecasting work with my friends? Well first off, I never name names. I just describe my experiences. Lifecasting is very very very very VERY different than journalism. Lifecasters are more interested in conveying a feeling or emotion for the purpose of sharing, where journalists are a horse of a different color with this hunger for news, knowledge, and being the first. I say that of course in the most loving way possible - but lifecasters are INCREDIBLY different. I have never, and could never exploit or do any sort of "tell alls" on my friends. Just not my thing. I give nicknames if there is a whole story line attached, or for the most part just say "my friend the ..." 

Yeah, guys have definitely been offended by things I have written - but I can't help that part. If you're in my life, chances are really good you're going to be part of a post. This is my life through my eyes, through my frame of mind. That's all. It provides freedom for me being able to post so many weird and random thoughts that pop in my head - and for the readers, it can help them to not feel alone. There is no such thing as an isolated thought, we are all one and all constantly working in unison whether we are conscious of that fact or not.

#thatisall

Thanks for the message duderino. And oh yeah, live in LA and wanna date? Shoot me a message on OKC!

Fun with #OkCupid: First date at a police station

Oh my oh my oh my .... looky looky the email I just got on OKC ... 

Are you kidding me?? THEY HAVE FREE COFFEE AT THE POLICE STATION?!?! Done and done!!! Epic find! 

hahah this guys profile absolutely cracks me up. Here's his self summary: 

BWAHAHAHAHAHA!! Omg high-larious. He's actually pretty cute. Lots of pics with random celebs which is a definite red flag in my eyes - but we'll see! I will DEFINITELY take him up on free coffee at the police station since I'm sure they have those non dairy creamers to go along with it. 

#SCORE! 

Wanna date me? Click here to send me a message on OKCupid!

Fun with #OkCupid: Are you FOR REAL??!?!?!

Wow ... earlier tonight I got an IM on OKC saying, "hey wanna see a pic of my face."

Upon looking at this dude's avatar - didn't even need to click on the damn thing  ... I flat out said no, and thought nothing more about it.

Then I started a one person dance party rockin out to "Dancing with Myself" by Billy Idol, in the living room (not kidding either, it was awesome!! i will take exercise in any form I can get it!) - came back to the computer and saw this ...

No long term match? Dude - you didn't even fill out the personality profile. What?!?!

you could do ME in two hours? Oh hell no. let me rephrase OH HELL TO THE FUCK NO. I would never let you near any of my awesome lady bit.

What is this craigslist?? Way to take a totally kosher medium and get all creeper about it. Oh yes, I've never seen abs before ... oh baby, that's making me so juicy. ugh so tragic to think that this has quite possibly worked on a female prior. No game sir, no game. I weep ... I weep.

Get over it, man. Life's too short. Go, have fun ... live a little - and keep it real.

PS. only sunday through thursday? are you reserved on the weekends?? i feel like there's a story there ... that might be the only thing you have goin for ya there dude. might as well milk it.

Fun with #OkCupid: My First Fake!!!

I just got messaged from a guy on OKC, and our match rates were set at all 0%. I then clicked on his profile, barely anything ... clicked on his pics - 1 picture. ONE PICTURE!!! Who puts up ONE picture!!!!!?!! 

Dude, do yourself a favor ... if you're going to stalk someone, fill out the online personality quiz to what you think the other person would answer that way they're matched high. Translation: I would be more likely to talk to you and converse. Also, put up more than a single picture. For reals ... if you're going to be a fake, at least be a good one. Let it take some digital sleuthing on my part at least before I figure you out.

What a N00b!!!

#MamaNoLike