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Jan172011

Fun with #OkCupid: Yep ... I just had a date that had no idea I was a lifecaster

Monday, January 17, 2011 at 11:07PM |

He goes, so am I material or a date? I said both! I am hoping for a lover, (I am a horny horny horny bitch that needs to get laid), but either way - I end up with content. Total win win for me! He sulked and took a sip of his drink.

It was INCREDIBLE watching his body language change at that point. I was incredibly conscious in sitting with open arms, and semi open legs for a chick in a skirt, that were pointed towards him as to indicate interest as I genuinely was. Incredibly attractive guy.

This guy was so so so cool, but just so sad. I felt that when I shook his hand. Literally - it was THAT intense that I picked up ... oh la la no me gusta. Again though, every interaction and every experience is something that I could learn from in life ... so I sat there, and listened ... and bless his heart, but this guy was just so sad. He opened up later as to reasons why and what not ... but yeah man, first impressions on energy = damn near 100% accurate!!

He told me about his family, and his upbringing which created his current state in consciousness ... totally resonated with him, if it was a year and 3 months prior. I felt that he was just so desperate for this creative outlet. He's a musician, and definitely a creative being through and through ... but working this 9-5 that he doesn't really like, only does to pay the bills. I asked him, what were bills? When I stopped paying mine, I didn't cease to exist - I just outran all of the creditors. I lead a very very very very very simple life. IMHO happiness is from within, and when you feel it ... you FEEEEEEEELLLLLL it, and nothing else really matters. When you find what you love to do in life, money follows. We talked about a bunch of spiritual stuff, and my beliefs in social media creating accountability for thoughts, positive or negative ... and yada yada. Bottom line, we put out SOOOOOOOO much more than we ever realize. Watching this dude try and hide it all from me was alarming. I just wanted to give him a big big big hug. Literally, a hug. And next time, I think I just might if I ever feel the impulse again. This dude just felt so sad, and he never even had to say a word to me.

Great great great guy, I really mean that ... but very different stages in life. If he didn't read this website beforehand, I guarantee you he is now ... so *waves* hi date! Really appreciated you and your time ... and will foh reals check out your next gig ... but its content babe. No love. Lo siento mucho.

#Nerds Do Not Unite

Wanna date me? Click here to read my profile on OkCupid ... warning, I come with a disclaimer.

PS. You know its a weird night when you come home with UBS on your hands ...

Unidentified. Blue. Shit.

Seriously ... where did this come from??? Did I accidentally mug a 1st grader? Weird ...

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Sunday

Jan092011

They're Talking Nerdy Baby: #NerdsUnite

Sunday, January 9, 2011 at 5:30PM |

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What was that soft pillow? I had no more to fall back on than anyone else in this world, that's for sure.

But first off, thanks for reaching out. Really appreciate it ...

Coming from an affluent background had a LOT to do with what influenced my decision to do what I did, but maybe not the way you think. My parents have money, yes, but that wasn't what it was about. Frankly, if you were to ask them, they'd deny up, down, left, and right, that they even had it. I was told as a child that if anyone were to ask us about money, we were to say that we were "comfortable." My dad is a lawyer, and my mom is a writer - but they worked INCREDIBLY hard for all that they have. I won't shovel up the family drama, as that is their story to tell and not mine, and all lifecasting is done in first hand ... but the people my dad grew up with had beaucoup de dollars, and they were just some of the nastiest people on this planet. For reals, I am neither here nor there on them now ... but they did some really rad psychological warfare on my mother and I that still causes arguments.

When I was around 13, there was something that was done regarding money that literally caused an immediate estrangement. No joke, they even stood me up for my 13th birthday party. Like immediate - never talking to you again. The cause of it is irrelevant, the fact of the matter was that they were just all after the money. In my brain, I started to equate money with nothing but stress, heartache, and problems. People talk about wanting to have it, and amass this fortune to just be happy for once in their life, and I saw very first hand at a very young age - that all it did was lead to more problems. Happiness came from within. I was determined in the last year to do some incredible soul searching to find out what made me happy. I knew it wasn't from money.

I had no more of a soft pillow than anyone else in this world. I've said very publicly over and over that my parents and I have had a rough year and some change because of this site and my decisions over it. We literally stopped speaking for a bit. I constantly held them in a place of unconditional love and knew that one day, coming from such a loving place, all wounds could be healed. Although they said a handful of times that I could have gone back home, I knew I wasn't going to; I'm stubborn like that. Stubbornness of course lies as a defense mechanism for the ego, but I didn't see that at the time. Plus, failure or success is a personal thing. I was literally sleeping in my car - and I never once felt like a failure. It was a corporate sponsored car, in corporate sponsored pajamas, eating corporate sponsored food, drinking corporate sponsored water. I knew I was doing something right in bartering; I just didn't know what to fully make of it all.

Happiness to me as a child was feeding my family of ducks. Loved them!I just choose to stay very present, as that is where my sanity lies since technically speaking, I still haven't paid rent - and am still homeless, just not without a home. Right now, I am currently staying in an apartment in Hollywood because of my involvement with the pilot they are making from this site ... but other than that, I have no idea what is next, nor do I even care. It took a shift in consciousness to appreciate the littlest things in this world. People ask me all the time, how is it that your mind can be this blown every day - and I'm like, DUDE! did you SEE the sunrise? Or how fucking AMAZING the shade of blue the sky is today?? It's a total trip, and I don't have a way to describe it to you unless you've experienced it.

My final decision to become homeless came with the fact that I knew I had enough corporate sponsored items to sustain a very simple existence I found happiness in. I love love love traveling, and have no problem being so nomadic ... I just wanted to keep lifecasting and build up enough movement associated with this website to allow me to do it for a really long time.

I feel your pain in debt - as I have that as well. Debt is a scary thing. I used to have a perfect credit score, now I think it's somewhere in the negatives. However, I don't let that define me, like I used to. I remember crying once to the Comcast lady because the bill was 3 days late. Literally ... crying. I put my own value in my credit score. Sad.

I made the decision that if I was going to go for it ... I was really really REALLY going to go for it, and that is where I am today. I hit this total road block in life of fuck it. If today was my last day, I was going to be really proud that I accomplished something for the first time in my life, just for me. It's go big, or go home. Hopefully, one day I'll have a home of my own to go to.

Thanks for reaching out ... if you wanna talk offline about it my email is: JenFriel@talknerdytomelover.com

All my love and all my heart. xoxo #nerdsunite

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Monday

Jan032011

They're Talking Nerdy Baby: #NerdsUnite

Monday, January 3, 2011 at 10:19AM |

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Holy crap, woke up to a lot of emails this morning ... thanks guys. Alrite, here's a good one ...

Hey dude, first off - thanks for reaching out, and checking us out. Really really really appreciate it.

Secondly, I am going to be absurdly honest ... I am figuring all of this out. If on some days it doesn't make sense, rock on - I'm throwing so much shit against the wall to see what sticks its not even funny. Right now I am in a position where I have nothing to lose. I am milking that to build a pretty solid foundation. The movement isn't about being a product puppet, or even fully sustaining bartering - it was about recognizing my awesomeness. Anyone online can talk about products, and fuck, if they're a good sales person prolly sell a few ... thats not what this was about. My first job was just to launch this site, and brand. That lead me to having to go to some extreme lengths to survive (as anyone else in this space understands) ... so I've had to barter. I am a lifecaster. Period end of sentence. Right now, I am a ghetto ass hustler working in this space round the clock and sleeping in some really gnarly places, and coming up with some VERY clever ideas to get food. It is that simple. I don't receive income from Spirithoods - or any ads on the site. Those are people that support the movement. I came from money, and had a shit ton of it for a while. It bored me. Anyone can get money, but not anyone can have a truly epic adventure. I wanted to see how far I could get utilizing social media. Throwing myself at the world everyday enabled me to have the most INCREDIBLE experiences, and be able to relate to so so so many people in the most intimate of ways. Wouldn't change it for the world .... but I literally forced myself into it - none of it was natural. Also, do you know how insane it sounds to people who want to hire me and my first sentence is, you can't - I can't be bought. I haven't set a market price for anything, because I very honestly just wanted to see how good I was at doing it. Going about that route though, got me a meeting with every CEO that I wanted to. It was incredible, completely resonated with some really really really respectable people.

I don't seem like a real nerd? What does a nerd look like? IMHO nerds are like colors ... there are so many different layers, shades and complexities that the naked eye could never comprehend. Just gotta let it be, man.

I'm not really a spokesperson in the Dove soap ad kinda way; I've just always been this person. I get ABSURDLY passionate about products, or experiences and completely geek out to my friends saying OMG OMG OMG YOU HAVE TO TRY THIS!! I will then in my head break down all of the executable actions in order to get it done ... and then I just do. Super fucking nerdy. Been this way for 26 years. It's always been about the ride for me, and explaining what I am experiencing to as many people as possible so they can hopefully experience something similar.

I will tell you this, I am FASCINCATED by the fact that one person can be so WILDLY honest with the world, and even just by promoting the hustle you are doing anyway - someone, somewhere, is able to help, and then they TOO become a part of your story. Its WILLDDDD how fast things get done. The channels of communication are just WIDE OPEN. Blows my mind. Blows my mind. Blows my mind. That is what this has honestly been all about ... just the people. I really really really read every email, tweet, and facebook message. It takes a lot of time, but you all pour your lives out to me - it just continues to blow my mind how grateful I am for this experience as a whole.

I also recognize at the same time I am in a really really really super awesome position to not really have to monetize. I'm sure yes, eventually, I will want to, but I get free hosting thanks to Squarespace, and I run everything myself. We are a VERY lean operation. Literally ... one person. I do all the SEO, social media marketing, I created this site, did 3 redesigns, 2 domain transfers - its absurd, and I loved it. I built this brand with my bare hands, and I am so fucking proud of it, I get SO excited every day to be alive just so I can watch what I built grow. I don't pay the content providers, they are just happy to be a part of TNTML as a whole. That being said for it to be a sustainable entity I am aware that 2011 is going to have to be very different. I can't keep living like this. I just had to first figure out what worked, and what didn't work. I dunno ... shoot some ideas at me. I'm always game. But right now, I'm just waiting to see whats going on with this pilot. The Hollywood god gets back next week, and we pretty much go from there. I'm pretty excited. Who says I have to monetize this site? What is money? It's paper ... well technically speaking its a fiber ... all I have are people behind us that believe in what we're doing, and what we're about ... and that is celebrating our own awesomeness. I'm just going to go with that, and know that it feels really really really good.

And thank you btw, dude I'm not even kidding you ... the story, the concept, the marketing ... omg omg omg OMFFGGGGGG I am so proud of this pilot its not even funny. It is NOT NOT NOT NOT NOT going to be "Shit my dad says." Dude, all they did was take Willy Shatner and have him recite a twitter feed. I don't like that show, at all.

I have seen "We Live in Public" - and dude, that we are NOT!! I am just a lifecaster - I am telling a story of all these crazy little adventures I get into everyday. That's it. What that dude did with that community and such was just weird. There's no special water, I just really fucking LOVE what I do.

So there ya go! I really have no idea what I am doing because I can't see the entire picture just yet. I know its going to tell one amaaaazzinngggggggg story, but I'm still writing it ... the rad thing that I enjoy though is that everyday I can give you all a sneek peak of whats going on. It's like constantly looking over someone's shoulder. I don't need a job, and right now, I don't even need money; I have social media. I take products to help sustain the existence of it all - dude, spirithoods keep you INSANELY warm!! ... and I just kinda go with it all.

And #nerdsunite?? That's our official hashtag - and I'm a connector. I get really really really excited introducing cool people to cool people under the premise of them just being cool. I love meeting new nerds, and connecting them with other nerds that I know around the world - its my thing, I own it. I literally just hang out with people all day everyday and listen to their stories. Its incredible, and my favorite hashtag evveerrr!! =) =) =)

For real though, thank you for reaching out. I really don't know whats going to be the next step - I just know I have lawyers, and I'm wicked smart ... so whatever is presented to me, I'll just figure out how to manage and move about with my day. I just make myself as accessible to the world as possible, and leave the rest up to like minded individuals finding each other. Running the business of it all could not phase me less. I find it terribly boring, but its what I have to do. I have no doubt in this year I'll just hire someone to take all of that rubbish off my plate, someone who is clearly way more qualified for said business running than myself - I'm just an artist. My job is to show up for life and live it to the fullest every. single. day.

And today? I am moving! YAYY!!! =) Best part about being a minimalist, its really not that bad.

Cheers!!